45 M4F PST - Let's have a conversation...
A conversation…you remember those right? I say something, you respond. You say something I make a comment, we go off on a tangent because it reminded me of a time at the place with what’s their name. The kind that doesn’t come to an abrupt halt constantly with “IDK, u?”. The kind that meanders. “Yes, and…”. All day. Everyday. That doesn’t mean we’re gonna tell each other every single intimate detail of our lives from the jump. It means we can converse about our days, nights, likes, dislikes, the simple things, in generalities or with somethings redacted at first, then in more detail as we go along and build trust. Let’s be friends before anything else. From there, who knows, but first things first.
Here are some of the things that are really important to me:
Time & effort – I have time during the days and evenings to devote to this. Please be the same. I’m mostly WFH so I’m available to message most of the day, and for calls (video and audio only) regularly. Please be in a similar situation (WFH, SAHM, home business…something along those lines). If we get busy for a bit, we’ll always let each other know ahead of time. The goal, when we get there, is to be mutually obsessed with each other. Good mornings first thing as we wake up. Good night’s without fail. We will be a priority to each other. All the little silly and simple things of the we’ll share without even needing to be asked.
Being a parent – I’m one, and I relate much better to other parents with kids in school. Our kids are our joy in the home, and I want to be able to share that with and you with me once we build up trust and get to that point. We’ll give each other advice, share experiences and we’ll celebrate each others important moments. We’ll also help each other bear the frustrations, anxieties, and headaches that arise from being a parent.
Dead bedroom – It’s where I’m at, please be the same. Not cake eating, not just looking for strange. Intimacy is damn near a foreign concept to your SO.
Experienced – You’re not just lurking and/or new to the AP life. I’ve been through the wringer a few times, I need you to be the same. You know what it takes to keep it going. You’re not afraid of the feels and all that it entails if that’s where it leads. Something special, something that will last. You’re not careless, with safety or feelings. We’ll protect each other.
Not the worst – If you like anything about the current presidential administration, just no. You care about people, not just the ones that look like you. You like to think, investigate, learn, experience new and different things. Also, please don’t be a big believer in astrology, tarot or online personality tests.
A bit about me;
Jack of all trades – I can talk at least a little bit about a lot of things. In depth about a number of them (the rest I can make up in true Dad fashion). I’m a wealth of facts, useful and otherwise. So let the convo wander. Teach me something. I’ll do my best to teach you something as well. Let’s talk hobbies, media, drinks (please be someone who has a go-to cocktail), fashion, pop culture, classic movies, cooking, the stuff our kids force upon us, whatever happens to be on your mind.
Communication – I like a lot of it. Probably an unreasonable amount. If I get busy for a few hours, I’ll always let you know (please be the same). Otherwise, expect to hear from me all day, and into the evenings, everyday. I’m not a night owl, but I’ll try to be around as much as possible. Even if there’s a bit of a delay, I will always respond (again, please be the same). Messages, calls, pics//videos. All of it as regularly as we can when we get there; it’ll take time to build up to that point.
Physical – It’ll take time to get to pics, they will not be upfront. We’re gonna see if we even get along first before anything else. That said I’m average height, hwp with a touch of fluff. I work out as often as I can but I'm by no means a gym rat. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments at the pic stage. Especially my eyes and lips, so, I got that going for me, which is nice. I’d like you to be hwp-ish too. When we get there, I want us to really enjoy each other. You will be appreciated, adored. Show off to me.
The sooner we can jump off Reddit chat the better. It’s just easier. I’m using Signal, so make sure that’s ok for the down the line. As the title notes, I’m in the PST. Timezones matter, so be in the US and no further than the CST. I’m an 80’s and 90’s kid, It’d help if you are too. It makes it easier if we can get each other’s references & have similar experiences (remember the 80’s when child safety seats were…non-existent? All our Moms and Dads smoked while they drove, ate at restaurants & slept? Between the concussions and secondhand smoke it’s a miracle we’re still alive).
Drop me a line, tell me about yourself. If something really spoke to you in this post, tell me what it was. Can’t wait to hear from you.