Talking to my boyfriend about sleeping with other men
My boyfriend and I have been together for a really long time—we’re both in college, and we were each other’s first and only for so long. We lost our virginity to each other, and it was sweet... but honestly, things felt pretty vanilla. We took a break a while back, and during that time I finally got to explore and sleep with other guys. God, it was so fucking good. The excitement, the new bodies, the way they fucked me differently—harder, rougher, bigger sometimes. I came so many times telling him all the dirty details when we got back together, and I could tell it turned him on too, even if he tried to play it cool. Now that we’re official again, I can’t stop thinking about it. I want to start sleeping with other men again—regularly. Not just a one-time thing. I’ve been bringing it up a lot because it’s become this huge, constant fantasy of mine. The thought of going out, flirting, getting fucked by someone else while he waits for me… it makes me so wet. I love him, I really do, but I need that thrill. I need to feel desired by other guys and bring that energy back to our relationship. He says he wants to fulfill this fantasy for me, but he’s nervous about how to start or what it would actually look like. I want to guide him through it because I really, really want this. Any advice on how we can make this happen? How do I encourage him to let me explore while making sure he feels loved and included in his own way?