r/Affairs

Last affair ended. I don’t want to be here again 😩 I’m guessing you don’t either. Will you save me?!?

This place genuinely sucks the life out of your soul. But I do want to find the right person for something long-term and committed. A real love affair.

Yes, I said love. If you’re afraid of the feels, don’t message me.

Me:

• Married. 2 kids. 2 dogs
• Brunette. Big blue eyes. Full lips. Light skin.
• Curvy. Not obese, but not skinny. I’m hot as fuck and very confident in who I am, but I do have extra weight. If that’s not your thing, I’m not offended, just keep scrolling
• Intelligent. High-powered career that I love
• Passionate about life. Funny, outgoing, and love to chat and banter about silly things, then switch into deeper conversations
• A giver to the fullest extent. I will give you my all, even on the hardest days

You:

• 5’11 minimum, preferably over 6ft
• Conventionally attractive. You don’t need to be perfect, but I fit the bill of a typical pretty mom, so you should be that dad too
• Both dominant and gentle. You know when to lead and when to listen, when to hold firm and when to soften
• Actually interesting. Funny and kind.
• Want a relationship, depth, consistency, and connection
• You can ride the wave. Not every day is butterflies and rainbows, and you’re still willing to be there for me on the hard days

I want to be consumed and chosen every single day, and I want to give that to you too. I will give you everything I have and more, and I expect the same in return.

Willing to start or stay online, but nothing beats in person. I do travel for work so - yay for that.

Can’t wait to hear from you 🥰

I'm not looking for love or an exit; but I'm also not built for anything careless. I need meaningful connection. Conversation that flows. The ability to trust and release. A sense that you're grounded and know what you want; that I can exhale a little when it matches what I want.

I'm confident, feminine, and very comfortable in my own skin. Curves and stretch marks included. If you're drawn to women who take up space; physically and otherwise, we might get along. I am intense, passionate, and too much and I own myself completely.

I'm attracted to men who can meet me as an equal, who don't shrink or compete, just stand solidly in who they are. Chemistry starts with personality, always, but I'm not built for slight or tentative. I like a man who feels like he can hold his own, in every sense.

This isn't about building something. It's about stepping outside of real life, briefly, with someone who knows how to be in the moment. Tell me what you are searching for, the type of woman you connect with, and how you would like to spend time together?

Please read to the end… or not. But if it’s clear you didn’t read and just auto-replying bc this is a (F4M) post, I probably won’t read your response too lol. 

I’m so tired of looking through these posts, finding the same buzz words that get our attention, only to find the man behind them to be dull, unavailable, and the descriptions they’ve given to be misleading. If you’re going to respond, please be willing to put in the work and be genuine. We shouldn’t  be wasting our energy and time wearing masks, trying to be who we aren’t when THIS, in itself, is enough work. 

Me: 43, married mom. Unseen, unrecognized, unheard. We’ve lost more than the spark, we’ve grown completely apart. We live together, coparent, but he does his thing, and I do my own. I miss being in a relationship and would like to find someone in a similar situation. To be clear, I’m not looking to change my situation or find someone to run off with and  change theirs. I just want to fall for someone and for him to fall for me.  Communication is key - doesn’t have to be constant, but I’d like consistency. I can be curious and chatty but hate being the only one to carry the conversation. I’m fun, soft, cute, quirky, I’d like to think nerdy and intelligent but probably more dorky, tall, attractive and slim/fit. I love bingewatching shows, crime docs are my jam, suspense/action/thriller movies and shows are addicting. Music is always playing in my head, in my car, at home, I’m always interested to know what’s on your Spotify. Love the outdoors, nature, the wind in my hair and face, driving with the windows down. I love a good dark roast, usually preferred hot, even on summer days. 

You: 35-45, married dad (if you’re a parent, you’ll understand). Not just bored with an unsatisfied libido, but also emotionally and intellectually available. Funny and expressive! It’s such a shame when an attractive face and body have no substance. Please be a good conversationalist - one line responses dry me out, mentally and physically. I’m a tall slender gal and would prefer someone at least 5’11” (because that’s where I’d stand at, with heels on) and with some mass (read: muscle, lol) Slender, skinny types need not apply - I want to feel small in your arms. I love a man who’s good with his hands (not just in bed) but also quick with his wit. Make me feel wanted, desired, wondered about, needed, you should want this too.

If it comes to it, I’d like this to become an in person thing so availability is something to consider! 

Discretion/OPSEC in place

And now the work begins…

Married for over a decade, together for even longer. Looking for more excitement in the bedroom!

Not looking to change situations, but maybe we can play?

NJ/PA/DE

Educated, married with kids, looking for an AP with same life expectations that wants to meet up in real life. I have a professional job, so can afford this hobby, please be in similar situation with means and opportunity. I enjoy concerts and new experiences. I prefer tall, funny men. Personality/humor and enjoying conversation/banter is a must. Tell me your worst dating experience….

Hiya 👋 34 married man here, looking for someone in or near New York City who doesn't mind planning ahead and wants to form a trusting connection before meeting.

I'll be in Manhattan on Saturday 5/23 and I'll have a room at a hotel in midtown that evening. Once my plans are finished, I would love to meet someone back at my hotel for some deliciously naughty fun ;)

To that end, I'd like to meet someone here first and chat for a few weeks, so that there's a level of trust and connection built before we put our faces in each others' genitals 😂

I'm 5'11", 190lbs, white, bearded, DDF, educated, and employed. My favorite things in bed are oral sex and dirty talk. I have a nice dick, I'm extremely open-minded, and I'm very vocal & verbal in bed.

Let’s skip the awkward small talk. If you’re here, you’re probably missing something. I am too, just in a very specific way.

I’m upfront by nature, so here it is.

I’m 42, no kids, and in a relatively happy marriage. What I’m missing is that flirty, sexy, mentally engaging connection. I want the kind of conversation that makes you smirk at your phone and come back for more. I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation, and I won’t be changing mine.

Now for the obvious. I’m a big woman. Fully, unapologetically. I’m 5’10”, around 350 lbs, blue eyes, brunette, with long hair down to my ass. If that’s not your thing, no hard feelings. If it is… you’ll probably have a good time here. Please mention cats in your message to me to let me know you actually read this.

Personality wise, I’m the kind of person who will send you a meme at the worst possible moment, remember something small you said three days ago, and somehow make you laugh when you didn’t expect to. I’m easy to talk to, a little chaotic thanks to ADHD, and I genuinely enjoy making people feel good.

What I’m looking for is someone who can match that energy. Make me laugh, flirt a little, send dumb memes, and actually enjoy the back and forth. Someone patient with a brain that occasionally tabs out mid-thought. You also need to be comfortable with an open situation, since that’s non-negotiable for me. If things go well, we’ll move to Discord since I’m on there much more than here. Bonus points if you’re taller than me and have blue or green eyes I can get lost in. Prefer if you’re closer to somewhere like the Mount Juliet area.

So… are you down with the thiccness?

6’3”, “athletic-ish” build, always had a kink for sexy women - age not an issue. Are you game? DM to see if spark.

Work will soon be taking me to the Davenport area on a regular basis (quarterly is my best guess). I'm looking for a woman who is looking for an escape, but not an exit. I'm ok with cake eaters, because this is parallel to real life.

I would love a tour guide and romantic date for sweet and memorable moments in and out of the bedroom.

I'm educated, professional and overall successful in life. Discretion is paramount - I expect it 1000% and promise it in return. This is just for us and nobody gets hurt. This will be our guiding principle. Ideally you are also a parent, so we have just as much at stake and likely have more in common.

I will be up front that I won't share a face pic online. Theres just too much at risk. I will be happy to meet in public for coffee and tell you more about me once trust is established. In the meantime, I'll tell you that I'm 5’11”, dad bod but athletic, shaved head and bright blue eyes. I carry myself with confidence and I can make anyone smile. I'll make you laugh, blush, and smile.

Would love it if you said hi.

Hello and I hope this post finds you doing well. Send me a chat to get to know more about me if I piqued your curiosity.

I am in Miami, Fl.

I'm a 36 year old white Hispanic male. 6'2", 190bs, with a long lean build, clean, drug and disease free. I have been married for the last 10years and I have two small children 8 and 5 years of age. Our 5 year old is disabled and which has put a lot of stress on our marriage and thus we have no sex.

I am laid back, even killed, patient and giving but in the bedroom I am dominant and know what I like and want to be satisfied.

Kinks I like; verbal dirty talk, bondage, reward and punishment play, some light face slapping, some light choking you with my hands, love to hear my woman gag and choke on my Cock but above all I have a huge kink/fetish for receiving oral sex, especially deepthroat facefucking.

Ideally I would like to find one steady consistent affair partner who has similar sexual energy as me.

51M, 6’0”, hazel eyes, some silver showing up whether I like it or not. Pretty laid back, easy to talk to… but I’ve got a side of me that comes out when there’s real chemistry.

I’ll just be straight, I recently lost a connection that meant more to me than I ever expected. It ended quick, no drama, no bad feelings… just left a bit of a gap I’m still adjusting to. Not here to disrespect that or drag it through the mud. Just being honest that I miss having someone.

Not trying to replace anything. I just wouldn’t mind a distraction that feels good.

Someone to talk to throughout the day….

a little flirting that maybe goes a bit further than planned…

that feeling when a conversation shifts and you both notice it.

I’m not pushy. Not the guy firing off pics or acting desperate. I actually enjoy the back and forth, getting to know someone a bit and yeah, seeing where that chemistry goes if it’s there.

Not looking to complicate life, mine or yours. Just two people who get it, keeping each other company, maybe making things a little more interesting again.

If that sounds like something you could use too, say hi.

Marriage, kids, and career have life feeling a bit numb, so I’m here in search of her — a married, mother, career-driven boss woman. I’m not looking to change my situation, and I expect the same from you.

I’m drawn to highly educated, highly accomplished women. I have that “soft dominant” energy to match what you bring to the table.

A little about me: 6’1”, 215 lbs, muscular, blue eyes, tattoos, great hair, and a smile to match. Highly educated myself. I can hold conversations on many levels, and I’m constantly growing — mentally, physically, and spiritually.

I’m all about the build-up — bringing passion and heat between us, because let’s be real… that’s why we’re here: the escape from everyday life. I’m consistent, with VN, pictures, and videos throughout the day.

Let’s vibe and see if there’s a spark between us.

PS: I use Telegram

Okay. Here’s a totally legit non Ai written post… oh wait does saying it make it less legit? lol anyway.

So here’s my story. Married young. Have an amazing wife. Had a kid. Sex completely stopped. So I’m in this weird situation where I don’t want to change things but I also want to try and find someone to build something with , someone on the same boat.

I’ve been on these subs before. Found great connections… but that was a while ago. I’m hoping to find something like that again. I’m very open minded, very outdoorsy, athletic but geek out on a lot of stuff at the same time. So my personality is like… a mix of a bunch of things I guess? Anyway. Successful in life. I’m 6ft hwp, brown skin, head full of hair :) if you think we might vibe, dm me? I can yap on all night about my hobbies and bore the hell out of you. Or try to reason why my pets are the best in the world. I’m also open to this being in person if things go that far. But want to make sure that neither of us want to change our situation at home. I want to be there for you and want you to be there for me. I’m tired of giving and giving and getting nothing in return at home. So I want to find someone to shower with attention. I want the sass. I want the flirt. I want the naughty. I want the companionship. I definitely love sending those good morning texts and also waking up to them. I want you to share little snippets of your day but I also understand that life gets in the way and you won’t always be available. I definitely also want to get naughty once we build the trust. But anyway. Enough yapping. Reach out!

A conversation…you remember those right? I say something, you respond. You say something I make a comment, we go off on a tangent because it reminded me of a time at the place with what’s their name. The kind that doesn’t come to an abrupt halt constantly with “IDK, u?”. The kind that meanders. “Yes, and…”. All day. Everyday. That doesn’t mean we’re gonna tell each other every single intimate detail of our lives from the jump. It means we can converse about our days, nights, likes, dislikes, the simple things, in generalities or with somethings redacted at first, then in more detail as we go along and build trust. Let’s be friends before anything else. From there, who knows, but first things first.

Here are some of the things that are really important to me:

**Time** **& effort** – I have time during the days and evenings to devote to this. Please be the same. I’m mostly WFH so I’m available to message most of the day, and for calls (video and audio only) regularly. Please be in a similar situation (WFH, SAHM, home business…something along those lines). If we get busy for a bit, we’ll always let each other know ahead of time. The goal, when we get there, is to be mutually obsessed with each other. Good mornings first thing as we wake up. Good night’s without fail. We will be a priority to each other. All the little silly and simple things of the we’ll share without even needing to be asked.

**Being a parent** – I’m one, and I relate much better to other parents with kids in school. Our kids are our joy in the home, and I want to be able to share that with and you with me once we build up trust and get to that point. We’ll give each other advice, share experiences and we’ll celebrate each others important moments. We’ll also help each other bear the frustrations, anxieties, and headaches that arise from being a parent.

**Dead** **bedroom** – It’s where I’m at, please be the same. Not cake eating, not just looking for strange. Intimacy is damn near a foreign concept to your SO.

**Experienced** – You’re not just lurking and/or new to the AP life. I’ve been through the wringer a few times, I need you to be the same. You know what it takes to keep it going. You’re not afraid of the feels and all that it entails if that’s where it leads. Something special, something that will last. You’re not careless, with safety or feelings. We’ll protect each other.

**Not the worst** – If you like anything about the current presidential administration, just no. You care about people, not just the ones that look like you. You like to think, investigate, learn, experience new and different things. Also, please don’t be a big believer in astrology, tarot or online personality tests.

A bit about me;

**Jack of all trades** – I can talk at least a little bit about a lot of things. In depth about a number of them (the rest I can make up in true Dad fashion). I’m a wealth of facts, useful and otherwise. So let the convo wander. Teach me something. I’ll do my best to teach you something as well. Let’s talk hobbies, media, drinks (please be someone who has a go-to cocktail), fashion, pop culture, classic movies, cooking, the stuff our kids force upon us, whatever happens to be on your mind.

**Communication** – I like a lot of it. Probably an unreasonable amount. If I get busy for a few hours, I’ll always let you know (please be the same). Otherwise, expect to hear from me all day, and into the evenings, everyday. I’m not a night owl, but I’ll try to be around as much as possible. Even if there’s a bit of a delay, I will always respond (again, please be the same). Messages, calls, pics//videos. All of it as regularly as we can when we get there; it’ll take time to build up to that point.

**Physical** – It’ll take time to get to pics, they will not be upfront. We’re gonna see if we even get along first before anything else. That said I’m average height, hwp with a touch of fluff. I work out as often as I can but I'm by no means a gym rat. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments at the pic stage. Especially my eyes and lips, so, I got that going for me, which is nice. I’d like you to be hwp-ish too. When we get there, I want us to really enjoy each other. You will be appreciated, adored. Show off to me.

The sooner we can jump off Reddit chat the better. It’s just easier. I’m using Signal, so make sure that’s ok for the down the line. As the title notes, I’m in the PST. Timezones matter, so be in the US and no further than the CST. I’m an 80’s and 90’s kid, It’d help if you are too. It makes it easier if we can get each other’s references & have similar experiences (remember the 80’s when child safety seats were…non-existent? All our Moms and Dads smoked while they drove, ate at restaurants & slept? Between the concussions and secondhand smoke it’s a miracle we’re still alive).

Drop me a line, tell me about yourself. If something really spoke to you in this post, tell me what it was. Can’t wait to hear from you.

You can tell a LOT about someone by the way they treat their dog. I want to hear about your dog and how important they are to your life.

As for me, I was the dog dad to two English Springer Spaniels. Both were super cute dogs and everybody on my block knew MY dogs.

As for me - I’m 50, married, two boys, love sports, and traveling (domestic and international). I’m by and large loyal to Chicago sports teams. My neighbors know me by my dogs and kids rather than my name, which I than says a LOT about me.

I’m looking to connect with someone that is 43+, married with kids, and yes … a fellow dog mom. I work downtown where I have most amount of flexibility. I’d prefer that we not run into each other at our local Costco or Trader Joe’s.

If any of this resonates - drop me a line and let’s chat

Hi, I am 28, in a relationship, educated, successful business owner, arab background. I have been with my partner for a while now, and given our conservative background, things are getting a bit vanilla. I work hard and make good money, and want someone to play with. Someone to explore new experiences and have fun with. Would like to build a strong connection, trust, chemistry and then take it from there.

I am not picky in terms of ethnicity, age, marital status etc. I am just interested in someone I find attractive, can form a good bond with, and have enjoyable encounters with. Being discrete is a must. We can exchange and share pics privately. I consider myself to be fit and good looking. I am 175cm tall, and 85kgs fit muscly. I train at the gym often. If this sounds like something you are interested in, message me!

If you can finish the lyric, move to the front of the line. If not, please read on.

I have tried posting and I have tried DMing, and posting always seems to attract more responses. It’s frustrating to reply to 30 posts and not hear back from anyone. Just as I assume it’s overwhelming to get 200+ messages. I’m just looking for a person to connect with, find the spark and chase the butterflies. Attraction is important so I’d like to see you and have you see me sooner than later. I like to have fun, flirt a little and tell you your butt looks cute in those pants 😉 I overuse emojis and I will listen to you complain about Denise in accounting, who IS a total bitch and takes hour long lunch breaks without discipline. Ugh, she’s the worst. Bring your A game on good energy and hype vibes, I’ll be your #1 cheerleader in no time. Typically available, but life will pull me away here and there. That doesn’t mean you’re not important to me, be patient and I promise to make it worth your time. I’m not quick to get to the spicy stuff, if we end up there cause the chemistry takes us there, great! But I’m here for the romantic roller coaster and the emotional connection. I can tell you plenty more when you message me, but hit me up with your current favorite song and what you like about what you just read. If you don’t answer these, I’m assuming you didn’t really read this.

Red flags include:

-MAGA people (tried it, can’t do it)

-short, one word replies (looking for conversation)

-overconfidence/cockiness (none of us are that great, calm down)

I’m sassy, I’m fun, I’m not hideous, and I’ll make you check your phone way too often. Hope to hear from you :)

25M based in NY/Long Island.

I’ll be upfront about where I’m at I'm currently in a relationship that, on the surface, looks fine, but it’s missing something meaningful. It’s not drama, it’s not chaos… just a quiet absence that’s been harder to ignore lately. If you’ve ever felt that kind of gap, you probably understand how it can sit in the back of your mind and slowly grow louder.

I’m not here to complicate anyone’s life or create problems. Discretion, respect, and honesty matter a lot to me. I’m simply looking to connect with someone who gets that feeling and is in a similar headspace someone who values something real, even if it starts small.

A little about me: I’m easygoing, grounded, and pretty easy to talk to. I have a solid sense of humor, enjoy meaningful conversation, and I’m the kind of person who actually listens and pays attention. I take care of myself, stay active, and like to keep a good balance between going out and enjoying new experiences and just relaxing and unwinding.

What I’m looking for is simple in theory, but hard to find genuine connection, mutual understanding, and natural chemistry. No pressure, no forced expectations… just seeing where things go organically. Whether that turns into great conversation, shared moments, or something that develops over time, I’m open to it.

If you’re in NY/Long Island and this resonates with you if you feel like something’s missing too don’t hesitate to reach out. Let’s start with a conversation and see if there’s something there.