So close! Just need advice on getting her to embrace it
My girlfriend (33) and I (35) have been together for 12 months. She's my first serious relationship in a while, and I'm her first serious one after a 6-year relationship that ended because her ex was texting other girls.
We've developed a strong hotwife fantasy dynamic during sex and phone sex. She gets giddy and visibly aroused whenever "big dick" or being stretched/filled comes up. She cums hard thinking about being fucked by a much bigger guy while I'm there. She loves being called a good girl and naughty little slut in the moment, but sometimes draws back from it to focus on me doing things to her.
She has told me she would be open to going to a club with me, dressing sexy, dancing and flirting with other men, letting them chat her up, buy her drinks, and even touch her while dancing — as long as I'm there watching. She knows it turns me on a lot and says she feels safer with me present. However, she mostly indulges in this talk when she's drunk or very horny.
About a month ago, while drunk and on the phone, she got extremely turned on and came very close to inviting a male coworker over to fuck her while I listened. The next day she felt anxious and guilty about it, saying she wouldn't have done it and that it scared her. She has brought up the fantasy while having sex since then though.
I really want her to feel comfortable enjoying the thrill of being desired and flirted with by other men in real life (starting light), and especially to embrace the idea of feeling a much bigger dick than mine inside her — not just doing it to please me.
How do couples ease into the real-life side of hotwife play safely? Any advice on helping her move from drunk fantasy talk to genuinely enjoying the thrill sober, while respecting her boundaries and keeping things consensual?
TL;DR:
GF gets very aroused by hotwife talk (especially big dick / being stretched), says she'd be open to flirting and dancing with men in a club while I watch because it turns me on and she feels safe. She mostly indulges when drunk. Had a near-miss with a coworker 10 days ago that made her anxious the next day. How do I gently encourage her to actually enjoy the fantasy and thrill of bigger dicks in real life without pressure?