r/ABDL

So a while back I had let my secret out to my boyfriend. That conversation put our relationship on the rocks, but he was accepting enough to let me wear diapers when he wasnt around.

Fast forward about a year later, I brought up how id like more time and freedom to wear diapers. He mulled over it for a few hours than said he would be open to me wearing while he was home, he just didnt want to physically see them, he was okay with the bulge and crinkles. This in itself was a huge win.

The other day while having a nap he woke me up and decided to sit on me and grind on me, rubbing himself on my diaper, and than rubbed it with his hand. I thought I was dreaming. I was in total disbelief.

I got home from work today, he actually told me to get diapered, because he plans to recreate the other days event.

I went from feeling ashamed and unaccepted to being embarrassed, to now feeling confident, supported, and kinda sexy. He generally makes me go to restaraunts, hang outs, the store, and other places while being diapered. Though we agreed on not doing it at work, as its not possible to hide that with my work.

-Another Happy Diaper Boi

I had the most wonderful time with my partner yesterday. We spent the day doing all sorts of little activities together, like coloring and playing with stuffed animals. At one point, we even had a picnic on the living room floor. It was so nice to just relax and be myself, without worrying about anything else. My partner is very supportive of my ABDL side and it's wonderful to have someone who understands and accepts me for who I am. We even took a nap together, all cuddled up in our favorite blankets. It was the perfect little day.

Okay, so today I was at a local thrift store and as I was looking through the baby diapers to add to my collection I came across a full pack of Rears Critter Caboose in my size!! The fact that I bought ‘baby diapers’ from the baby diaper section that will fit me feels incredible! To add to it, they were only asking $7 for the whole pack!

So this leads me to ask a favor from the community. I need some regression tips and some advice on where to go from here. I would love to chat with some other people my age, 25, about their experiences as well!

Thank you in advance!

So I was a bedwetter as a kid. Frequently wet the bed as a small child and then on and off until the 6th grade.

It was… bad. A regular source of shame. My father yelled at me. Threatened me with diapers. Called me a baby. Very traumatic.

I was teased by my older sibling.

And lots of embarrassing conversations with my exhausted mother.

I would wager all of that had a contributed to me being a gigantic ABDL…

Anyway… I recently really embraced diapers again about 6 months ago. Wearing every night and restarting some bedwetting training I had practiced in 2021.

About two months ago I had my first accident. Then a week or so later another.

Then 3 in a month. And now I’m waking up MOST mornings wet. It kind of happened quicker than I expected. I love it.

I’ve been trying to unpack what is so great about it for me. Like… why am I enjoying something I don’t even experience? It’s happening while I’m sleeping.

I’ve come to the partial conclusion that embracing diapers and learning to love bedwetting has been a solvent to my traumatic experiences from those decades ago. Loving myself and going beyond that it’s not just OKAY to wet myself: it’s THE GOAL.

Everyday I wake up happy.

Whether or not any of you are trying to become bedwetters, I just wanted to share how positive this has been for me.

There are cons (traveling with diapers is a hassle), but they don’t outweigh all the pros that have entered my life based on how happy I’ve become. I’m more productive, less angry, and I am giving myself some much needed love and attention.

Anyway, that’s my happy bedwetting story.

Any diapered Gamers out there and if so what games do you play I play Star Citizen and Farm Sim 25

I recently have trained myself to become a bedwetter and not only was I celebrating 9 days of bedwetting… but NO leaks!!

I was scratching my head at how I achieved this landmark achievement and I realized: I’d been folding!!

Thank you to all who recommended folding a diaper lengthwise down the middle to help with leaks by creating a channel for pee. Also: folding a booster the same.

So thank you everyone!! And if you don’t fold already: start folding!

I run a computer side hustle, so I have knowledge and a ton of miscellaneous desktops and laptops. I was thinking about making a linux laptop TV setup for watching cartoons and whatnot in bed. anything similar come to mind? I need inspiration.

I’m a 18-year-old woman who’s been living with incontinence for years. It’s not something I usually talk about except with my doctor and a couple of very close friends. At first it was all about the practical side ... pads, medication, trying to stay on top of it physically. Over time though, I started noticing the mental and emotional side of it feels… different. It’s not only the embarrassment or annoyance when accidents happen

Been lurking around for a bit and I’m (M27) just getting to a point where I’m considering actually participating. I’ve had a pee kink for as long as I can remember and it’s kinda just naturally led here. I’m super into watching women wet and mess but have never done it myself. Not that I’m against doing it. I’ve just never had the opportunity. I more on the DL side of things although there as certain aspects of AB that I do enjoy. I’d love to hear about your experiences! How did you get into this? What do you like about it? DMs are open I’d love to chat at explore. Females only please.

There are many types of diapers out there. Pull ups, Abdl, adult, and many others as well as those with colorful and playful designs. What is your favorite type or style of diaper? What brand do you prefer?

Call me a bit nosey, but I love hearing the origin stories behind how people got into the ABDL community and what interests them!

I wonder if there’s a scientific/psychological factor behind this community/kink?

Is ABDL a kink for you? If so, what positively stimulates you? Do certain activities, poses, etc catch your eye for you better than others?

If it’s not a kink for you, what about the community keeps you here? Do you wear often or is it a sensory/regression need for you?

I, personally, was non-padded little for about 6yrs. I then came across a local diaper store and have been hooked since 🙈 My transformation the last few months has been amazing to see and I’ve met amazing friends within this community.

I have felt more at home than “DD/LG” and other previous I have used.

Thank you for your input if you contribute!

So I’ve been dabbling in diapers since I was 19 and now I’m 31.

I’ve considered myself at one time or another a Diaper lover, a Sissy diaper lover, an Adult baby, A submissive, a dom, a switch…

I’ve looked at Abdl as super sexual I’ve looked at it as nurturing mental health. I’ve gone to a therapist about it. I’ve even tried to talk to a kink consultant about its… my sexual identity has had some tied to the Abdl aspect of life..

when I was a virgin diapers were a sexual escape (like a toy)

As I got older and I could wear more then it became more of a mental reset( I’m undiagnosed ADHD.. maybe on the spectrum according to some.. and my Brain moves 10000000 miles a minute .. in a diaper as a little it seems to slow down) but it can still be sexual (don’t feel right changing without a little humping in my diaper)

I’ve worn cheap diaper like depends and medical supply diapers. I’ve worn expensive ones like rearz and tylables. I’ve tried boosters and I’ve worn goodnites. I tend to never go without if I ever want them. (Amazon will sell 2packs for 12-20$ it’s usually not worth it when a pack is 30-40$ but in a pinch or you wanna try a brand you never had it’s great)

My favorite right now are these sunkiss ones they’re plain white and hold a lot .. like a lot a lot

I’ve gotten on fetlife telegram Kik I’ve been spent nights on omegle video chat trying to meet people like me. Some of these places have little groups where they get together and hangout.. (I’ve never been because I’m not really sure maybe someone can help me figure that out)

I’ve made friends at least one or two… one is really far away and one is a lot closer than I thought.

Still have yet to physically hangout with either of them in “little space”

I’ve paid for professional services, but I’ve never been to a munch or event like capcon.

I’ve worn out in public discreetly. ( hiding under my boxers and jeans with an oversized hoodie over top.) I’ve worn out in public no so discreetly (I’ve worn a onesie and overalls to the state park with a fully loaded diaper.. no one was there so it’s cool)

I’ve told my partners about this side of me and some have been chill about it. (One of was very respectful about it all) One was disgusted ( a lot of mean things were said and it made me feel really bad) and one is accepting of it but doesn’t want to be involved because it’s not her cup of tea.(I can respect that because some people like feet and I don’t .. it’s a weird connection but it makes sense to me)

I’ve made up rules for myself to respect my relationship ..

1. No diaper changes (yes Abdl can be sexual for anyone who is involved so to avoid that kind of situation I change myself)

2. No diapers to work. ( depending on the job I have I don’t want to jeopardize my employment. ( a warehouse where I have to work 10-13 hours with no real time for the bathroom is fine, but working in a public building with children not so much)

3. Never force this upon anyone ( this is taboo even in the world of kink.. so ask permission )

4. Boundaries… (if one is set always respect it)

5. Don’t mess… on purpose. ( considering I clean myself up it’s really hard to clean up a messy diaper .. it’s better to just not make it )

Have I broken my own rules.. ABSOLUTELY

But sometimes rules are meant to be broken and sometimes they need ratification…

Right now I’m in a state of mind where I wear when I want and I don’t really belong to any groups I don’t have the money to pay for a professional experience and the timing of events are always hard to make due to work and life..

I don’t know if this is who I am or if it’s what I want.

There are these moments I want to go to the event. I want to wear a diaper proudly and just show it off. Sometimes I want a big to become my friend and take me to the zoo while I’m in little space and let me see and feel the world as a toddler again. If I had the money I would book a session with a professional ( but then I have to remember they don’t really care about me… the stripper only likes you because you put the money on the bar)

I’ve been told a lot of shit in this community.

Somethings are kind and encouraging

(It’s okay to be this way, it helps you and you need to love yourself)

I’ve been told not so nice things

(You’ll never be able to be in a normal relationship unless your partner is 100% into too because if they’re not you’re going to screw up your relationship)

I’ve debated on quitting and to some degree I do go on my sabbaticals and don’t indulge I tend to find my way back to it in some way shape or form.

I’ve noticed when I do take a break the second o see someone about it like here on Reddit I start to want it again.. (guess out of sight out of mind really is a thing)

But anyways

I guess this is who I am and I guess this is what I like .. I don’t need to know all the answers right now, but it would be cool to talk about it directly

hi! I’m new to ABDL and decided to try LittleForBig (because Amazon of course) and they were extremely hard and uncomfortable. They even pinched my privates when I walked a couple times.

I would love recommendations for softer comfier diapers. I’m not able to wear diapers for long since it’s a secret in my house. I pee maybe once or twice then have to get out of them. I also really love the look of a babyish diaper, I saw Little Kings and love how they look but wasn’t sure if there was better options/designs.

thank you!

Hi all! A little backstory, I'm 31 and my wonderful wife is 25. I told her 6 months ago about being into diapers and she was not thrilled but said she'd be open to learning more about it. Initially I would wear when she wasn't home but then one day she asked me to wear in front of her which I gladly did. She didn't mind and actually liked it! She even started diapering me when when I got home from work or changing me when wet which was a dream. I'd told her I enjoyed more babyish aspects as well, and after getting used to the diapering and changing said she'd be willing to play and explore. She has NO interest in being diapered herself but admitted the control is intoxicating and she really enjoys implementing babyish aspects.

We came to an agreement that when I'm diapered, she is completely in charge and what she says goes, even if it is uncomfortable or embarrassing for me. This could mean babyish items, chores, reprimands, privilege removal or other items as she deems fit. I trust her and told her that giving up control completely like that is scary but that it would fully help me realize this side of myself.

For the last 2 months she has been exerting more and more control during my diapered time. It started small with a pacifier or drinking from a bottle. She started implementing random diaper checks, she has fed me at the table both cut up adult food and mushy baby food, I've drank warm formula from a bottle, I have a few baby toys that she will watch me play with in the floor. She has even begun using baby talk, especially when changing me. Even outside of diapered time, I've now got a chore chart and am responsible for all chores except cooking, which she enjoys. In the last month she has even begun requiring full use of my diapers and changing even messy diapers with lots of baby talk. I've played in the back yard in a t-shirt/shorts with a diaper under which she has made no bones about checking at her leisure. I've ridden in the backseat while she drives with a diaper on under clothes and had to walk in the multiple stores with her while she shopped hoping nobody would see it or hear it.

The one thing we've done that has keep us grounded and made this enjoyable for both is we debrief as two adults after each session where something new happens to make sure the experience was tolerable and didn't bring up any hurts or trauma. This has helped me fully let go as a baby and for her to fully realize the power dynamic shift knowing if something happens that doesn't jive, it won't happen again!

Two weeks ago I was in the living room floor in our makeshift playpen with just a short t-shirt on, playing with blocks, and sucking my pacifier while she got our lunch ready when the door bell rang. I looked at her pleading but she told me to keep playing. I hoped it was a delivery or something but as soon as she opened the door I heard the voices of her sisters (28 & 23) and almost started crying. Of course as they got to where they could see me they giggled and started baby talking. I was so ashamed but she acted like it was perfectly normal. We ate lunch and of course each wanted to feed me then they wanted to play with me. I was the most embarrassed I had ever been but it also put me deep into a baby headspace. We debriefed the next day and while it was humiliating, I didn't tell her I was against it but figured she'd gotten that out of her system and it wouldn't happen again.

Fast forward to this weekend. I was off Thursday-Sunday and we decided, except for Sunday afternoon, that I would be a baby the whole time. We agreed to it that 24/7 from Wednesday after work until Sunday at noon, I'd be babied to her satisfaction. No big deal, I've been in public in a diaper under clothes and stuff. However, Thursday I woke up feeling bleh. I was snotty, puny, and miserable. I was grumpy and fussy leading to more than a few stern looks, scoldings, and diapered swats. Thursday afternoon she'd had enough so she got me dressed and we went to the store. She bought a few things and then we got to the Walgreens and she had me sit in the car while she ran in and got a couple additional things. When we got home I was wet but was sent to the playpen before dinner. She fed me and then drew a bath. When I got out I saw my diaper and pajamas laying out and didn't pay attention to anything else. She raised my legs and put my diaper under me and powdered me like normal. But instead of taping it, she kept my legs up and took my temperature using a rectal thermometer. I had never felt so vulnerable. After my diaper and pajamas were on the walked me into the living room where she gave me liquid sinus medicine using a baby syringe and proceeded to use the nasal cleaning bulb to clean my nostrils. The medicine was so nasty. I was sent to bed and slept 14hrs. Friday was more of the same with temp checks at every change, more nasty medicine, and an additional nap.

I thought it couldn't get worse, but boy was I wrong. Saturday morning she got me dressed and had breakfast ready when the door opened and in walked her 28yr old sister. She was dressed for the gym in running shorts and a tank top and I was honestly confused. That was until my wife started talking to her about what was going on and everything before turning to me and telling me she had a bunch of errands to run and couldn't keep up with me so Addie was going to babysit me. To say I was mortified was an understatement, but I knew backtalk or disobedience would lead to a very bad time. While she was getting ready and getting out the door, Addie took me to the couch and fed me a bottle of warm formula and another round of nasty meds. All while baby talking me and treating me like an infant. Instead of leaving me to play by myself she took an active part and played with me like an infant. I'd stack blocks and she'd knock them down or roll a ball to me or toss it to me so I couldn't catch it and then she'd giggle about me being little. Around that time I realized my tummy was rumbling something fierce and I had a major blowout and actually cried as she giggled and baby talked about my smelly diaper. She changed me like it was nothing though. I had 2 more messy diapers which embarrassed me to no end. She rarely let me out of her sight and when she did I was in the playpen. She spent the whole day treating me like an infant with baby food, formula, constant supervision, lots of giggles, and no adult words. I truly felt like a baby being babysat. My wife returned and as she was feeding me a dinner of baby food carrots, baby food peas, baby food chicken/rice, and a squeeze container of kale/apple baby food. They talked as I was fed and of course she made sure my wife knew about the blowouts and such. My wife bathed me after she left and put me to bed.

Sunday evening we debriefed like normal and I confessed that even though it was humiliating that as long as she didn't go tell everyone or anything that it truly put me in little headspace to be babysat and I was ok if it happened again. She said she'd remember that and would definitely use her sisters when she need to do adult things without and infant to watch out for. I don't know what the future holds or what other stuff may happen but I'm sure she has more humiliations in store.

I wanna prepare for a special little day for myself and think it would be really special to have a drink that tastes as close to breast milk as possible. Does anyone have a recipe for such things, or know ways to replicate it?