r/BDSMPersonalsUK

I'm interested in extremely restrictive bondage. Push the limits of what my body can do, then tie me up so I can't move a muscle, and keep me there as your toy to be used. Or put me in a predicament that I can't win and see how long I can take it. Or take away my use of my limbs and treat me like your dumb pet.

I'd love to hear from you if you're as into bondage as I am and want to see how far we can take it.

Some other kinks I have include sensory deprivation, breath play, objectification, petplay, forced orgasms and humiliation, and plenty else epecially if you're into it.

Limits are mainly scat, blood and misgendering

Hello again and again and again! I am starting to feel like a broken record and that maybe the right person doesn’t exist… going in circles and then back to square one.

I am still searching for my submissive/little girl whilst trying to wade through all the shallow ghosting and disappearances that happens. Thought I had a real connection, but once again things have gone silent. Very upsetting.

Anyway…here we go again… I’m hoping to find a girl to have lots of relaxed and hopefully dirty fun… but also to build a connection with. Orgasms and pleasure are absolutely essential to a relaxed mind and a happy headspace in my experience; but in the same breath, trust and communication and comfort are just as important. Life can be stressful and overwhelming and finding that connection can go a long way to make things better in my experience.

A little about me… I have been a Daddy Dom/Dominant for over 13 years, and am looking for a girl who would like to find that guy who can be the one she can talk to, the one to laugh and joke with, the one to get butterflies in her stomach with every time we message; and the one who’s lap (and face) she can sit on at any time she likes. Honestly at this stage the filthier the better in the dynamic. I have a very high sex drive so just a heads up.

If this sounds like something that you would like to explore, then I hope to hear from you to hopefully start something great and satisfying for both of us.

I am seeking a relationship characterized as much by sex and kink as it is by a more pure and romantic connection. I am in search of a sub who I will use and order around, but with affection.

I am 33 years old and am 6’1” (186 cm) with black hair and brown eyes. One might describe me as a “soft dom”, as while I consider myself stern—establishing rules and guiding you with the expectation that you do as you are told—I also seek to be fair and warm, and am understanding if at times you are unable to perform certain tasks.

In addition to high protocol, I am also into a wide array of other kinks which we can discuss. They include body writing, breath play, chastity, DDlg, hair pulling, impact play, JOI, orgasm control, pet play, size difference, and traditional gender roles. (Note that it is not necessary to like all or even most of these kinks, though it helps.)

If interested, send a message (chat or DM is fine, though chat is preferred) that includes something about yourself and what you are looking for, including your sex, age, and general location.

Hi, I'm Alex, 37M, based in the Warrington area, north-west England. I'm looking for someone to explore my kinks with, and hopefully develop something long term if we click together. Preferably local and able to meet up but I'm open to online play as well. I am dominant but might be open to switching occasionally for the right person. My main kinks are power exchange, bondage, and orgasm control. Open to any level of experience, trying to build up more experience myself! I'm 5'10 (178 cm), brown hair and brown eyes. I work in STEM and am pretty nerdy! Outside of kink I enjoy reading, gaming, really bad films, a good museum and astronomy. I work in STEM and am pretty nerdy!

Looking for a responsible dom who can provide degradation, humilation and wisdom. I am seeking someone older than me and more intelligent than me to help me start my journey in BDSM.

My requirements are-

-Must have toys

-Must have a car or accommodation or be willing to book a hotel

-Must be physically imposing to frighten me into a primal sense of dominance. If you play rugby, even better.

-Must be based in York, Leeds or Manchester.

Happy to give a physical description in the dms and happy to verify after some back and forth.

Kinks include- collaring, being tied in any possible way haha, CNC, TPE, gags, anal hooks, anal play, impact play, sex clubs, intox play, age gaps

Hi there! I’m looking for someone fairly particular and I really hope that it will be you.

I want someone who is willing to give themselves over to me and completely submit. I am looking for a long term dynamic to build trust with my sub. I need you to be able to tell me when things are getting too much for you, I need to be able to trust that you can do that. I also want you to be willing and open to try new things(outside of limits of course) experience isn’t necessary and I am willing to train you as long as you have the right mindset.

I pray primarily consider myself a pleasure Dom I really crave the pleasure of my partner.I want to bring it out as much as I physically can. I think that I’m not overly strict and can’t be fairly lenient but definitely stern when I need to be. I like semi regular to regular chats and check ins to make sure we’re both on the same page as each other and if we’ve had any changes in our kinks/limits.

My biggest kinks include but are certainly not limited to overstim, forced orgasm, edging, denial, humiliation/degradation, breeding, free use, bondage/rope play,CNC(with caveats), anal play, face fucking/throat training. Objectification. Praise, choking, light physical pain and many many more. If I haven’t listed something. Come and talk to me about it you never know! Also, if I’ve listed any kinks that you’re not comfortable with I’m not particularly precious about any one kink so don’t let that put you off!

When you message me(which hopefully by this point you’ve decided you want to do lol) please tell me your age, where you’re from, a little about you personally and what kinks you’re into and any limits you may have also your experience level.

If you’ve read this far firstly well done! And secondly I hope you have a lovely day!!

I feel like every one of these reads the same. So forgive me, but I’m actually going to be myself on this one. Probably better for everyone if you know what you’re getting into upfront.

I’m 38, based near Manchester, and I run my own business. That last bit matters only because it explains two things about me: I’m not short on stability, and I am permanently short on time. It’s why I’m here rather than haunting a munch every Thursday.

Outside of kink I’m basically your standard ADHD tinkerer. If there’s a problem that can be solved with wood, metal, plastic, or a soldering iron, I’m usually halfway through a YouTube rabbit hole about it. I build things, I (try to) fix things, I start projects I swear I’ll finish. When I’m not doing that you’ll find me at the cinema or at a comedy club on a weeknight, because life’s too short to spend it being serious about everything. I find humour in almost anything, the darker the better, and most people who know me would describe me as laid back to the point of horizontal.

Nobody who meets me guesses the dom thing. I give off big sub energy in day-to-day life, apparently. I’m easy to talk to, I laugh too much, and I don’t walk into rooms expecting anyone to kneel. That switches when it needs to, but it has to be earned on both sides first.

Ok onto the bit that actually matters.

What I enjoy about dominance isn’t the power trip. It’s the responsibility. Someone putting themselves under your control is an enormous thing, and I take it seriously. Too seriously, probably. I won’t go anywhere near a scene until everything has been properly talked through, boundaries mapped out, safewords agreed, aftercare planned. Because the truth is I’m quietly terrified of getting it wrong. That fear is actually what makes me careful. I need to know that you want this, that you’re curious about it for your own reasons, not because someone pushed you toward it. I get absolutely nothing from someone submitting against their will. Either I’m the right person to explore this with, or I’m not. No pressure either way.

I should also be upfront about what I’m offering as well. I’m not looking for a romantic relationship. I think I’m somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, which just means I experience connection differently. What I am offering is something genuine. I care about the people I play with. I check in between sessions, I remember what you told me last Tuesday, I take aftercare seriously, and we talk like actual human beings. Think of it more like a close friendship with a dynamic woven through it. It’s warm, it’s ongoing, and you matter to me as a person. It’s just not heading toward a joint mortgage.

What this hopefully looks like in practice: it starts online. We talk. Not just about kink, about everything. We figure out whether we actually enjoy each other’s company, because that matters more than any checklist. I adapt to the person in front of me rather than running a formula, so the dynamic gets built around you, not the other way around. If it works, we meet. I’m happy to travel and I’m happy to verify who I am privately whenever you’re ready for that.

If you know exactly what you want, great. If you’re curious but haven’t done this before and don’t even know what questions to ask yet, honestly that’s fine too. I enjoy guiding someone through that discovery and I’ll never make you feel stupid for not knowing something.

Open to couples as well, provided the dynamic works. I’m straight, so that shapes what’s on the table, but I’m not precious about the setup.

If any of this made you stop scrolling, drop me a message. Tell me what caught your eye, or just say hi. Even if you’re not sure what to say yet, that’s fine too. I don’t bite unless we’ve discussed it first.

Let’s skip the pleasantries shall we? I’m Alex. Forty. Southeast England.

I’m a six foot beast of a man. Burly, bearded and rugged. I look exactly like the type of man who can, and will, ruin you.

Day to day, I am a geeky, easygoing guy - a facade I put up to maintain some sort of societal acceptance. With the right person I can let that mask slip and reveal the consummate sadist lurking underneath. A sinister, perverse deviant refined by over twenty years of dominance and power.

My satisfaction comes from degradation, dehumanisation, total control and extreme kinks but my real talent lies in digging into your subconscious to uncover the filth you desperately seek but are too afraid to admit to yourself.

I listen and notice patterns, remember contradictions and I can pick up on what you hide behind your little jokes and half truths. I find the parts of you that feel dirty, shameful, wrong and dangerous and I slowly chip away at your inhibitions until you stop resisting them.

For me, a real dynamic isn’t just scenes and dirty talk. It’s developing a trust so deep it’s reckless and letting someone into your fears, your weaknesses, your need for approval and your desire to be owned. If you can’t think, articulate and challenge me then you’re just background noise.

I want a woman who has always felt that being “normal" was a lie. Someone who is tired of pretending and is ready to be honest about her darker and more depraved kinks.

I understand life exists and everyday things like work, responsibilities and stress will always come up. I’m not chasing a fantasy and I want to build something that can survive the rigours of life and won’t switch off when it’s inconvenient.

You may have been told being needy is a turn off, not with me. When I have someone then I want her to be eventually consumed by me. I want to live in her thoughts, her routines, her instincts. I want her checking her phone for my name, adjusting her life around my moods.I want her loyalty to be automatic and her attachment to be unavoidable. I want to be the thing she can’t ignore, can’t replace, can’t walk away from without it leaving an emotional scar.

I want devotion. I want intensity. I want her choosing me even when it costs her comfort and convenience. I don’t do casual or disposable nor do I chase short term successes. I do permanent and possessive and unbalanced.

I’m not concerned with your appearance or relationship status and I expect the same respect in return. This isn't about your physical appearance but more about what's inside your head. I care about your psychology and I want someone who understands that true submission isn’t roleplay. It’s letting yourself be altered and trusting someone enough to let them take pieces of you and not give them back.

If this made your stomach knot and your cunt twinge with excitement then you might be worth my effort.

hey , im a Bangladeshi living in the UK. been so lonely here lately. dont have any friends or gf. tried to post before but go no response. hopefully some like minded people will text me and we can share whatever is inside the head and heart .. as i have a dark mind and maybe we can explore more.

DM me , I don't bite.

Looking for new play partners to tease and manhandle, open to both experienced and novice, I enjoy training.

Some kinks I'm looking to indulge in are DDlg, ageplay, anal play, face fucking, spanking, petplay and bondage to name a few. Not limited to these nor are all required. I also love to help others explore niche/taboo kinks so do let me know of any particular cravings.

Mainly interested in developing a long-term dynamic but open to all ideas, please no tepid one liners.

have a great Easter weekend!

Hi there, I'm 21 years old living in the uk. I've been into femdom for a few years now but I'd really love to have something long term. I'm looking for a powerful and caring woman I can truly submit to.

Some things about me are I'm athletic, and 5'10 with tattoos. I'm generally quite a shy person. I currently work part time while I finish college. I love to snowboard, I also like reading, surfing, cooking, traveling, martial arts, gym and gaming. I'm really interested in history - mainly middle ages and ww2 and like nature. I'm not adding a kink list here as I'm hoping to click with someone first, I'm not interested in only being kink despensers for eachother as I find it boring. We can discuss kinks after we get to know eachother a bit but I'm into most things.

I'm looking for a dominant woman of any age and experience. Being new isn't a problem, exploring what we enjoy together could be fun. But I also love women who know what they want. I'm mostly interested in more soft/mommy dommes that are caring but my messages are open to anyone. Ideally we'd start online and move to irl after getting to know eachother a bit. I am looking for something irl so please be in the uk, even better if you're near London. Bonus if you want a 24/7 dynamic.

If any of this interests you please send a message, I'll happily discuss more with you and can share some pictures of myself.

Hope to hear from you :)

27 [M4F] #Lincoln #Online Sub looking for a domme.

27 [M4F] #Lincoln #Online Sub looking for a domme.

Sub looking for a long term relationship with a domme. Im 5"7 and i have brown hair. Fine with starting out online but would like the aim to be to meet and have a proper relationship. My kinks include Pegging, chastity, cnc, bondage, latex, service and hypno. My limits include scat, anything illegal, anything permanent and findom. Im relatively inexperienced however and have an open mind so im quite willing to try anything i havent tried before. All ages welcome. I own a few toys and a chastity cage.

Vanilla wise im a gamer, playing lots of overwatch/marvel rivals and slay the spire 2 at the moment. Im also a big music fan and have a pretty wide ranging taste, most often however you will find me listening to hiphop or metal. Im also very interested in politics and im a socialist, therefore no tories/reformers and no terfs.

Thanks for reading please DM if interested.

Hi all,

As I’ve posted above, I’m a well experienced Scottish Dom who’s seeking a long term female submissive slave. It’s as simple as that.

I’ve got blonde hair, blue eyes and am well built in every sense. I’ve been told I’ve got a nice smile too.

I’m not concerned with your age, race or body type. My priority is that you know your place and how to worship. I care about your attitude and willingness to push yourself to your emotional and physical limits.

It’s of paramount importance that we have a baseline of respect, trust and friendship before things evolve to the next level. I say this because I want our bond to grow and flourish as best as possible, and it’ll only work as we want it to once this is adhered to.

I’m happy to train a complete novice from the ground up, or someone more experienced who is seeking further guidance, structure and a mentor.

If you feel that this is something for you, send a message.

I am looking for a sub who can spend hours immersed in the twisted desires of masturbating with no orgasm in sight and when she is permitted to orgasm, she spends an eternity chasing the never-ending repeated waves of orgasms pulsing through her body. This level of immersion and sexual appetite comes with a deep desire to explore kinky things. When you sink into that submissive mindset desperate for control, you never want to leave. You want your body and mind to be in continuous heat and neediness. You want your dom to whisper dirty and perverted instructions in your ears. You want your head to feel warm and fuzzy while your pussy is perpetually grinding out your desperate neediness chasing that sweet orgasm.

I am a 34 year old man in Hampshire near London. My main kinks are humiliation, orgasm control/denial, nipple play/torture, bondage, sensory deprivation, discreet risky play and spanking. Kink is a psychological taste for me and should be for you. There is a saying 'you should feel it in your soul'. That is what kink is for me. The physical play is the manifestation of these desires.

I am here to provide the sexual lust and experience that they yearn for. I am the shadow to their light. It is the contrast between the two that provides definition and clarity in life.

If you are interested, message me. If my words have struck a chord with you, you are the one who I am looking forward to make music with.

I want to become friends with a girl that either knows she’s inferior or is at least comfortable with me treating her as such, including calling her names, talking down to her, laughing at her, and insulting her. This would probably have a sexual side too but would in theory be more of a friendship than a relationship (though I'm not opposed to it developing in the latter direction if that's what feels right).

So in amongst all the insults etc we’d just chat as friends. That can mean chatting about our days, our interests etc, as well as deeper conversations. Maybe I can even advise and educate you on some things. Perhaps we can share kinky experiences and degrading porn.

So if you want a friend who won’t respect you, send me a message.

I am a man who finds purpose and clarity in structure, leadership, and responsibility in my career, my life, and my relationships. I have built a successful, stable life not as an end in itself, but to create a foundation upon which I can build something truly meaningful: a total power exchange (TPE) relationship with a devoted partner.

The dynamic I seek is best described as Gorean-inspired. It is rooted in high protocol, clearly defined roles, and the profound beauty of total power exchange. My authority is calm, absolute, and wielded with the sole purpose of nurturing your growth and ensuring the well-being of our life together. I provide structure, protection, and direction; you provide devotion, service, and the warmth that makes a house a home.

This is a dynamic we will build together, step by step. My ultimate vision is a life where I provide for you completely, allowing you to find your fulfillment in dedicating yourself to me and our home. However, I am seeking a partner for the entire journey, not just the destination. Your current career or studies are not an obstacle; they are the starting point. From day one, they will be integrated into our dynamic, existing under my authority and direction, as we work together towards our shared future.

What you can expect from me as your Master:

• I will provide the framework for your life. This includes rules, protocols, and routines designed to help you flourish. Your purpose will be clear, your efforts will be seen, and your growth will be my priority.
• Your physical and emotional well-being will be my ultimate responsibility. Your submission is a precious gift, and I will protect it and you fiercely. While I will push you, I will do so with the goal of building you up, never breaking you down. Our dynamic will be built on a foundation of rigorous consent and trust.
• I will have total authority, but it will be wielded with wisdom and for the benefit of our shared life. I will provide for you, make the difficult decisions, and create a world where you feel completely safe, cherished, and owned.
• This is not a search for a casual or temporary dynamic. My intention is for our M/s relationship to be long-term.

What I am seeking in my slave:

• You are a cis woman.
• You feel a genuine, undeniable need to serve, obey, and please your Master. This desire is a core part of your identity.
• You find beauty and pride in your femininity and in the act of service, from maintaining our home and your appearance, to the simple, profound act of preparing a meal for me.
• You are emotionally aware and an excellent communicator. Your ability to express your feelings, fears, and desires is essential for the health of our dynamic.
• You crave structure, rules, and discipline, and you understand that praise and correction are two sides of the same coin of care.
• You do not smoke, vape, or use drugs.
• You are seeking an all-encompassing M/s dynamic that is emotional, romantic, and spiritual first, with sexuality being an expression of that deep connection.

This is not a dynamic we would rush into. It would begin with conversation, vetting, and a gradual building of trust and protocol. True M/s is a journey of co-creation, and I am looking for a partner for that journey.

About me: I am 25, 174cm, good-looking. I am willing to exchange pictures once trust has been established. I am a well-respected financier, and I take pride in my health, fitness, and appearance. My interests range from luxury travel and meditation to quiet nights in with a movie or a good book.

If this description resonates with the submissive soul within you, send me a message via Reddit chat.

PS: Due to my profile settings, this post won't show on my profile. However, if you're reading this on the subreddit, I'm still looking.

Hi. So first of all I'm in Sheffield in the UK and looking for this at mine, maybe yours if local enough.

I've never tried this but it's one of my, I don't know if bucket list things is the right way to discribe it, but kinda that. I've never tried it before so maybe need to start slow and build up to it, I don't know, hopfully you do lol.

A bit about me, I'm 6 foot, pretty laid back and run a few times a week so in decent shape

Obviously looking for someone in the UK as close as possible to my location. If at all intrested please send a dm.

Hey,

as the title says i’m looking for a key holder and preferably a domme but doms are okay as well.

I’m 23, 6’1, ≈85kg, short brown hair, and i won’t lie, i am pretty inexperienced in the bdsm world as i’ve only ever had vanilla sex but, it’s something i have been thinking and fantasising about for years. I wear a chastity cage semi-regularly, with my longest period being about three weeks due to temptation to wank being too strong and having no one to punish or stop me. I have also done a bit of self bondage when i was younger so i have no problems with being tied up.

Some kinks include: chastity, bondage, tpe, ass play, cnc, blackmail, sub-dom/slave-owner dynamics etc.

some limits include: piss (hard no), shit (hard no), vomit (hard no), ass to mouth, blood/permanent (hard no), public

neither of those lists are exhaustive and as i do more i’m sure i’ll discover more things that i do do not like.

I’m pembrokeshire which is south west wales but i could travel if you’re not too far or we could meet in the middle somewhere.

Outside of the sexual stuff, i’m into walks/hikes, movies, games, golf, and trying to get back into scuba diving.

Thanks for reading, hopefully it makes sense.

I'm an 22 year-old male sub looking for a mistress to corrupt and dominate my life, Im 6ft and muscular and maintain an active lifestyle by regularly going to the gym along side swimming, running and rugb. I'm open to new experiences, and I'm eager to explore kinks.

I'm interested in a a lot of things including JOI, humiliation, public, anal, spanking, CBT, cei. but I'm open to trying new things and i can get all toys that aee needed .

Limits: While I'm open to many activities, there are a few hard limits I'd like to mention. These include scat, blackmail, permanent harm and any illegal activities.

Looking For: I'm seeking a cruel Mistress who is willing to mould me into a mindless sub who will do anything she commands and punishes if disobeyed . I’m interested in a long-term BDSM relationship if things work out.

If your interested I look forward to hearing from you

Hi all,

Looking forward to your messages.

I am a dom looking for a long term sub. Nothing short term and nothing shallow. You will be mine.

About me: I’m 6ft, brown hair brown eyes and a bit of a gym nut. I used to be a swimmer and like to maintain my body to that standard. I’m into walking, swimming, video games and reading.

I have been a dom for as long as I can remember. I have owned multiple people both online and in person and know what I want.

Kinks: tasks, showing off, body writing, reverse chastity, orgasm denial, edging, degradation/ humiliation

My limits are pretty much nothing other than scat and illegal things. Just ask.

We can discuss your limits and kinks at the start. Pictures are a must. Then you will be an obedient sub and submit your body to me. Love to have control over my sub - complete control

Send your age, sex, kinks in your first message

To show you’ve read it all tell me your favourite position.

Look forward to finding my sub