My husband doesn’t make any requests or his preferences known. It’s ruining my self esteem.
My husband has been very conservative in his sexual experiences and is slowly trying to break down some walls and preconceptions he has. His biggest one is asking for sex. He doesn’t initiate because he thinks I’ll be angry with him and he “can’t read me”. Which is annoying because I have literally never been angry with him about sex and almost never turn him down. Meanwhile, I have a success rate of about 60%.
I thought maybe I am not being provocative enough or if there is something he would like to try that would get him more excited for sex. So I point blank asked him “hey is there a dress or something that is your favorite that I wear”? Thinking that’s a jumping off point. I get “nope” and I’ve been thinking so hard about what compliments I get and it’s been “you look good” and nothing else for months. So I prod more and ask if a specific set (with pictures included) was something he’d like. “Which one do you like best?” And this man responded with “doesn’t matter to me”. OKAY THEN 🫠 I told him that’s not the point and he said “well I’m simple so I don’t care”. THATS NOT THE POINT. THE POINT IS FOR YOU TO PICK IT OUT BECAUSE YOU LIKE IT AND ITS SOMETHING I CAN FEEL GOOD ABOUT DOING FOR YOU.
Am I not being clear enough about this? Am I reading too far into this? What am I doing wrong? I get he’s a shy guy, but we’ve been together for 12 years. Men here, how do I approach this? Like is there a website out there that I can send him you guys use? Do I just take the “L” and stop trying so hard because he doesn’t like me that much? Like, what’s happening?