r/MarriedSex

Maybe you should set an alarm for this 😂

If he's still sleeping next to you, you can reach out and stroke his dick with your fingertips. And if he still wears boxers, they usually have an emergency exit so you can free him 😜

lick his whole dick with the tip of your tongue, then wrap your mouth around his tip, slowly and deliberately start sucking and playing with your tongue. You don't have to swallow him as a whole, the nerves are mostly near the tip. And between his balls and ass.

use one hand and carefully massage his balls (he probably is awake by now) switch to jerking him off and take one or both balls into your mouth.

you can go back to sucking his dick, and jerking him off a bit slower and move your hand up and down and as if you open/close a bottle. just don't be too rough.

One thing you should never forget, once his eyes are open, keep eye contact. Not the whole time, but every now and then.

you can switch back and forth between all this, leaning over to kiss him while you're stroking him.

His next move will probably pull you on top of him and you can ride him slowly to turn him on even more.

The whole thing isn't about getting done quickly, take your time and give him a nice good morning wake up

Have fun with this little advice 😜

Not long ago my pretty vanilla wife was a no-go for sex toys. Then I asked her if she would like to try with a wand and she said yes.

fast forward this week, we have been using that toy quite often. at the beginning it was me pushing her to use it, now she would ask for it every sesh.

By no means I'm opposed to it, quite the opposite. I love seeing her cumming and fully concentrate on her pleasure. She could easily come 2 or 3 times per session, and even last time she said she would have cummed a fourth time, but it was with me inside and I cannot take it much longer when she is in that zone.

Although the post is to brag a bit, the only downside I picked from all these is that she would take longer to come from oral (it was her go to!). She is still able to cum from oral but when I asked she says that with the wand she doesn't have to concentrate, it just happens. she is also taking some medication that affects her ability to cum easy.

anyone else has experienced similar? if anything, this has enhanced our sex life, but just looking at potential downsides.

Last night, my wife celebrated her birthday weekend with a girls' night out. At four in the morning, I heard her stagger in from her Uber as I was at home with the small ones who were having trouble falling asleep. I was in one of their beds with them both.

After then, I was expecting to hear additional movement, but I heard nothing. I reach for the baby monitor out of curiosity (our room has an extra camera). She's already standing there in her pants and bra. To see, I shift the camera slightly.

She abruptly begins rummaging through the nightstand, and I watch her pull out a box. To get a closer look, I shift the camera and zoom in. I recognise it as her vibrator when she begins disassembling it.

My heart began to race with anticipation. "Holy shit," I thought. What or who agitated her to the point where she is violently rummaging through her drawer in an attempt to escape?"

I continue watching and after a while, she starts using her flashlight on her phone and looking around the nightstand a bit.

Is she trying to find a charger for it? Or perhaps a dildo or some other toy?I pondered.

She then began to move around the room. It was more than that, I realised.

I met her in the bedroom after sneaking out.

"Are you playing around with me?She enquired.

I was completely perplexed. "What? I've been observing you via the camera. What's happening?"

She clarified that she was trying to figure out what the hell the buzzing sound she was hearing might be. I was moving the baby monitor camera around, which caused it to hum. 😂

We had some nice late-night sex after we laughed a lot over what I thought and what was really going on. She shared some interesting hotwife anecdotes with me from the bar, but that's for a different sub!

During the course of sex, nipples and breasts always got their due attention while we were at it. More recently the husband has turned a corner with his tongue and mouth. Never realised one could get turned on so much by delightful stimulation of the nipples.

To all husband folks out there, do you love to suck tits or lick them?

I've always had trouble initiating anything sexual, but I'm really trying to force myself to do it more often. Well, last night at midnight, while browsing Reddit, I got incredibly horny and initially planned to just have fun, but all I could think about was my husband's hands on me, and that was exactly what I needed. It took me about five minutes to figure it out, but I did it! I woke him up, we had a wonderful kiss, and he touched my breasts while I had two orgasms, and then he sucked his cock!

I'm so proud and happy with myself this morning 😌 He always said I could wake him up whenever I wanted, but he has long, physical jobs, so I feel bad waking him up in case he can't sleep. But after how last night went, I'll definitely do it again 🥵

Been on and off struggling with connecting with my other half. I swear something just clicked today. Hopped in the shower with her this morning got a hell of a blowjob… better than discovering solo and partner play. I swear she tired to suck the soul out of me .

Then this afternoon just before serve up for dinner got a mad 10 minutes. Just gee what a da.

For those struggling with connectivity and having a young family, hope you get times like this

last night my wife said that next sex session in just penetrations and no going down on her. I love licking pussy and ass so this is a sad time for one of us. also I finish quite quickly without some foreplay for her to cum so might be a short one to lol.

I've always found it difficult to start sexual conversations, but I've been making a lot of effort to push myself. Last night at midnight, I was browsing Reddit when I became really aroused. I had intended to play with myself, but all I could think about was my husband's hands on me, and I needed it. It took me about five minutes to persuade myself, but I succeeded! I woke him up, we had a great time making out, he massaged my tits, and I gave myself two orgasms before sucking his cock!

He's always told me I may wake him up whenever I want, but he works long, physical hours, so I feel horrible waking him in case he can't get back to sleep. I'm really happy and proud of myself this morning 😌. However, given the outcome of last night, I will most certainly do it again 🥵

My husband has been very conservative in his sexual experiences and is slowly trying to break down some walls and preconceptions he has. His biggest one is asking for sex. He doesn’t initiate because he thinks I’ll be angry with him and he “can’t read me”. Which is annoying because I have literally never been angry with him about sex and almost never turn him down. Meanwhile, I have a success rate of about 60%.

I thought maybe I am not being provocative enough or if there is something he would like to try that would get him more excited for sex. So I point blank asked him “hey is there a dress or something that is your favorite that I wear”? Thinking that’s a jumping off point. I get “nope” and I’ve been thinking so hard about what compliments I get and it’s been “you look good” and nothing else for months. So I prod more and ask if a specific set (with pictures included) was something he’d like. “Which one do you like best?” And this man responded with “doesn’t matter to me”. OKAY THEN 🫠 I told him that’s not the point and he said “well I’m simple so I don’t care”. THATS NOT THE POINT. THE POINT IS FOR YOU TO PICK IT OUT BECAUSE YOU LIKE IT AND ITS SOMETHING I CAN FEEL GOOD ABOUT DOING FOR YOU.

Am I not being clear enough about this? Am I reading too far into this? What am I doing wrong? I get he’s a shy guy, but we’ve been together for 12 years. Men here, how do I approach this? Like is there a website out there that I can send him you guys use? Do I just take the “L” and stop trying so hard because he doesn’t like me that much? Like, what’s happening?

we live in one of those apartments where one of the walls are all windows. there's a building right across the street from ours, with some offices on the upper floors.

my wife has a habit of not being careful when doing housework in just a shirt and panties. today, she was potting some plants right in front of one of our balconies.

her eyesight's quite bad, so she doesnt register everything in the building across the street. im sure they can see us if I can see them lol.

she'll walk out to the balcony in the same shirt + panties outfit too, sometimes. shes not much for showing off, but she doesn't seem to care if its at home and its just her panties. "its just like a bikini" she says.

I for one, kinda love showing her off. Im sure the guys across the street can see her little ass shaking around. it turns me on + gives me a bit of an ego boost knowing theres guys across the street who are probably looking forward to hot days when my wife does chores.

anyways, as much as i like watching her do this, i am curious. anyone else's spouse/yourself do this?

Looking for perspective.

I’m trying to figure out if I’m off base here or if others have gone through something similar.

Over the past couple years, I’ve put a lot of effort into improving myself and our relationship. I got my hormones checked and started TRT under medical supervision, worked on my physical health, and even went to therapy to deal with my own issues and patterns.

I don’t regret any of that, it’s been good for me overall. But if I’m being honest, I think part of me hoped it would also help improve our intimacy.

The problem is…I’m not really seeing any change on that front. If anything, I’m starting to feel more sexually frustrated and, lately, a bit resentful. And I don’t like feeling that way.

We have kids, and I completely understand how much that impacts energy, hormones, mental load, etc. I try to be patient and supportive because of that. But at the same time, it’s starting to feel like I’m the only one actively trying to move things forward.

I don’t want to turn this into scorekeeping or pressure her, that’s not the kind of husband I want to be. But I also don’t want to ignore how I’m feeling and let resentment build.

Has anyone else been in a situation where you did a lot of work on yourself, but your partner didn’t seem to meet you halfway? How did you handle it without damaging the relationship?

Not looking to bash my wife, I’m just trying to understand what a healthy way forward looks like.

I promised y'all a part two. Sorry it took so long.

We had a wonderful night of sleep and a wonderful sleep. Our kids were gone, so no one to disturb us in the night. t

The morning comes (foreshadowing) and my wife woke up before me. I open my eyes to see her turned over on her phone. She had a sport bar and thong on. Her big 'ol booty was looking at me. I grab her from behind her and just held her. After a few mins, I walk my hand down to her booty. It's so soft and warm. I rub all around it and move in between her legs so I could massage the back of her pussy. Then I would go back to her cheeks and move my hand to the front of her pussy.

I wasn't just going to let this goddess wake up and start her day. I turned her over to admire her body. My hands on all of it. Then I stop at her thong. I pull the panties to the side and start licking her to orgasm. I love the taste of morning pussy. This may have been a first time for me. I continue indulging until she cums one more time. My dick was hard, so I jumped to my knees and put it in her. We fuck for a while and then stop and I pull out to turn her over again and lay on her ass. I squeezed it and hugged it. I then started giving it kisses. I pulled her cheeks apart and stared at her booty hole. The night before I told it I was going to come back to it. I always keep my word.

I began licking her beautiful third hole. THIS was definitely a first for me. I thank her so much for letting me eat her ass that morning. I had so much fun and my dick was still hard. I rubbed it around her butthole. Then she says "I don't have the energy to stop you." She was still numb from the orgasms. I told you I'm good. With a smile on my face, I start to put my dick inside her asshole. Slowly but surely, and with a plethora of lube, I inched inside her and started fucking her. Yet another first achieved.

As we finished, we both looked at each other and knew we needed another shower. What a way to start the day!

During the course of sex, nipples and breasts always got their due attention while we were at it. More recently the husband has turned a corner with his tongue and mouth. Never realised one could get turned on so much by delightful stimulation of the nipples.

To all folks out there, make sure you give enough attention to the nipples ;)

I know how this works in my marriage, but was curious to hear from other couples what their experience is.

So, formerly a dead bedroom husband, but I FINALLY, was able to express to her that sex wasn't just about SEX, it was about feeling appreciated, loved, and being DESIRED. Good Dads, providers and genuine best friends still need to feel wanted by their wives. I got through after years of the conversation turning into fights that only made things worse. So that's a success I guess. We sort of negotiated really putting an effort into once a week. It worked and the once a week is pretty much a given now.

I lost weight, worked out, dressed better, took care of my appearance, smelled good, became more thoughtful and helpful, took over the shopping and cooking, to the point we don't go out much anymore because it's just an expensive disappointment. When we were not having sex I studied how to really please a woman, so if/when I got the opportunity, it was epic. I learned a lot, and she REALLY enjoys it, four to five+ orgasms each time. Now I basically have to do the exact foreplay and playbook. She doesn't tell me too or anything, but she takes no initiative other than to give me the signal that yes I'm open to having sex, then it's basically "PROCEED." I know, it's kinda funny, but it feels that way now. Sometimes I have to kinda fluff myself beforehand and during because I'm working so hard to make her happy.

So now, I get sex weekly, but my argument that it "isn't just the act" has backfired because now it is, I get 10 or 15 minutes of "now it's your turn" to bang away and finish. I'm extremely grateful to not be in the dead bedroom situation, but I'm not exactly feeling desired and appreciated and loved. It's never about desiring me, it's turned into I guess, he wants sex once a week and he's getting it.

I was ok with this for a while because it did make me feel better, I was grateful, and we are closer and better connected. But it's not a give and take. It sort of came to a head the week of our anniversary. We did the playbook on a weekday morning on our anniversary. Pretty awesome, weekdays are typically off limits. Then a few days later I tried on a regularly scheduled weekend day and kinda got shut down. It just wasn't the right time, no biggie. So, I playfully mentioned it later in the day and she said "we just did a few days ago." So now I'm back to not a dead bedroom, but a not to exceed, once a week limit. Depressing...

I don't know whether to breach the subject and tell her how I feel and legitimately potentially mess up all the work I have put in to get to where we are now, or just suck it up. I don't do well with the "suck it up" thing, I'll just get depressed and pissed, but am I genuinely asking for too much? Why do I feel like this is not too much to ask? We're in our late 40s, am I looking for something that only married 20 and 30 year olds have? I really don't know. Maybe I'm lucky as hell. Please let know what you think.

My husband's Apple Watch has gotten caught on my nipple piercings three times in the last six months.

It's extremely painful when it happens, and I'm genuinely worried that at some point I'll lose a nipple.

I've asked him to take the watch off before sex, and he's agreed, but he's not consistent about it. He usually takes it off after my bra comes off, but not before he starts touching me, and sometimes he just forgets. Today's nipple vs. watch incident happened while I was still dressed (but braless).

He says that without the watch, he'd miss my texts when work gets busy. But I would rather he occasionally miss messages from a wife with two nipples than read messages from a wife with one nipple. He also likes having work emails on his wrist, but I could definitely live without that. He sort of uses the watch for sleep tracking, but not very seriously (and I actually got him an Oura ring for sleep tracking that's arriving this week).

At this point, I just want him to stop wearing the watch. He offered to wear it only at the office, but I'm skeptical he'll reliably remember to take it off. If remembering to take off the watch was a reliable strategy, this wouldn't keep happening. And I don't want to have to keep worrying about it.

I think my nipples should take precedence over his smartwatch. I feel like this should be an easy call.

Maybe you should set an alarm for this 😂

If he's still sleeping next to you, you can reach out and stroke his dick with your fingertips. And if he still wears boxers, they usually have an emergency exit so you can free him 😜

lick his whole dick with the tip of your tongue, then wrap your mouth around his tip, slowly and deliberately start sucking and playing with your tongue. You don't have to swallow him as a whole, the nerves are mostly near the tip. And between his balls and ass.

use one hand and carefully massage his balls (he probably is awake by now) switch to jerking him off and take one or both balls into your mouth.

you can go back to sucking his dick, and jerking him off a bit slower and move your hand up and down and as if you open/close a bottle. just don't be too rough.

One thing you should never forget, once his eyes are open, keep eye contact. Not the whole time, but every now and then.

you can switch back and forth between all this, leaning over to kiss him while you're stroking him.

His next move will probably pull you on top of him and you can ride him slowly to turn him on even more.

The whole thing isn't about getting done quickly, take your time and give him a nice good morning wake up

Have fun with this little advice 😜

Je suis en couple avec ma femme depuis un peu plus de 10 ans, et globalement tout se passe vraiment bien entre nous. Bonne entente, complicité, vie de couple stable… rien de particulier à signaler de ce côté-là.

Depuis le début de notre relation, j’ai un fantasme qui m’a toujours un peu trotté dans la tête : l’idée de la voir avec un autre homme. À l’époque, c’était quelque chose d’assez présent, puis avec les années ça s’est un peu effacé, sûrement parce que notre quotidien s’est installé.

Mais depuis quelque temps, ce fantasme revient assez fortement, et ça me travaille plus qu’avant. Ce n’est pas juste une pensée passagère, c’est vraiment quelque chose qui m’excite et qui revient régulièrement.

Le problème, c’est qu’on n’a jamais eu de vraie discussion là-dessus. J’ai déjà essayé de lancer quelques petites perches, de façon légère ou indirecte, mais sans jamais aller au fond du sujet. Elle n’a pas spécialement rebondi, et du coup je n’ai jamais osé pousser la conversation plus loin.

Aujourd’hui, je suis un peu partagé :

•	Est-ce que c’est le genre de fantasme qu’il vaut mieux garder pour soi pour ne pas risquer de déséquilibrer le couple ?

•	Ou est-ce que certains d’entre vous ont déjà abordé ce genre de sujet après plusieurs années, et ça s’est bien passé ?

•	Comment amener ça sans mettre de pression ou créer un malaise ?

Je précise que je tiens énormément à elle et à notre relation, donc je n’ai pas envie de faire n’importe quoi ou de tout gâcher pour un fantasme.

Si certains ont vécu quelque chose de similaire ou ont des conseils sur la manière d’en parler (ou pas), je suis preneur.

Anyone have any weekend activities in mind? Wife and I are going away for the weekend. Pm open