Hello all, I’m looking for a long term partner, who considers themselves a Sub or Sub leaning Switch. I'm looking build a loving relationship or good friendship with a healthy dose of Kink. Someone to chat about our days as much as kinky stuff. I don't mind starting online but looking to move to RL at one point.

A bit about me: I 'm male Dom leaning Switch (mostly dom these days) living in Burlington NJ. No kids, never married, do not drink (allergies) but am 420 friendly. I'm 51, 5’10, 230lbs (chubby) , decent looking but no model, I tend to  have a long beard in the winter and short one in the summer.

On the normal side of my life I’m more of a geeky guy than a jock and prefer to watching movies, shows or play a game over watching sports. I do enjoy going on walks, whether that's hiking or just window shopping.

For kinks they are wide and varied but for me the turn on is more control than pain, That is to say I like “Dominance and Submission” more then Sadomasochism, although I do love to take someone over my knee for a spanking (I mean who doesn’t?). I lean more toward the gentle Dom With a sadistic (puckish) side that comes out to play from time to time.

Some of the kinks I really enjoy are Orgasm control , tease and denial, light embarrassment/humiliation/degradation, praise, pet play, ABDL, begging, spanking, light bondage, light pain, Rping (can get detailed), Oral (love both giving and receiving) body worship / massage (giving and receiving), and aftercare.

What I am looking for

Cis woman

age 30-60

Drugs and alcohol: No heavy drug use or alcohol abuse. Weed (I smoke) and light drinking are all good!

Communication:  I expect you to be open about your wants, needs and experience and I expect you to communicate when you will and will not be available. I do not take kindly to getting ghosted.

Relationship : NO CHEATERS! I can work with poly but have no desire to be in the middle of your drama.

Distance: Within 2 hours of NJ.

Anyway I hope this catches some beautiful submissive eye. if it does please shoot me a chat request I look forward to talking with you.

Anyway I hope you all have a great and kinky night!

Hi, I'm looking for someone to create a special connection with. Both in bdsm & more vanilla themes. Someone who likes to be a mentor & guide that I can learn from.

Me: Italian heritage & darker features, 5.4, hwp, affectionate, creative, intelligent, sassy, good sense of humor & conversationalist.

You: A mature gentleman, creative, affectionate, straight, monogamous, intelligent, fun, and adventurous.

I like quiet evenings at home, curled up on the couch with a special someone as well as going on fun outings & discovering new places & activities we love.

Some of my bdsm interests include D/s, Owner/pet, Ddlg, Spanker/spanky, and more. I also like art & being creative, music, animals, gardening, cooking, hiking & exploring in nature, and the mystical realms. I'm also a cannabis enthusiast so please at least be 420 friendly.

West coast is better because of timezones/distance but it's not a deal breaker. I'm not looking for just RP. If you'd like to reach out to me please tell me a lil something about yourself & your interests.

Good luck to you & let's all stay safe out there!

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I’m a 46-year-old guy in Northern Virginia, recently separated after 16 years. I’m 6'2" and 200 lbs with a muscular build, green eyes, and tattoos. I enjoy staying active, so you can usually find me running, lifting weights, or cycling when I'm not working at my cybersecurity gig.

I’m definitely more of an introvert and I really value direct, honest communication over small talk. I tend to prefer quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. My interests include independent music, movies, and dining out. It would be great to find someone who shares some of these, but I’m mostly looking to build a reliable, ongoing casual connection with the right person.

Physical chemistry is a priority for me. I’m looking for a partner who is sexually adventurous and actually into butt stuff as a regular part of the dynamic. I’d rather be upfront about that now so we don't waste time if we aren't a match there.

If you’re local to the area and looking for something consistent and transparent, send me a message. I’m happy to exchange photos once we start talking.

Hi! I’m 34, male, from central Ohio and I’m married and we have been ethically non monogamous for some years now. I’m saying this upfront so nobody messages me and is like “oh you didn’t say that in your message.”

I have a really weird fetish for women in black low top Chuck Taylors and smooth, shaved legs. I have no idea how I acquired this interest, but I’ve had it since forever. I also feel like my own legs are sexy in Chucks. I was thinking to myself and said self, maybe there are some cool girls in Columbus who might wear Chucks and would be down to make a friendship and share some interesting moments.

Here are my daydreams.

I’m in the movies with a girl in a short dress or skirt and Chucks and I lay my hand on her thigh and she makes that LOOK as I work my way up her thigh. I find out how shaved and wet she is. I see her hips buckle.

If she returns the favor, she will have to deal with my load. Things will get messy. Maybe she’ll lick it out of her hand.

Another one is us taking a walk in Easton or at the Park of Roses and I am taking photos of her for her fashion blog in her sexy outfit. What no one around knows is that there is a vibe inside her, and the shocked and embarrassed faces she is making is because I’m controlling it during the photoshoot.

Another one is knowing that she wants to make a move, but waiting for her to do it. I wonder when the right moment is.

Another is us sitting in a booth at a restaurant she whispers the magic phrase in my ear and see how long it takes me to get hard. I hope she doesn’t cause a mess.

Another is us chilling on the couch, watching tv and eating dinner and she notices my tent and casually asks when the last time I’ve had a blow job is. She asks me questions about what I like about bjs, and offers to help with my condition….

The interesting thing about all these is that I am 99% sure that these are just fantasies. I do know that I think about these fantasies a lot, and I bet if any of them happened in real life it would only take me four seconds to bust.

I do know that the photoshoot idea is something I’m actually interested in and also know that I might be into some intimate moments but I am not looking for vaginal sex for any reason at all.

I have a billion pics on my phone of Converse outfits to show you, and I have pics of me of course.

I’m looking for someone who is a consistent communicator and likes to text and share pics sometimes. Sometimes voice calls, and if we become friends, even hanging out frequently.

I also only am interested in talking to women from the central Ohio area.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

I am a 47 year old single man, pretty fit, educated, a good career I am proud of, and for the most part happy with life. I’m a native New Yorker that has my own place (a great space for exploring and no roommates) and feel pretty well rounded. I’m looking for a real, ongoing connection in some way. Open to starting slow and see what may blossom. I am experienced and not looking for any players or games.

I’m a pretty balanced guy, I like to go out with friends, explore the city, have drinks on occasion, check out museums, bands, some intellectual pursuits, I love biking, soccer, rock climbing. I consider myself balanced and emotionally stable. I also feel like I have a good amount of skills and interests, I have a background in public health, teaching, film, and philosophy. I especially love film, jazz, and intellectual curiosity, always learning. I like to cook, and especially bake healthy versions of desserts, and enjoy good communication and conversation.

I have a strong history of being taking on the dominant role in the bedroom, and we can talk more about this in the chat. My style is to focus on the emotional and mental and psychological aspects of ceding control, being vulnerable and exploring boundaries. I especially love strict bondage, some primal play, and orgasm control. I’ve taken classes in shibari, spanking, role-play and other things so I don’t consider myself a newbie, exploring power dynamics is something I greatly enjoy and I do so thoughtfully, safely, and want both parties to feel pleasure. I prefer someone experienced, but if you are new to this feel free to reach out and we can see if there’s a connection. I can host and have a big area with overhead beams for more serious play.

Having a connection is a prerequisite for me as I don’t do one night stands and only want to spend time with people I enjoy and respect. Ultimately I would want to have a nice ongoing kinky connection, whether it’s play partners or something developing more seriously.

If possible, please include age, location, and some sort of physical description in your message just to weed out all the spam

I am currently looking for a longterm connection with a sub.

I do prefer men in EST time zone, others can be considered as long as you are in the US.

Also, a disclaimer: obviously I do not condone violence, everything mentioned here is purely on a basis of a consensual BDSM dynamic. It's sad I need to mention it but I was recently reported and banned by Reddit for "condoning and inciting violence".

Kinks:

I am really into anal (using toys), keeping my sub chaste and humiliation/degradation. I also have a mommy kink, It's important to mention that while I am into controlling your orgasms, sex life, and into chastity. Other kinks include: pegging, light CBT, TPE, and much more.

Me:

36 5'6 Fit, educated, and very kinky! have been dominating men for over 10+ years. Dynamics lasted from 2 weeks to 3 years. I have provided men a safe space to explore this side of themselves, be it single, dating, or married.

You:

Share my kinks, are around my age (25-48), preferably tall, bearded, hairy, military, former military, and muscular. I am looking for a longterm connection in which you are expected to worship me, the dynamic DOES NOT revolve around what you want, but around what I am willing to give you.

I am not a kink dispenser. If that isn't you, please don't bother - there's also not much "worship" if you're not willing to put effort into making me happy on a general level, not just sexual. Being funny and smart are very important as well, I enjoy deep conversations as much as some fun banter, both are important to me. Additionally, you will commit to a set of daily rules, which can be discussed when you read out.

If all of that sounds appealing to you, feel free to properly introduce yourself, pic, any experience as a submissive. I will not respond to one liners. Also, you have to be okay with face pictures quite early.

I'm a male soft dom!, outside my kink life I like to go to the gym, read philosophy and weird books, play videogames and play bass/guitar, on my kink side I describe myself as a soft Dom.

I'm looking for a chubby sub (is my personal taste hehe) who is into pee fetish, general BDSM such spanking, edging, and praise kink. I know that this subreddit is about just pure kink and fetishes, but I like to connect first before jumping into the kink side, as I Soft Dom I pay attention to what other people like and dislikes and encourage communication, as I always say, communication is the key. Even if you don't want to talk about the kink side, I'm always open to more casual chatting, my DMs are always open just conduct with respect.

Please let me know if you are in some sort of relationship or something like that, feel free to mention anything at the start so we're both good.

If you've read this far, Thank you for reading I hope to hear from you~

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Do you sometimes feel that things slip out of control? Everything moving too fast-paced? Hard to stick to the goals you have set for yourself?

If the answer to this is yes, then maybe it is time to seek a dominant force that provides structure, accountability and care. Handing over control over (certain areas) of your life - receiving rules, tasks, rewards and punishment.

I am here to become that mysterious guiding force in your life. For this, I choose a position in which I practically stay anonymous. You'll know nothing about me while I know everything about you - a true power imbalance.

If that resonates with you, send me a chat and introduce yourself.