r/AffairsR4R

47 white male professional from NYC looking to meet a smart, fun woman for a discreet, ongoing connection. I’m in a dead bedroom situation and looking for someone who understands the importance of privacy and keeping things simple.

I appreciate intelligence, a good sense of humor, and someone who knows how to keep things light but still meaningful.

I’m 5'11", and people often tell me I look younger than my age. Big fan of anything 80’s — movies, music, the whole vibe.

If you’re a woman who finds yourself in a similar place and thoughtful, discreet, and looking for real chemistry without complications. I’d like to hear from you.

And just to make sure you actually read this: what’s your all-time favorite 80’s comedy?

Hello there! 33 Married White male here looking for someone to talk to and get to know and see where things go. So far I haven't had much luck because I'm either looking for something not serious enough for someone (meaning that I don't want to completely upend anyone's life) or they seem to be intimidated by the situation which i totally get. Essentially I'm looking for someone that is a best friend that can turn into new experiences and more. Someone I can confide in and vent to, and talk to on a daily basis. I have a tendency to really get along with either older women or people close to my age that have been through similar situations as I have. But I'm open to talking to someone 21+ .A lot of it was how I grew up and how it essentially forced me to "grow up" at a young age just to survive I guess you can say I like trauma bonding in a sense. A little bit about myself is I love to cook, I'm a huge music person, I love true crime podcasts and I love just learning about people and where they come from. I'm looking for a distraction from day to day life and would really like a new friend :) I'm a transplant to my state so I don't really have friends here and I get lonely very easily 😭. So If you like a bearded husky metalhead who has a dark sense of humor and loves to cook and nerd out to music and games we may be a match!

Giving it one last shot. I am looking for that 1 person who wants a long-term ongoing AP. Someone who I can give my time to and build trust with and end up having something good come from it. I am missing that spark and romance in my life. I miss the good morning and good night text as well as just random messages throughout the day. With all that being said I am not looking for multiple partners or one night stands.

About me:

\\\*I am married and have kids.

\\\*My home life is good in all other aspects. The only thing that's missing is spark and intimacy, so it feels like we are just roommates at this point

\\\*I dont want to change my situation and dont expect you to change yours either.

\\\*Discretion is a 1000x a must that should go without saying

Me: 40-year-old, 6 feet tall, 170 lbs. darker chocolate skin, super short black hair, and facial hair. A 5 o'clock shadow. I have a professional career as well and am stable, so another reason for discretion.

I would like to find someone who is up to chatting a bit on here and get to know each other, and if the vibe and connection are good, we can meet up in a public place and go from there.

Shall we dispense with the flowery words and contrived phrases meant to appeal to as many as possible while probably turning off the one I'm really looking for? I'd rather just be straight anyway.

I want to chat regularly throughout the day as our lives allow, not because we have to but because it flows. This requires that we both be able to carry on a conversation using more than one or two word phrases. It also requires a genuine desire to get to know one another. Yeah, I want us to smile, laugh, banter back and forth, and then share more deeply as it becomes right. That's what I mean by regular.

I want something that we both want to keep. Because we both enjoy it. Because it's worth it. Because it sucks being here trying to sift through the detritus to find that something special. No ghosting. This require emotional awareness and maturity on both our parts. It means we communicate. And if we don't vibe, we're adult enough to say it and wish one another the best. That's what I mean by long-term.

I want all this with the undeniable undercurrent of desire-flirting, exploring, the electricity when our skin finally touches. So yeah, I will want to meet when the time is right, and if it's right, we'll want to meet again and again. That's what I mean by an undercurrent of desire.

So there it is. Do I need to throw in all the tired but true disclaimers now? I hope you already understand them and are still reading because they're assumed. Should I be more forward and crass? I feel like you've already seen those posts. But yes, I want you with all your kinks, desires, quirks, and everything else.

I know, I haven't said much about myself in the typical sense but if you're listening I've told you a great deal, or at least enough for you to be interested in more. But for those who need it: I'm a 50 married male who is fit and reasonably intelligent with a bit of a sarcastic sense of humor. I'd like to get to know you. If you're quirky or a bit of a nerd, we'll probably get along well.

I'd love to hear from you.

Seeking thrilling connection with one other to add some non vanilla to each others lives, ideally an ongoing FWB type thing that builds to irl adventure buddies.

38, 5'10, discreet, fit leaning, intelligent, tatted, writer, creative type, book hoarder, music buff, leftist, love wine, pets and travel, 420 friendly, snipped

Not too hung up on type or situation just match my energy on taking care of yourself physically, mentally and so on. ++ if we share interests, availability etc

MST preferred but not a dealbreaker, I work remote and have good availabilty

When you are married and sleep alone it’s a lonely existence. I am a tall runner, athletic body/in great shape hoping to find a long term AP who is either a runner or otherwise active. Please be in IN or close so we can meet easily if we want to. I’m not looking for a fling, I want to meet somebody for a long term AP. I am educated, handsome, can carry a conversation, and also a musician. Let’s find out what we have in common. Send me a message, let’s talk. Let’s get to know each other.

31 married white male in the suburbs of Chicago.

Anyone else craving positivity in their house?

Anyone need someone to look forward to talk to?

Anyone need someone to get excited when you receive a message from them?

Let's give eachother what we deserve.

Maybe you're watching baseball today. Maybe you could care less about sports. That's fine. I would love to pick your brain and hear what you're passionate about. I want to listen to you and care about you.

I'd like to start with chatting online and see what happens depending on where you live. 

Looking for discretion, fun conversations, and potentially more. Message me if interested. Telegram ready.

Hey there, just moved back to North Carolina and trying to settle into the area while keeping things interesting. 20F, outgoing and easy to talk to - love deep convos, dark humor, and overthinking life choices with the right person. If you're around these parts and want someone to debate the best fast food fries with or just vibe, let’s chat. You know, the usual adult stuff - remote work, questionable life decisions, and pretending we have it all together.

Hi I'm looking for a woman in Georgia or Alabama to have some fun with, in a sexless relationship and need something discreet.

6'6, with glasses, beard, large hands, and an oral fixation (love to eat pussy)

Married, no kids. 6’0” bearded country boy. Farm-active around the horses, and other grunt work. Professional day job but WFH pro, and lead guitar player on the side. What’s your favorite Texas country song or artist??

Seeking a hot connection with plenty of late-night banter, voice notes, and flirty heat. Sarcastic, intellectually playful, and I like taking the lead. Online is great to start but more than open to meeting up if schedules allow. Not locked into status quo on either side. Not my first rodeo but don’t care if it’s yours. But be serious and know you’re wanting something that can get real. Love a slow burn. But open to that out of control raging fire as well.

Big on physical attraction: petite preferred, curvy in the right spots, and always a sucker for blondes & redheads.

If you’ve got the availability and can handle a little dominant country-boy energy, hit me up. Let’s see what kind of trouble we can stir up.