r/HotwifeAdvice

Hello, my 24f boyfriend 26m decided to go through my phone and went through my photo app. We’ve been together 6 months and I have never had a partner go through my photos and I still had a few videos of me and my previous partners having sex or of me giving head. I know I shouldn’t have them but I honestly forget they are there since no one has ever asked me about it. While going through my phone he asked if I had any previous videos of my sexual encounters and intentionally tried to find them to watch them. He even saw a picture of me with another man’s thumb in my mouth and said he liked that. So far this has not affected our relationship at all and he is not mad at me in the slightest. I’m just very confused by his behavior I’ve never had a partner react positively to seeing me with another man. Does anyone know what this could mean?

hi i would like to ask all of you ladies, how you deal with a gult after you fuck someone in your house and knowing your kids are in next bedroom, sometimes i feel sad about that,now my kids are getting older, so its hard? Im planning to go solo and my hubby to stay with kids? Where do you let your kids, where when do you play, please i need to talk to someone

Hey everyone, long-time lurker in the hotwife community, first-time poster. My girlfriend (26F) and I (28M) have been together for a few years and we've been dipping our toes into the hotwife lifestyle through fantasies and dirty talk. This is all super new for us—no actual experiences yet—but she's finally opened up after some gentle convincing that she feels most comfortable exploring this with my close friends rather than strangers. It's a huge turn-on for both of us, and I want to make sure we handle it right.

Quick rundown:

Friend 1: She's a bit less physically attracted to him (he's not the hottest guy), but she knows he's an absolute beast in bed—fucks like a total minx, super skilled and attentive. Plus, he's rock-solid trustworthy; we've been buds forever. He's straight-up told me multiple times he'd love to fuck her if we ever went there, so no awkwardness on his end.

Friend 2: She's really into him physically—thinks he's hot as hell. But he lives about 2 hours away, so logistics are trickier. He's mentioned finding her cute and flirty in group hangs, but nothing explicit about wanting to bang her. I think there's potential, but I'd need to gauge his interest without making it weird.

We're both excited but nervous since this would be her first time with anyone else. How do we even approach this? Do I talk to the friends first one-on-one, or bring it up casually in a group setting? For Friend 1, since he's already vocal about it, maybe start there? For Friend 2, how do I test the waters without ruining the friendship if he's not down?

Logistics-wise: Setting boundaries (like condoms only, no overnights at first), safe words, aftercare for her and me? Any tips on making it hot and smooth—maybe starting with a party or trip to make it natural? Advice from other hotwife couples who've done this with friends would be gold. Guys and girls, what's worked (or bombed) for you? How did you communicate everything without jealousy creeping in?

Hey everyone! 44m here and wife is 36. It has been a long process as we been married over 15 years and through the years, slowly but steadily my shy and orthodox wife has opened up to a level where we are at now. Therefore, i don’t want to mess it up in anyway and would love advice from experienced folks here.

We started playing a year or two back with just role playing of us meeting each other in a bar or motel as strangers. Through the course of time, now my wife every time we have sex brings up this fantasy of she waiting at bar in a hot revealing dress ( she is 38dd with stunning tits and ass ) and a hot tall guy approaching her and flirting. Now past 6 months, she has been stepping up the fantasy with scenarios like the guy started flirting, rubbed her thighs, grabbed her tits, brought her to dance floor and kissed her neck and lips and she will actually kiss me deep to show how he did that and then will grind her ass on my dick to show how the guy would grind him on her ass while dancing. While i would be sitting across bar sipping whisky and just before he starts fingering her there or taking her to room, I come and take her away from him as she is too drunk to think or say no. Now while narrating this to me, she will either be fucking my brains out on bed completely dripping wet or lost rubbing her vibrator narrating this scenario. She also knows i enjoy this scenario and has told me that she loves how crazy we are about this fantasy.

So my question is now that this detailed fascination slowly but gradually becoming more detailed and her always orgasming to it, is this the signal that she is ready to try it out? What steps should we take? We have no experience what so ever in finding someone before hand or is it better to go there and test it out?

Thanks a bunch.

I recently created a profile on 3fun as a single male looking to join m/f couples for fun. The number of couple profiles saying to not even bother if you aren’t 8+ or 9+ inches is surprising. How many dudes are running around with a schmeat that size really? I’m above average but I don’t make the cut, apparently. Is this a common thing across many lifestyle apps and sites?

So we’ve had mixed feelings about my penis size. It’s either something they couple were talking to loves or doesn’t love. It’s never been a non issue. I know this seems like I’m complaining about having a well above average penis size but I’m not.

I’m simply just trying to maximize our opportunity of meeting couples. Would it be better to not ask for size queens specifically or couples who are seeking the guy portion to be well endowed? Or would it be an issue if we chat with a couple and after we swap pics they see my large dick? I just want to be upfront with everyone and not hide anything but at the same time posting for a specific demographic seems very pretentious and unnecessary.

My girlfriend (33) and I (35) have been together for 12 months. She's my first serious relationship in a while, and I'm her first serious one after a 6-year relationship that ended because her ex was texting other girls.

We've developed a strong hotwife fantasy dynamic during sex and phone sex. She gets giddy and visibly aroused whenever "big dick" or being stretched/filled comes up. She cums hard thinking about being fucked by a much bigger guy while I'm there. She loves being called a good girl and naughty little slut in the moment, but sometimes draws back from it to focus on me doing things to her.

She has told me she would be open to going to a club with me, dressing sexy, dancing and flirting with other men, letting them chat her up, buy her drinks, and even touch her while dancing — as long as I'm there watching. She knows it turns me on a lot and says she feels safer with me present. However, she mostly indulges in this talk when she's drunk or very horny.

About a month ago, while drunk and on the phone, she got extremely turned on and came very close to inviting a male coworker over to fuck her while I listened. The next day she felt anxious and guilty about it, saying she wouldn't have done it and that it scared her. She has brought up the fantasy while having sex since then though.

I really want her to feel comfortable enjoying the thrill of being desired and flirted with by other men in real life (starting light), and especially to embrace the idea of feeling a much bigger dick than mine inside her — not just doing it to please me.

How do couples ease into the real-life side of hotwife play safely? Any advice on helping her move from drunk fantasy talk to genuinely enjoying the thrill sober, while respecting her boundaries and keeping things consensual?

TL;DR:
GF gets very aroused by hotwife talk (especially big dick / being stretched), says she'd be open to flirting and dancing with men in a club while I watch because it turns me on and she feels safe. She mostly indulges when drunk. Had a near-miss with a coworker 10 days ago that made her anxious the next day. How do I gently encourage her to actually enjoy the fantasy and thrill of bigger dicks in real life without pressure?

Anyone in Clearwater florida ? I want to see my wife get gang banged. DM mw for pics

My wife and I do MFM roll play often. She has sent her ex nudes now and asked him to participate in the Hotwife fantasy. He wants to fuck her very badly. I want that to happen even more. The issue is I don’t want her to feel like a sex object or that she is pressured into fucking her ex. Her ex is comfortable bc she knows him, they do not get along in an emotional way, and she knows he makes her cum. At first it would be her fucking him and sending me videos. Then we would fuck her together. Any advice into how to bring this up to her again without making her seem like she’s being used?

I’ve shared my wife once and it was so hot. I want to do it again and so does she. Our issue right now is that we have children and our lives are very busy. More and more my wife finds it difficult to get in the mood when we are at home. She says she just can’t relax enough to get turned on. Has anybody experienced this? And maybe has advice? The only times we get to play with each other is if we take each other on a weekend vacation at a hotel with no kids. And this makes it difficult to share because it takes a lot of teasing and fantasizing to get her in the hotwifing mood and we have a limited amount of time at the hotel away from real life.

I’ve been reading and learning about different relationship dynamics lately, especially around cuckold/hotwife setups.

What I find interesting is that everyone seems to have a different reason for being drawn to it, some say it’s about trust, some about psychology, some just curiosity.

For those who are into it (or even just curious):
What actually pulled you into this dynamic for the first time?

No judgment, just genuinely interested in understanding different perspectives.

Married in the northeast and after a lot of conversation finally have my wife intrigued about the lifestyle. We are taking it slow and learning in the best way possible. We have played a little virtually and online and wondering what others have done to progress.

My wife really misses being with a bigger man and wants to take it slow but natural like when she was single. She doesn’t want to just met a bull and get fucked, why wants to be seduced if she’s going to do it. Any advise on others who have been here ?

My husband and I have been talking about opening things up for a while now, but I think we're actually getting closer to pulling the trigger. We're both pretty nervous but also really excited, especially since we're finally at an age where we feel confident about setting boundaries and knowing what we want. I guess I just needed to put this out there to see if anyone else has gone through something similar - what's something you wish you knew before taking the first step? My husband says he's all in but I don't want to rush into anything without making sure we're both on the same page.

If you had seen my last couple then you know about our hotwife Omegle antics to get my girlfriend more comfortable on the internet so now we’ve been doing a lot of exhibition on the Omegle site where I’ll tie her up give the guy options and he tells me what I do to her while he watches, it ranges from vibrators, butt plugs, whips, wax, dildos, and nipple clamps, the guy chooses what to do in what order and how long. Another thing is she will have me tied up and the guy can choose is she tortures me or not, it’s a lot of cbt via hot wax, whips, her nails, sounding rods, and we’ve been using a chastity cage a lot the guy will choose if I ca get out and how long or what she does while I’m in it like licking through the cage or fucking a dildo infront of me, she enjoys slapping and hitting my dick and balls and the guys like watching me suffer lol, and finally she’ll ask them if she should ruin my orgasm and every single time they have said yes, it hurts so much and feels great tbh, she’ll compare my cock a lot of the time too, and now on Reddit if a guy sends us dick pics she had me send one back to compare and she texts the guy and they both humiliate me, I feel like we’re very close to physically posting on Reddit and I am sure we ran into a guy who knew us from Reddit, that was amazing talked about how he’s been waiting for her, and she acted like I slut for him while I was locked in the cage, it was too the point where she was telling the guy that if he was there she would let him use her infront of me, this was completely unprompted by me she is just craving a large cock, very excited for end of the month when the real deal happens.

Please keep reaching out with any advice on progression and thing that’s we should know we love chatting with anyone willing to share some advice to a younger couple in the lifestyle.

we have been on a break from hotwifing for going on almost a year. for about 2 years before we enjoyed a 3rd about once or twice every couple months and wife enjoyed it. now she doesnt seem to want to get back into it which is disappointing bc I thought we both found it hot and fun but its ultimately her choice. I do enjoy being about to look back at old pics and vids we took!

Obviously consensually.

I’ve always had this hotpast kink with my wife. During sex I love asking her about her exes.. How she used to suck them, how she rode them like a total slut, what they said about her ass, stuff like that. She gets into it sometimes.

One ex in particular was her best match sexually. She’s super submissive and he was very dominant. All her wildest stories are with him: licking toes on the floor, getting drunk and fucked in an alley, sex in a swimming pool, even making him pull the condom off and creampie her because she was too turned on.

We have kids now, but I’ve teased her asking if that ex knows she’s a mom. She just said “he probably does if he checks my IG.”

That already got me going. Then a while back I saw a guy’s IG message pop up on her phone (didn’t read it, but she barely has any guy friends so it stuck in my head). Yesterday I couldn’t resist so I checked her followers and found the account. The guy’s pics and details match everything she told me about that ex. They’re clearly still in loose contact.

It’s turning me on like crazy. A few weeks ago we went to the beach and she wore this new one-piece swimsuit that’s honestly super slutty.. she even shy while wearing it. It’s sides cut way out, barely any fabric on the ass, super cheeky. Same vibe as that Bonnie Blue one from Miami (dm if you interested lol) I took pics, she posted them. Now I can’t stop picturing her ex seeing those photos and jerking off to her.

I’ve already started gently pushing her to buy more revealing swimsuits like that so I can take fresh pics for her IG. She likes that idea too.

Anyone been in a similar spot where an old flame is still lurking online? How do I encourage this without pushing too hard? Would love to hear how other husbands handled it when the ex is back in the picture (even if just watching).

Hey guys, so my husband and I have been talking about adding a third to our fun for a while now, and he’s finally on board - which is amazing because I know this was a big hurdle for him. The thing is, he’s still a little nervous about how it’ll actually play out. Like, will he feel left out? Is he worried I’ll like someone else more? We’re both totally cool with the idea in theory, but I guess real-life execution is what’s getting to him. Has anyone else’s partner dealt with similar nerves before? Any tips or experiences to share? I wanna make sure we both feel comfortable and ready to take this step together.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a really long time—we’re both in college, and we were each other’s first and only for so long. We lost our virginity to each other, and it was sweet... but honestly, things felt pretty vanilla. We took a break a while back, and during that time I finally got to explore and sleep with other guys. God, it was so fucking good. The excitement, the new bodies, the way they fucked me differently—harder, rougher, bigger sometimes. I came so many times telling him all the dirty details when we got back together, and I could tell it turned him on too, even if he tried to play it cool. Now that we’re official again, I can’t stop thinking about it. I want to start sleeping with other men again—regularly. Not just a one-time thing. I’ve been bringing it up a lot because it’s become this huge, constant fantasy of mine. The thought of going out, flirting, getting fucked by someone else while he waits for me… it makes me so wet. I love him, I really do, but I need that thrill. I need to feel desired by other guys and bring that energy back to our relationship.

He says he wants to fulfill this fantasy for me, but he’s nervous about how to start or what it would actually look like. I want to guide him through it because I really, really want this. Any advice on how we can make this happen? How do I encourage him to let me explore while making sure he feels loved and included in his own way?