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My wife and I went to see a movie recently and a guy she had hooked up with in the past happened to be seated a few feet away. I had no idea who he was until she told me later, but thinking back there were definitely some glances exchanged. When she finally did tell me she thought I'd be mad. I'm feeling the opposite. The more I think about it the more I love the idea of her sitting right next to me, quietly remembering the times she had been with him and whoever else she used to fool around with back then.

This was a situation that further solidified that I think I'm interested in trying this lifestyle, but it feels like the gap between how we feel now and fully taking the leap is a huge obstacle. I want it to be a positive experience for both of us. Has anyone else taken specific steps to get themselves to the right mindset?

So after a year or so of talking, last night my wife said find her a bull. I really could use advice on how to find a bull. This will be her first time so I want to get it right.

Last week a gentleman reached out here on Reddit and asked if we were busy Saturday and that we looked like a fun couple. I was pretty busy and did not reply until Sunday. He replied we chatted had a good vibe so I started a group chat with the wife and him. They hit it off and we set up a date for later that day.

He arrived right on time to the hotel room. Tall, broad shoulders, and a shaved head. I shook his hand and he walked over to my wife and instantly started kissing. I assumed my place and watched as the action quickly escalated. He laid her on the bed and started kissing her, removing her clothes and went down on her. Her moans filled the room.

He then stood her up and lowered his underwear and his large 9 inch cock spring to life. My hot wife instantly took to. She had a big smile on her face as she slowly started sucking his cock. They moved to the bed and 69 for a while I had a front row seat. then he laid her down on the bed and entered her. They fucked for almost an hour. He fucked her in positions I had never even seen before he had amazing stamina.

He was not degrading towards me, but he was firm and definitely showed he was in charge while he was fucking her. He said turn the air on that was it then he asked water and I got him a bottle of water. He just ordered me firmly politely he said towel and I went and got him a towel so he could wipe his sweat off his brow. He told me to lay down on the bed and we did our first fuck lick ever. It was so hot his cock was going in and out of my wife’s pussy and I was right there to watch it all, and they switched positions and she started to ride him. She only rides her bulls. He came deep inside of her and I quickly moved in and devoured her pussy. Licking all her and her bulls cum from her pussy. The taste was amazing and she orgasmed while I cleaned her.

We can hardly wait to see him again!!!!

hi i would like to ask all of you ladies, how you deal with a gult after you fuck someone in your house and knowing your kids are in next bedroom, sometimes i feel sad about that,now my kids are getting older, so its hard? Im planning to go solo and my hubby to stay with kids? Where do you let your kids, where when do you play, please i need to talk to someone

My (27) gf (26) and I have now been dating just over a year.

I brought up hotwifing about 6 months into the relationship, and it came up pretty naturally by me just showing interest in her sexual past. She didn’t shut it down at all, but just said she’d rather save it for much later in life (like 10+ years), when things get a bit boring. We’re still kind of in that honeymoon phase, so I’m not in a super huge rush either I guess. She also said she wants to make sure it’s not just something I’ve picked up from porn.

Since then though it hasn’t really gone away. She jokes about it pretty regularly, or when I bring it up she’ll play into it. She teases me, reminds me of old guys she’s been with who were bigger. Even has made comments about how the bigger ones used to make her squirt, and reminds me that it’s something I’ve never been able to make her do. It’s said casually but there seems to definitely be some excitement behind it.

Our sex life now isn’t bad.. I can make her finish but only really from me going down on her or when she’s riding me with heavy clit stimulation. She makes comments a lot that I’m the best head she’s ever gotten, though she’s never made any comments like this about my dick or our penetrative sex. It’s fairly clear she’s had better dick before, which kind of feeds into it I think

I can’t tell if she’s slowly warming up to it earlier than she first mentioned, or just keeping it as a “maybe one day” thing while enjoying the dynamic now. I feel like it’s something I shouldn’t try to push at this stage.

Has anyone had something like this actually turn into something real over time?

Not sure if this is right place to post. Many wanted an update of how things went.

4/5/26 (11:30 pm)

PART 1 Meeting “Mistress H”

Everything seems surreal … omg, feel like I had an out of body experience . Recap of major events.

“H”texted that she was at the bar, got me a Margarita!!❤️ kissed hubby goodbye. Before I left, I asked if he was sure and he gave the go ahead!!

Met her at bar, she already got us a seat and drink. Omg, she was gorgeous and so much more pretty in real life!! Told me to relax and take lead. I have her a little more money for a surprise for Mark. He had been a wonderful husband and so loyal. He deserves a special treat.

When we got to the hotel room, she reminded me to take her lead. I enter the room first and “H” went into the bathroom to change. I approached Mark and sat him on suitcase cart. I secured both of his hands with handcuffs to the metal bars.

I started a bath as Mistress “H” came out of the bathroom. She was wearing a mask, bra, and Thong!! This was the moment … she got on her knees and unbuttoned hubby’s jeans. She grabbed his hard cock and stared sucking it.

I pushed down the jealousy and watched in with amazement!! She got him to almost cum twice I think.

When the bath was full we both got into the bathroom tub. I sat in front and she washed my back and gave a few love nibbles along my neck.

(4/6/26 at 11:12am)

After we got out of the tub, “H” put on her Dominatrix outfit with mask. It was intimidating!! I was supposed to address her as Mistress “H”, hubby was in awe.

She grabbed me by the back of my hair and lead me to the bed. I got on my back and she spread my legs open. I was thinking, here it goes!! She started by licking my feet and working up to my inner thigh. She would lick, bite, and suck hard. Then she went to the other leg.

She moved up to my stomach and licked up to my boobs. She grabbed my boobs and started sucking hard on my nipples, switching every 1-2 minutes or so. I was completely wet by this time. Mark was mesmerized. He did not speak. His cock was still rock hard.

Unlike with my bff, I didn’t feel an orgasm coming in. But it felt good, but rushed and aggressive. Bff was more sensual. This was just physical sucking. It did hurt a little.

I felt her fingers reach for my wet kitty and she inserted 2 or 3 fingers. I felt a little jolt of electricity. She stated sucking on my neck (hickey there now) and finger banging me. I looked at hubby and just smiled at me, cock still hard.

She removed her fingers and put them in my mouth, never had that happen. I tested myself, musky tangy smell and taste. I sucked her fingers clean.

She moved down to my kitty kissing every few inches or so. She grabbed and parted my legs, sucking and biting my inner thighs. Then I felt her tongue on my clit. Her licking was up and down. Felt like I was in another world. I looked at Mark and he was focused. Cock still hard.

As she was licking and felt fingers enter me. The combination of licking and finger banging lead to my first of several orgasms. Tbh, I lost count how many times she made me cum.

I was thinking, I crossed over to bisexual/lesbian land. Small conflict but I put the thoughts away. I let go and totally immersed myself in the experience.

I was moaning loud, loud and deep… different from how I usually cum. Lost count of time. I would periodically look at hubby and would try to jerkoff but could quite reach. I felt a little guilty.

I was in organic bliss!! ❤️at one point tears stared to firm. Only had that happen twice with hubby, early in our relationship.

Mistress “H” stopped and straddled my stomach. She removed her mask and looked at me while pointing to her shaved kitty. I nodded and gave consent!! She scooted up until her kitty was in my face.

I could smell and see her moist kitty. I hesitated more a brief moment and stuck my tongue in her vaginal entrance. I tasted an acidic sensation on my tongue. I started to lick up and down and found her clit. I was licking up and down really fast. Mistress “H” made hand motions to slow down. I couldn’t see Mark but I could see his legs moving.

Mistress “H” began to grind her kitty in circular motion around my face as I continued to lick up and down. She made some hand motions to speed up and I complied. I heard some grunts and she lifted herself off my face.

She got up and went to the bathroom. I’m not sure if I made her cum? I was exhausted, but I a new erotic state of mind I’ve never experienced before. hubby was looking at me, asking, “how I was baby?” “Are you enjoying yourself? “God you’re beautiful, this is fucking incredible!!”

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PART 2 Hotwife scenario

Mistress H came out if the bathroom in a full dominatrix outfit with mask. She motioned me to get on my knees in front of hubby. Her strap-on dildo (cock) was in front of my face.

She grabbed the back of my hair and placed the head of the cock in my mouth. I started to suck on it gagging a little. I looked at hubby and he was mesmerized. Tears began to well up in my eyes.

She pulled me up by the back of my hair and lead me to the bed. I was on my hands and knees and she turned me around to face Mark. I thought she was going to fuck me doggie, but she pushed on my back until I was flat on the bed.

She parted my legs and I could feel the head of the cock at my kitty entrance. She slid the thick 8” strap-on dildo into me. She was gentle at first, eased the big cock into my kitty!! Then just “railed” me to multiple orgasms!!

All of this in front of hubby, who was still handcuffed. I tried making eye contact, but couldn’t maintain it. I was getting fucked senseless and hitting lost in the moment.

I was grunting and moaning like an animal, couldn’t help myself. I think I squirted or got real wet!! The dildo/cock went deep in my kitty. The way it was curved downward was electric.

It was rubbing my spot the whole time. The searing stretch pain initially took my breath away. I would describe it as a “good” kind of hurt!!

I lost count after 3 orgasms of her pounding me. After my last orgasm, an intense emotional release occurred, I started crying.

H got up left for the bathroom. I looked up and gazed into Mark’s eyes. I felt guilty because I couldn’t maintain the eye contact.

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PART 3

H came out of the bathroom and we exchanged goodbyes and left. Hubby’s cock was still hard. I got up and sat on his big cock and started kissing him. I felt this overwhelming desire and intensity to express my love.

I wanted to reconnect with hubby and feel his cum inside me. I was grinding up and down on his cock until I had another powerful orgasm. I unhand-cuffed him. We got in bed and held each other cuddling for an hour or so.

AFTER THOUGHTS

1. Regret allowing her to blow hubby. It was hot in the moment, but that image is burned into my brain
2. Not sure how I feel about being dominated
3. Hubby got his Hotwife kink fulfilled!! The strap-on dildo did feel like a read cock. Felt like I was being fucked by a stranger

Hey everyone, long-time lurker in the hotwife community, first-time poster. My girlfriend (26F) and I (28M) have been together for a few years and we've been dipping our toes into the hotwife lifestyle through fantasies and dirty talk. This is all super new for us—no actual experiences yet—but she's finally opened up after some gentle convincing that she feels most comfortable exploring this with my close friends rather than strangers. It's a huge turn-on for both of us, and I want to make sure we handle it right.

Quick rundown:

Friend 1: She's a bit less physically attracted to him (he's not the hottest guy), but she knows he's an absolute beast in bed—fucks like a total minx, super skilled and attentive. Plus, he's rock-solid trustworthy; we've been buds forever. He's straight-up told me multiple times he'd love to fuck her if we ever went there, so no awkwardness on his end.

Friend 2: She's really into him physically—thinks he's hot as hell. But he lives about 2 hours away, so logistics are trickier. He's mentioned finding her cute and flirty in group hangs, but nothing explicit about wanting to bang her. I think there's potential, but I'd need to gauge his interest without making it weird.

We're both excited but nervous since this would be her first time with anyone else. How do we even approach this? Do I talk to the friends first one-on-one, or bring it up casually in a group setting? For Friend 1, since he's already vocal about it, maybe start there? For Friend 2, how do I test the waters without ruining the friendship if he's not down?

Logistics-wise: Setting boundaries (like condoms only, no overnights at first), safe words, aftercare for her and me? Any tips on making it hot and smooth—maybe starting with a party or trip to make it natural? Advice from other hotwife couples who've done this with friends would be gold. Guys and girls, what's worked (or bombed) for you? How did you communicate everything without jealousy creeping in?

My wife and I have been in the hotwife/swingers lifestyle for a year and I’d say we’ve had a busy year, more so hotwife, but nonetheless. I want to know how often you guys practice? What does your typical week, month, even year look like in terms of number of partners, style of play, all of it.

I’m wondering if I’m crazy for how much I enjoy it as she’s been with 7 different guys since June, 4 of which have been single the other 3 were both of us with a couple. We enjoy using the different apps and sites like SLS so we’re getting a ton of experience in our first year.

Let me know! Always open to anything

Hello everyone. After having many discussions about this a conclusion was drawn, hotwifing is very hot idea that we’d want to make a reality someday but as one offs rather than a lifestyle.

While I’m happy to all you couples who love the lifestyle, I don’t think that is appealing to us, actually it was when we shifted from talking about a longterm arrangement to single encounters whenever we feel the itch to really spice things up that we seriously started to actually do it someday (especially for her, she is very against doing it often and I kinda agree). It feels like doing it just helps make our alone fantasy sessions even hotter knowing that we have actually done it and that we might one day do it again.

So I came to ask, is this a common arrangement amongst those who enjoy hotwifing?

How has it worked out for those of you who do have this arrangement?

Why do you have the arrangement that you have (be it this, lifestyle, or something else)?

Obviously a newbie here, even though I e done a lot of reading about this there is still so much for me to learn.

Me ,my wife and one of our friend often have smoking session. It feels so hot to see them sharing puffs ,touching each other ,leaning in

Once we went to Goa and after swimming session when we came back to room and she was still in bikini and was heading towards washroom, he said " I will break doors ". Man it was so hot seeing her smiling to his this very comment

There are more instances with some more guys too and all this makes me very hard

Anyone else who love it when she lets other guys flirt and flirt back with them ?

So my wife and I have been together for 11 years now and have, on and off, invited other men into our sex life. We’ve had threesomes and she has also met men alone. Recently we decided to come back to the lifestyle and have more fun.

My wife downloaded some apps to meet potential partners and, if we are lucky enough, meet some respectful people.

My wife matched with a guy and they started messaging. Those messages turned into sexting and the vibe seemed good. On Friday she told me the guy wanted to book a hotel and for her to stay over for the night. After a few messages back and forth, he booked the hotel and we were both excited.

My wife was going to go alone and keep me updated on how things were going. She packed her bag full of sexy outfits and sex toys.

The thought of her having another man’s dick is such a turn-on for me, and watching her get ready to go meet another man for dick is such a turn-on. My dick was rock hard before she even left. She dropped to her knees and sucked my rock-hard dick as a thank you for letting her go.

She left and texted me to let me know she had gotten to the hotel safely. An hour went by and she messaged to say that they had been talking and that he seemed like a nice guy, then silence.

Twenty minutes later she messaged me to say that he had fucked her pussy with the dildo she packed and she had cummed all over the dildo. As these updates were coming in, I was playing with my hard dick.

Again she went quiet… this time for over an hour. She messaged again saying they had just fucked and that his dick was massive. She said he was slamming her pussy for most of that hour and that she had cummed on his dick four or five times. She continued to tell me that she was screaming the hotel room down.

I asked her if it was the best dick she had ever had. I was anxiously waiting for her reply to see her answer. A few seconds later she responded, “Yes babe… his dick is so big, it’s the best fuck I’ve had. He fucked me so good my legs were shaking!”

After a few messages back and forth between me and my wife, she went quiet again. All I could think about was how much of a slut she was being while I waited for her to message me with another update.

About an hour later my wife messaged me again, saying, “Sorry I couldn’t text babe, he was eating my pussy.”

She messaged to say they were both tired and were planning to go to sleep. The next morning she messaged me and said they woke up at 4am and she gave him a sloppy blowjob before going back to sleep.

I asked her what time she was planning to come back home. She replied, “Soon. I need his dick again before I leave.”

About 30 minutes later she messaged to say she was on her way home with her used pussy and said, “Make sure your dick is hard for when I get home”

I heard the keys in the front door and the door open. I was waiting in our bedroom with a rock-hard dick, thinking about what I already knew and what was about to happen.

She walked into the bedroom, dropped to her knees, and began to stroke and suck my dick. She told me her pussy was really tender after her night and morning of fucking and cumming.

I bent her over the bed, slid my hard dick into her used and tender pussy, and began to fuck her until we both came. After that we went about our day and fucked multiple times throughout the day.

I can’t wait to see who she fucks next.

I was wondering if you (husbands or wives) made any meaningful friendships with other people in  the lifestyle? That could be other Hotwives, 3rd’s, couples or any other if I might have forgotten to mention.

If so, do you do non sexual activities with them? Like vacations, dancing, get-togethers and such? Also, does it feel good to be able to talk about the lifestyle with someone who understands?

Do you guys ever have random days where you are way more jealous than normal? 99.9% of the time I want her fooling around but I will have days where I get jealous and don’t want her doing anything on those days. I’m not really sure what triggers it and then the next day I want her sexting or meeting up with someone again. Curious if anyone else has those days and what you think causes them.

Had a lovely weekend but can’t wait to get home to my husband now.

I just wanted to ask for anyone who dived into this experience. Did you set any criteria as to who's going to be your first "experience"? I am a little bit afraid to go wild on my first try. My husband wants me to try his interracial fantasy for a long time now.

I can’t believe it’s going to happen.

My girlfriend of 4 years is finally going to do it. After years of talking about it, we have found a guy online that ticks all the boxes.

My girl is 38, and we have found a guy 8 years younger. Online he has said all the right things, he has been respectful, pics looks like he surpasses me and has got my girl all hot for him.

Im dropping her off at a bar at 6pm on Tuesday. If all things go to plan, I will be then picking her up from his place a few hours later.

Any tips on how I should approach before and after the date? Any must do’s or don’t’s?

I just wanted to ask for anyone who dived into this experience. Did you set any criteria as to who's going to be your first "experience"? I am a little bit afraid to go wild on my first try. My husband wants me to try his interracial fantasy for a long time now.

I’ve seen on many of the swinger sites couples being relatively open about offering paid arrangements.

Is this something others have noticed?

>!I’ve seen on many of the swinger sites couples being relatively open about offering paid arrangements.!<

Is this something others have noticed?

I’ve seen online that there is many profiles on swinger forums where the couples clearly write between the lines that they are open for paid arrangements.

Is this a common thing in some communities?