r/naughtyfromneglect

I’m in my 40s, fit (6 pack), professional and married. I’ve always been a very sexual person and have a fun past to remember. But lately my love life has been lacking. I really miss making love and having those intense feelings of romance mixed with lust.

This might be a long shot but I wonder if there is someone out there who can help me rediscover my stud self 😁 I am a bit hairy, masc and enjoy fem energy, giving and receiving attention, and someone who can take their time and enjoys the art of seduction. If we click I like to exchange pictures, erotic images and fantasies, chat or RP. I also write erotica as a hobby.

I hope you’re out there. We can chat and see if we are good together. If it turns into something long term, even better ☺️

I am 18+ and all participants must be 18+

Got the place to myself and honestly, I’m not in the mood to be well-behaved. Just relaxing, scrolling, and feeling that slow kind of boredom that usually turns into something a little more interesting if the right person shows up.

I’m looking for someone confident, someone who can tease, guide, and keep the conversation from staying innocent for too long. Tell me what kind of mood you’re in, or better yet, how you’d change mine.

Say something that makes me pause for a second… I’ll match your energy.

I'm hoping to connect with a 35+ woman nearby who’s open to a discreet, ongoing FWB-style connection. Not into long-distance or endless messaging. I’m looking for something real, local, and built on chemistry.

Physically, I’m 5'11, athletic build, and while I definitely appreciate women my own age, there’s just something irresistible about a confident, experienced older woman. I’ve had a few amazing encounters in the past, but I’m ready for something more consistent and meaningful, especially with someone who’s taken and craving more behind closed doors.

If this sparks your curiosity, feel free to reach out. You don’t need to write a novel, but a thoughtful message with your age, general location, and whatever you’re comfortable sharing would go a long way.

Life has a way of filling every space responsibilities, routines, taking care of others and somewhere in all of that, I started to feel like I faded into the background.

I miss being truly noticed. Not just seen, but felt. I miss that spark in conversation the kind that lingers, feels warm, and makes you look forward to the next message.

Hi beautiful souls

I'm 28, happily married in many ways, and living in New Jersey. Lately my heart has been whispering for a little extra sweetness the joy of flirty, caring texts throughout the day, shared laughter, meaningful conversations, and that fluttery feeling of being someone's special secret.

I'm not looking to change our real lives, just hoping to connect with one warm, married man who wants the same tender bond: affection, inside jokes, and a discreet connection that feels natural and exciting. I'm genuine, easy to talk to, and very private.

If your heart is in a similar place, message me with your age and where you are in NJ. I can't wait to bring a little extra sparkle into each other's days

I never thought I’d find myself here, honestly.

I’ve spent most of my life being supportive, patient, and giving my energy to the people around me. Life gets busy, routines take over, and somewhere along the way… I started to feel a little invisible.

I miss being noticed. I miss that spark, conversation that feels warm, engaging, and just a little exciting.

I understand most posts here skew American, but I’m based in Australia.

I work in a creative field, the kind that makes you pay attention to detail, to people, to how things are put together. It’s useful, though it does mean I notice things most people would happily ignore. No need to turn it into a full Art Vandelay situation.

My long-term relationship has become more companionable than romantic. Saying this upfront because I’d rather you know now than have it surface awkwardly over a second coffee.

I’m drawn to people who notice things. Conversation that lingers. A connection that builds naturally, with a bit of tension to it.

There’s something I miss. Not just physical, but the anticipation of it. That sense of ease with someone who feels present and attentive.

Looking for something discreet and respectful. Something that starts as a conversation and, if it feels right, can step into the real world without pressure. Women in their 40s to early 50s tend to be my people. I take care of myself in a way you’d notice.

Based in Melbourne, ideally in Australia. Open to distance, but proximity makes things easier if it evolves.

If this resonates, tell me what usually makes you stay in a conversation.

28 [M4F] #Louisiana- Seeking long term connection

28m married. Living the life I begged for, but its not at all what it seems. I divorced my s/o two years ago. Against my better judgment I got back together with her upon hearing the promises that turned out to be lies. I cant exactly rip my family apart again especially so soon so here we go.

About me:

Im skinny 5'10 with long hair, a beard, and more tattoos than I care to count. I play music (rock mainly, instruments include guitar and saxophone), I own my own business, and I have 4 kiddos. I love old school trucks and have 2 that are older than me that I keep running. Perks of being the family mechanic. I re watch the office to the point I could watch it in an empty room with my eyes closed. I love to read, the Inheritance Cycle is my top tier favorite series. Im a nerd, and love anything Marvel, Star Wars or tech. Im friendly and will gladly smile at anyone I pass in the grocery store. Sarcasm is my 1st language and I love being sassy.

What Im looking for:

Something long term. I want the spark, the passion and the desire. I want to feel wanted, cherished and loved. Someone, female, between 25 and 40, who’s also in a relationship or marriage but feels that same hunger. Not just for sex (though let’s be honest, that’s important too), but for intimacy. The kind where you feel seen, wanted, and understood. Someone I can flirt with throughout the day, share secrets with at night, and build a little world with, just for us. I want more than a moment.

I’m not interested in a Monday–Friday, 9–5 thing. I want someone who’s actually around someone who can talk to me even when life gets messy. I match the energy I’m given. If you give me effort, I’ll give it right back. I don’t need a stage‑five clinger, but a good morning text is always nice. I do want someone who feels that little jolt when they see my name pop up. I’m not into cold, transactional encounters or one-night stands. I want that slow burn: the build-up, the trust, the emotional safety that lets the fun side come out in full. I’m drawn to people who are emotionally intelligent, kind, attentive, and just a little bit wicked.

Ideally, you're in Louisiana! There’s something delicious about the idea of meeting in person for coffee, or a walk, or more, once that spark is undeniable. But if we connect deeply, distance doesn’t scare me - passion travels well.

So if you’re someone who misses deep eye contact, whispered inside jokes, and feeling truly wanted, tell me what your world looks like… and what you wish it felt like instead.

Let’s build something secret, and let’s make it unforgettable

30, fit, respectful, and easy to talk to. I enjoy connection, humor, and a bit of spark.

If you’re an older woman who enjoys a little fun, laughter, and chemistry… we might get along very well.

Or if you’re a younger woman that looking to fulfill naughty dreams, I might be the one who can help you

Looking for something fun, relaxed, and mutually enjoyable.

If that sounds like your kind of energy, I’d love to hear from you.

Let’s see where it goes.

It’s quiet, I’m alone, and my thoughts aren’t exactly innocent. Looking for someone who knows how to turn that into something fun and a little addictive.

I’m married, fit, tech executive, non smoker, high sex drive, naturally dominant, clean and discreet.

Looking for a female (18+) for a regular kinky FWB. Ideally something long term. Open to all ethnicities (+ for Indian / Asian).

Great if you are within 30 minutes of San Jose from availability / commute standpoint. DM me with your age, town in bay area and ethnicity!

Okay. Here’s a totally legit non Ai written post… oh wait does saying it make it less legit? lol anyway.

So here’s my story. Married young. Have an amazing wife. Had a kid. Sex completely stopped. So I’m in this weird situation where I don’t want to change things but I also want to try and find someone to build something with , someone on the same boat.

I’ve been on these subs before. Found great connections… but that was a while ago. I’m hoping to find something like that again. I’m very open minded, very outdoorsy, athletic but geek out on a lot of stuff at the same time. So my personality is like… a mix of a bunch of things I guess? Anyway. Successful in life. I’m 6ft hwp, brown skin, head full of hair :) if you think we might vibe, dm me? I can yap on all night about my hobbies and bore the hell out of you. Or try to reason why my pets are the best in the world. I’m also open to this being in person if things go that far. But want to make sure that neither of us want to change our situation at home. I want to be there for you and want you to be there for me. I definitely love sending those good morning texts and also waking up to them. I want you to share little snippets of your day but I also understand that life gets in the way and you won’t always be available. I definitely also want to get naughty once we build the trust. But anyway. Enough yapping. Reach out!

Looking for a lovely mature women, I find y’all’s body’s so sexy the age your hair Everythinh so much hotter then anyone my age. I’m 23 5’11 220 I love lifting heavy, hiking, spending time outside, I take pride In my work ethic as I become a manager in a big company 8 months in and thriving in that sense. I love to have fun but ik when it’s time to be serious I’m respectful I was raised right, but when we get in the bedroom 😘 hope this reaches the right gorgeous women.

Can we just agree this movie is a masterpiece….

We all have choices and I want to make every bad one with you. I am looking to spoil you emotionally. I am looking to fall deep into you as our realities become entwined, as do lovers, when they collapse into each others arms. I want every high and I would cherish the lows as it means it will be followed by another high. I want every passionate embrace, every second glance, every nervous wait before our next meet and I want all your good and all your bad. I want to accept all your faults.

I want to serenade you with poems as you will be my muse. I want to share with you all my favorite movies and songs.

I love working out , trying out new breweries, and traveling to new cities.

My wife is asleep next to me and of course, I’m wide awake. Why don’t you come keep me company, while she’s sound asleep.

Maybe we should get into trouble in bed, or should we sneak away?????

If you’re into to taken men and homewrecking send me a message. It’ll be our little secret.

My wife is asleep next to me and of course, I’m wide awake. Why don’t you come keep me company, while she’s sound asleep.

Maybe we should get into trouble in bed, or should we sneak away?????

If you’re into to taken men and homewrecking send me a message. It’ll be our little secret.

Hi, I am 28, in a relationship, educated, successful business owner, arab background. I have been with my partner for a while now, and given our conservative background, things are getting a bit vanilla. I work hard and make good money, and want someone to play with. Someone to explore new experiences and have fun with. Would like to build a strong connection, trust, chemistry and then take it from there.

I am not picky in terms of ethnicity, age, marital status etc. I am just interested in someone I find attractive, can form a good bond with, and have enjoyable encounters with. Being discrete is a must. We can exchange and share pics privately. I consider myself to be fit and good looking. I am 175cm tall, and 85kgs fit muscly. I train at the gym often. If this sounds like something you are interested in, message me!

what's a beutiful girl likr you doing in a place like this? dont you miss the spark of flirting in a bar or at a friend's party. I sure do.

Im a veteran, nerd, and leather crafter. hoping to find someone for daily conversation. I work 4 days a week so hace plenty of time during the week to talk and can talk at work as well. I would love voice and video chats eventually to.

Im into everything nerdy and geeky. I also love riding make motorcycle and crafting leather projects. I also have somtime but prefer gaming with someone. Maybe we can be secreting gaming friends.

I dont have a specific look preface but id like to exchange pics early to make sure we have physical attraction. hope to talk soon. Ill buy the first round.

25M based in NY/Long Island.

I’ll be upfront about where I’m at I'm currently in a relationship that, on the surface, looks fine, but it’s missing something meaningful. It’s not drama, it’s not chaos… just a quiet absence that’s been harder to ignore lately. If you’ve ever felt that kind of gap, you probably understand how it can sit in the back of your mind and slowly grow louder.

I’m not here to complicate anyone’s life or create problems. Discretion, respect, and honesty matter a lot to me. I’m simply looking to connect with someone who gets that feeling and is in a similar headspace someone who values something real, even if it starts small.

A little about me: I’m easygoing, grounded, and pretty easy to talk to. I have a solid sense of humor, enjoy meaningful conversation, and I’m the kind of person who actually listens and pays attention. I take care of myself, stay active, and like to keep a good balance between going out and enjoying new experiences and just relaxing and unwinding.

What I’m looking for is simple in theory, but hard to find genuine connection, mutual understanding, and natural chemistry. No pressure, no forced expectations… just seeing where things go organically. Whether that turns into great conversation, shared moments, or something that develops over time, I’m open to it.

If you’re in NY/Long Island and this resonates with you if you feel like something’s missing too don’t hesitate to reach out. Let’s start with a conversation and see if there’s something there.

Hello new friend!

Are you easy-going and can carry on a conversation?

Congratulations, we are already off to a great start!

I want to learn everything about you, including the funny parts and the terrible parts. Even down to your favorite Pokemon!

I want someone that I can laugh with and learn about your day. I want the blend of talking about each other, our hobbies, and the sexual tension. I want to hear about your progress on Pokopia, your Pilates class, or your spin class. I want to hear what you wore today and how it made you feel. I want to hear about the book, the game, or the movie you watched and discuss the deep meanings of it.

I miss connection. I miss chemistry. I miss being someone’s favorite notification and having someone who feels the same about me. I’m craving depth, consistency, and something that feels alive again. I want to share our favorite bands, music recommendations, books, and podcasts!

What I’m looking for:

• A genuine connection built on mutual desire - I want the steaminess, the passion, the mutual pleasure. I want to hear about your life, share everything you want, and I will do the same!

• Respect, discretion, and emotional maturity.

• Someone to adore, praise, and invest in — who wants that energy in return.

• That daily excitement of sharing thoughts, moments, and inside jokes.

About me:

• Music is a big part of my life. I love the energy of live shows

• A constant reader (mostly non-fiction). I’m curious, thoughtful, always learning

• Active runner, health-focused, 6’, lean.

• Emotionally intelligent, confident, direct, smart, and will talk your ear off.

• Politically left-leaning

• Natural encourager. I’m part coach, part confidant, and a great listener

• A little kinky.

What I give:

• Thoughtful check-ins and voice memos that make you smile

• Real conversations about your day, your dreams, or your frustrations

• Shared books, shows, playlists, and late-night or on the way home calls

• A safe place to vent, feel seen, and feel desired

• Consistency, attention, and care that lingers.

I will want to move to telegram if we connect. If you are drawn to someone creative, communicative, and intentional, message me. Let’s make each other’s days a little brighter. ❤️

I understand most posts here skew American, but I’m based in Australia.

I work in a creative field, the kind that makes you pay attention to detail, to people, to how things are put together. It’s useful, though it does mean I notice things most people would happily ignore. No need to turn it into a full Art Vandelay situation.

My long-term relationship has become more companionable than romantic. Saying this upfront because I’d rather you know now than have it surface awkwardly over a second coffee.

I’m drawn to people who notice things. Conversation that lingers. A connection that builds naturally, with a bit of tension to it.

There’s something I miss. Not just physical, but the anticipation of it. That sense of ease with someone who feels present and attentive.

Looking for something discreet and respectful. Something that starts as a conversation and, if it feels right, can step into the real world without pressure. Women in their 40s to early 50s tend to be my people. I take care of myself in a way you’d notice.

Based in Melbourne, ideally in Australia. Open to distance, but proximity makes things easier if it evolves.

If this resonates, tell me what usually makes you stay in a conversation.