u/riddles6969

I feel like every one of these reads the same. So forgive me, but I’m actually going to be myself on this one. Probably better for everyone if you know what you’re getting into upfront.

I’m 38, based near Manchester, and I run my own business. That last bit matters only because it explains two things about me: I’m not short on stability, and I am permanently short on time. It’s why I’m here rather than haunting a munch every Thursday.

Outside of kink I’m basically your standard ADHD tinkerer. If there’s a problem that can be solved with wood, metal, plastic, or a soldering iron, I’m usually halfway through a YouTube rabbit hole about it. I build things, I (try to) fix things, I start projects I swear I’ll finish. When I’m not doing that you’ll find me at the cinema or at a comedy club on a weeknight, because life’s too short to spend it being serious about everything. I find humour in almost anything, the darker the better, and most people who know me would describe me as laid back to the point of horizontal.

Nobody who meets me guesses the dom thing. I give off big sub energy in day-to-day life, apparently. I’m easy to talk to, I laugh too much, and I don’t walk into rooms expecting anyone to kneel. That switches when it needs to, but it has to be earned on both sides first.

Ok onto the bit that actually matters.

What I enjoy about dominance isn’t the power trip. It’s the responsibility. Someone putting themselves under your control is an enormous thing, and I take it seriously. Too seriously, probably. I won’t go anywhere near a scene until everything has been properly talked through, boundaries mapped out, safewords agreed, aftercare planned. Because the truth is I’m quietly terrified of getting it wrong. That fear is actually what makes me careful. I need to know that you want this, that you’re curious about it for your own reasons, not because someone pushed you toward it. I get absolutely nothing from someone submitting against their will. Either I’m the right person to explore this with, or I’m not. No pressure either way.

I should also be upfront about what I’m offering as well. I’m not looking for a romantic relationship. I think I’m somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, which just means I experience connection differently. What I am offering is something genuine. I care about the people I play with. I check in between sessions, I remember what you told me last Tuesday, I take aftercare seriously, and we talk like actual human beings. Think of it more like a close friendship with a dynamic woven through it. It’s warm, it’s ongoing, and you matter to me as a person. It’s just not heading toward a joint mortgage.

What this hopefully looks like in practice: it starts online. We talk. Not just about kink, about everything. We figure out whether we actually enjoy each other’s company, because that matters more than any checklist. I adapt to the person in front of me rather than running a formula, so the dynamic gets built around you, not the other way around. If it works, we meet. I’m happy to travel and I’m happy to verify who I am privately whenever you’re ready for that.

If you know exactly what you want, great. If you’re curious but haven’t done this before and don’t even know what questions to ask yet, honestly that’s fine too. I enjoy guiding someone through that discovery and I’ll never make you feel stupid for not knowing something.

Open to couples as well, provided the dynamic works. I’m straight, so that shapes what’s on the table, but I’m not precious about the setup.

If any of this made you stop scrolling, drop me a message. Tell me what caught your eye, or just say hi. Even if you’re not sure what to say yet, that’s fine too. I don’t bite unless we’ve discussed it first.

I feel like every one of these reads the same. So forgive me, but I’m actually going to be myself on this one. Probably better for everyone if you know what you’re getting into upfront.

I’m 38, based near Manchester, and I run my own business. That last bit matters only because it explains two things about me: I’m not short on stability, and I am permanently short on time. It’s why I’m here rather than haunting a munch every Thursday.

Outside of kink I’m basically your standard ADHD tinkerer. If there’s a problem that can be solved with wood, metal, plastic, or a soldering iron, I’m usually halfway through a YouTube rabbit hole about it. I build things, I (try to) fix things, I start projects I swear I’ll finish. When I’m not doing that you’ll find me at the cinema or at a comedy club on a weeknight, because life’s too short to spend it being serious about everything. I find humour in almost anything, the darker the better, and most people who know me would describe me as laid back to the point of horizontal.

Nobody who meets me guesses the dom thing. I give off big sub energy in day-to-day life, apparently. I’m easy to talk to, I laugh too much, and I don’t walk into rooms expecting anyone to kneel. That switches when it needs to, but it has to be earned on both sides first.

Ok onto the bit that actually matters.

What I enjoy about dominance isn’t the power trip. It’s the responsibility. Someone putting themselves under your control is an enormous thing, and I take it seriously. Too seriously, probably. I won’t go anywhere near a scene until everything has been properly talked through, boundaries mapped out, safewords agreed, aftercare planned. Because the truth is I’m quietly terrified of getting it wrong. That fear is actually what makes me careful. I need to know that you want this, that you’re curious about it for your own reasons, not because someone pushed you toward it. I get absolutely nothing from someone submitting against their will. Either I’m the right person to explore this with, or I’m not. No pressure either way.

I should also be upfront about what I’m offering as well. I’m not looking for a romantic relationship. I think I’m somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, which just means I experience connection differently. What I am offering is something genuine. I care about the people I play with. I check in between sessions, I remember what you told me last Tuesday, I take aftercare seriously, and we talk like actual human beings. Think of it more like a close friendship with a dynamic woven through it. It’s warm, it’s ongoing, and you matter to me as a person. It’s just not heading toward a joint mortgage.

What this hopefully looks like in practice: it starts online. We talk. Not just about kink, about everything. We figure out whether we actually enjoy each other’s company, because that matters more than any checklist. I adapt to the person in front of me rather than running a formula, so the dynamic gets built around you, not the other way around. If it works, we meet. I’m happy to travel and I’m happy to verify who I am privately whenever you’re ready for that.

If you know exactly what you want, great. If you’re curious but haven’t done this before and don’t even know what questions to ask yet, honestly that’s fine too. I enjoy guiding someone through that discovery and I’ll never make you feel stupid for not knowing something.

Open to couples as well, provided the dynamic works. I’m straight, so that shapes what’s on the table, but I’m not precious about the setup.

If any of this made you stop scrolling, drop me a message. Tell me what caught your eye, or just say hi. Even if you’re not sure what to say yet, that’s fine too. I don’t bite unless we’ve discussed it first.