r/gaybdsmpersonals

About Me: Hello Kinksters! I’m Brian, a laid-back gamer and tech enthusiast. I am on the autism spectrum which means I can be shy or socially awkward at first, but once I'm comfortable, I'm highly energetic and a lot of fun. I will also tease you in playful ways. I value open communication because it helps me read social cues/body language better than trying to guess what others are nonverbally expressing.

My Hobbies/Interests: In my free time, you’ll usually find me gaming, binge-watching sci-fi movies, tinkering with my tech projects in my home lab, and jamming to dubstep tunes. As you might guess, I’m mainly a homebody, but I also enjoy going out occasionally for low-key plans with friends.

What im looking for in a BDSM Play Partner? I’m primarily seeking a local beginner-friendly really long-haired BDSM play partner to deeply explore a hair-focused dynamic. I adore the sensory stimulation of caressing/playing with others' hair in pleasurable/degrading ways. I’m most comfortable when fetish compatibility is discussed early on, even if pacing and logistics take time. I value direct, verbal communication/check-ins when it comes to communicating boundaries. I ideally want to start small and gradually try other dynamics. I might also be open to exploring with multiple ongoing play partners depending upon compatibility.

If my post piques your interest and I'm someone you're curious about getting to know/exploring with, I’m open to discussing and seeing where things go.

Firstly, always refer to me as daddy.

I have a size XL BBC judging from the condoms daddy fit. I am looking for a very submissive bottom to take all the ass pictures and videos that daddy wants.

This big cock gives me a big sex drive so I would love to have a good cum slut for all these hot loads. So only message daddy if you are SERIOUS about giving your total submission

For example, daddy will ask for wedgies, ass shaking, jiggling, bending over and such. You will repeat these different positions until your daddy is satisfied. I will be online as long as you are able to read this post so if you are ready, send a message.

Free house all day tomorrow whilst working from home, help to control my day, what I do and make it really hard to keep my composure during my work meetings.

I don’t have any toys but happy to get creative where I can! I’d like some anal play, maybe food play and I’m interested to experiment with some light cbt. I’ll also get REALLY filthy if you want me to :3

Feel free to suggest individual tasks or more, I’m happy to share proof when I complete them.

Limits: Identifying myself / showing face, marks that last longer than the session, blood, needles, extreme pain

I’m a switch (more dom) looking for anyone interested in edging and ruined orgasms. I can be also your long term keyholder or doing some short session in chastity with you. If you like ai could ruin my orgasm too but you have to be really convincing.

keep on mind that I really like to punish top men with long edging sessions alternating with chastity!

My other kinks: cbt, ballbusting, socks/feet, armpits, spanking. But not into: crossdressing, blood, scat/piss, chubby men.

Only 21-50year old with good shape and good looking… preferably athletic, hairy body and bearded! (I’m athletic and hairy too)

dm me with some info about you and any pics so if we match we can go further :-)

Hi all I am a dominant bigger guy weight wise at around 250lbs at a height of 5ft 6in.

I’m a confident, steady dominant man looking for a long-term power-exchange relationship with a submissive guy who genuinely enjoys worship, devotion, and surrender—not just as kink, but as a mindset.

I’m especially drawn to submissives who like placing their Dom on a pedestal, offering loyalty, obedience, and affection freely. If you crave purpose in serving, being guided, and shaping yourself around someone you admire, we’ll likely connect well.

I also enjoy consensual identity and roleplay dynamics, including hypnosis/conditioning and a breeder boyfriend fantasy—treated as an adult, negotiated kink role, not explicit content. The appeal is the psychology: devotion, intimacy, trust, and being chosen to fulfill a meaningful role within the dynamic.

About me:

Calm, controlled, and mentally dominant

Values structure, ritual, and long-term consistency

Enjoys worship dynamics, guidance, and mindset play

Protective, affectionate, and intentional

Big on consent, communication, and aftercare

About you (ideally):

A submissive man who wants to worship his Dom

Enjoys devotion, obedience, and pleasing through service

Curious about or experienced with sissy identity by choice

Interested in hypnosis or mental influence as consensual kink

Drawn to a breeder-boyfriend role as a fantasy of purpose and intimacy

Emotionally open, self-aware, and looking for something ongoing. I do enjoy submissive trans men for those who need an owner

I'm looking for eager subs who are willing to train their body to become obedient muscle subs. You must be loyal and willing to work hard for me. Looking for longterm so if you're just looking to cum and go, then this isn't the post for you.

Kinks include chastity, orgasm control/denial, forced orgasms, ruined orgasms, clothing control, voyeurism, toy play, spanking, tasks, degredation, praise, verbal, and a bunch more

If you're interested, message me with your age, height, body type, and dick size. Low effort messages will be ignored.

Hello there! I'm ins_p_into_slot_b, and while I'm neurodiverse and face writing difficulties due to my disability, I'd like to start a power exchange relationship with someone Online.

**About Me**

- 47-year-old bisexual man

- East coast, USA

- My hobbies include programming, video games, 3D/2D digital art

- I work as a software engineer. I'm pretty successful and while I'm not rich, I live comfortably.

- I'm a little overweight, which is something I'd love encouragement to address as part of our relationship

**My Ideal Dom**

- Age range ~40-70

- Any physical configuration. Short, skinny, tall, fat, trans; I'm open to anyone.

- Someone who enjoys gentle domination. I'm not against being punished, but I'd really like to avoid it by pleasing you.

What really excites me is the opportunity for growth and self-improvement. I believe in pushing boundaries and setting goals, all with a gentle Dom approach that doesn't involve humiliation or brat-like behavior from me.

I want someone I can be honest and vulnerable with. I want someone who will help me stay on track with my goals and celebrate with me when I do well. I haven't been given a "good boy" in a long time and I miss it a lot. In turn, I'm willing to support you just as much as you support me. Whether it's through engaging conversations about our shared interests or collaborating on projects we're both passionate about, the possibilities are endless!

If this intrigues you, and you're looking for a similar connection, let's continue the conversation! I don't expect to have quick back and forth communication, I think it would look more like at least once a day, unless an exception was discussed beforehand. Please send me a Reddit DM if you feel comfortable taking the next step.

Hey big boys, yeah, YOU, the 6'0"+, 300lb+ beefcakes who fill out a hoodie like it's painted on.

I'm a 23-year-old dom who's equal parts cozy gamer nerd and relentless rider. Picture this: we spend the afternoon raiding in co-op, trash-talking over headsets, laughing our asses off… then I flip the script, strap you into heavy tack, cinch that saddle tight across your thick gut and rippling back, force the bit between those full lips, and make you my personal bronc/bull for the night.

I want the kind of chubby, beefy, power-packed college himbo who thinks he's untouchable:

Frat bros with beer bellies and monster asses that jiggle when you buck

Nerdy gaymer bears who bench more than they admit

Former high-school bullies or powerlifting jocks secretly dying to get the tables turned and get a whole new purpose in their training: to be the best bull/bronc for me that they can!

Thick lineman builds — huge shoulders, tree-trunk legs, rounded meaty glutes built for spanking that bulge out from shorts just a little too small around you're massive waist.

I love forcing you down to all fours, hearing that deep grunt turn into a snort, feeling every massive muscle strain and tremble as I climb on and ride you hard. Buck, fight, try to throw me — the wilder you get, the happier I'll be! Drool running down your chin, sweat pouring off that heavy body, ass up while I spank, pull hair, and grind you into sweet, shuddering submission. Pony trots around the living room, full bull-riding rodeo vibes, predicament bondage, impact play — whatever makes my big beast break and blow.

But here's the real kicker: I'm not just after a quick scene.

I'm looking for my ride-or-die — someone I can build a full relationship with. Lazy Sundays gaming till 3am, cooking massive post-workout meals together, cuddling up for movies… and then me turning you into my drooling, bucking pet whenever the mood strikes. You get a dom who's affectionate, attentive, and stupidly good at aftercare (rubs, snacks, praise while I tell you what a perfect, huge, dumb-good boy you are).

If you're 21–24ish, built like an absolute tank, and get stupidly turned on by the idea of going from "bro, pass the controller" to "giddyup, big guy" in the same evening… hit my DMs.

Tell me:

Your height/weight/build (bonus points for pics)

What kind of big, dumb brute fantasy gets you leaking

Your favorite game so we can squad up first or other nerdy stuff about ya. Fave TTRPGs, old cartoons, etc

The stable door's open, mount.

Come prove you can handle a rider who wants to own you — body, brain, and all.

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Hello boys. Im offering free "medical examinations". These include invasive tests, physical check ups, and tests of endurance, including how you respond to stimuli like light cbt, bondage, humiliating situations, and even some bodily fluids.

Rest assured you won't be seeing any blood, permanent damage or feces, and your identity will be kept safe at all times.

If you are in need of a doctor, hit me up to schedule your appointnet as soon as possible, include your age, height, weight and any limits you may have, as well as other kinks or exams you wish to include in your session.

*not an actual medical professional, this is just RP and heavily focused on medical play.

Experienced German BDSM Master is seeking dedicated twink submissives in #Germany, specifically in the #Frankfurtor #Darmstadt areas, for regular and high-intensity play sessions. My expertise spans a wide range of disciplines including Bondage, BDSM, CBT, TT, Electro, gags, blindfolds, and hoods.

Whether we are exploring the technicalities of intricate rope bondage or the absolute, sensory-depriving restriction of tape bondage, the primary goal remains your complete loss of control. I prefer young, open-minded submissives up to 30 years old who are ready to explore their limits.

With over 30 years of experience in the scene, I have mastered the art of placing you in truly helpless and vulnerable positions. Be respectful, stay open-minded, and always address me as Sir. If you are ready to surrender your autonomy to an expert hand, get in touch and write me a direct message to begin.

Older chubby white closet sub looking for an Asian dom to slowly get him into the lifestyle and made into a true sub. Have some experience but not recently. I have sucked Asian dick twice, been fucked once and that got me hooked so now after years I want to experience that again. I do enjoy getting humiliated and want to explore more of that. Mostly online but in the end in person hopefully. Don’t have toys at the moment but willing to use whatever is at hand. Open to most kinks. Must be discreet. Either here , TG (pm for username)

Gay Dom bottom looking for a guy that's down shove huge dildos or objects up his hole for me for my pleasure.

My kinks: edging, sounding anal play, degrading, humiliation, cbt and a few more.

Things to know about me: I'm a bit sadistic, Brutal, and intense however I'm also kind, understanding, caring.

I don't trade/ send nudes, the kind dynamic I'm seeking is solely based on you submitting to me and allowing me to have complete control over you while guiding you to be the best slut you can be for me.

Prefer Masc subs but not opposed to feminine men but I'm not into cross dressers or sissies at all, sorry.

Need someone thats into being used and owned, you'd be tasked with sending and doing whatever I say in video/pics/ video calls.

I want someone who's going to allow me to experiment with them, control them, and use them in all the way I want.

Swedish hairy fat bear here looking for the one and only slaveboy I'll ever need. I'm an experienced master in search of a LOYAL longterm slaveboy and boywife who is willing to fully submit and become my owned slave object, with little free will. Your only role will be to satisfy me, keep the home and make no demands of your own.

You must be able to relocate to me in sweden from wherever you are in a year or so, your main tasks will be to cook, clean, and most importantly satisfy me sexually in any way I desire eagerly and without complaints. You'll be my domestic houseboy slave and I'll be the daddy master.

You will be trained and molded into my perfect slutty slave and will be expected to send anything I demand to please my desires.

Kinks include: anal training, chastity, spanking, dressup, cnc, food play, light cbt, watersports, foot worship etc.

If you are serious about submitting and becoming my longterm owned slave, dm me and lets work out details. Be prepared to use any platform/service I require.

If you have read all this start your message with "Hello daddy..." . Message now and apply. Lets make this last forever.

If you're not looking for permanent or can't relocate, don't apply.

Hey there betas! I’m a 28 Latino Dom. I have a successful professional and social life which keeps me quite busy through the day. But I also have this kinky side that I’m not willing to put aside so there is where you come in. I’m looking for an obedient and loyal sub, a beta to turn into a real faggot ready to serve as my personal fuck toy. I want to own you and control you not only for your sex life but also in your daily life (clothing choices, workouts, diet, daily tasks and much more)

Some of my favorite kinks include: anal training, name calling, chastity, TPE, degradation, humiliation, watersports, petplay, light cbt. I’m pretty much open to most kinks tho so I expect you to be the same.

You are a masculine looking guy, with a mischievous side, who is hardwired to be a beta faggot sub, it doesn’t matter where, you’ve always been the beta. You were the beta in school, in college, at work, in your friend group. Even if you pretend to be a str8 guy in your daily life you know what you really are: just a beta faggot craving to serve a real man. Any age is welcome, have a muscular/athletic body type. Own some toys or be willing to get some, you are also expected to show face (I’ll do) and send pics and videos as proof of you completing your tasks.

I’m currently interested only in LTR so I am looking for someone serious about entering into the submissive role for an extended amount of time. If you are looking for a one time thing then we are not a match. I’m interested in a dynamic where we can get to know each other to form a more solid Dom/sub bond based on trust and communication. Now to be honest I spend most of my time at work or hanging out with friends but don’t worry faggot (yes, if you made it here it doesn’t matter how hard you’ve been pretending so far you are my faggot now) lucky for you I like the idea of playing with you through our phones while no one around us suspect a thing. Of course, I understand we all have things to do, but somewhere in the middle, you are going to find the time to do exactly what I want. The type of thing that only takes a minute or so, but reminds you of who and what you are: a beta fag, who is always going to need a real man to tell him what to do and make the hard decisions for him. Experience is not necessary, only a willingness to learn and grow.

If you are interested in being a real man’s sub send a message and let me know why you think we’d be a good match and how you expect our dynamic to be.

I'm a 32 year old guy with a massive belly and a tiny micropenis looking for subs and slaves who enjoy worshipping small dicks and their owners. I have a big humiliation kink, very sensitive nipples and love having my micro sucked. I also enjoy light impact play and bullying but these are optional. Those are the highlights, I'm open to a variety of other stuff too.

I'm open to various dynamics - be it just chat, or an online play with some tasks, or possibly even taking this offline and meeting if you live in Europe (CZ, SK, PL, HU, AT work the best but I'm a frequent traveller so if you're anywhere on the continent, chances are I'm near you every now and then). I can be playful or strict depending on what you crave. As a dom, i understand that each sub is different and I love figuring out what works on him. The psychological side of BDSM is more important than the physical stuff for me.

Always safe, sane and consensual - I'm demanding but I'm not a psycho. I aim to create an environment where you can explore your submissive side and your limits without fear of damage, be it physical or mental.

If you're interested, hit me up with a few words of introduction about you and why you want to serve me. Please put some effort into your first message to show me that you're serious.

Hello! Thank you for viewing my post. I have been interested in BDSM for a while now, and I’m very eager to learn and explore what best suits me. To find a compatible match, I’m going to be completely honest and open (as possible) about myself and what I’m looking for.

About Me:

I’m a 25-year-old black male. I’m a college graduate earning my bachelor’s degree in Business Administration, majoring in Business Information System with honors cum laude. Very proud in my achievement. I’m hoping to pursue a career in IT and furthering my education. Currently working towards a Google IT support certification and potentially a master’s degree.

As for my appearance, I stand at 5’8” and weigh around 128 lbs. I have light brown skin and a slim/athletic build.

I am introverted and shy at times, but I do open up when talked to. I’m learning to slowly put myself out there to be more social. I greatly enjoy playing video games. Some of my favorite franchises being Sonic, Pokemon, Bayonetta, Kirby, DMC, Spyro, and many more. I also enjoy fighting games and learning about them too, with my current games being Guilty Gear Strive and Granblue Fantasy Versus Rising. I enjoy going for walks, light exercises, anime, art, tennis, badminton, and technology-related things.

My viewpoint on BDSM:

Regarding BDSM, my perspective or philosophy on things is different. When I discovered BDSM, I was very fascinated by it. I took an interest in the Dom/Master roles, but I wasn’t too appealed by the traditional styles of them. Certain characteristics and aspects that are commonly derived from them doesn’t reflect who I am as an individual. I don’t want to put on a false persona of any sort. I wanted to develop something that feels unique to me and my perspective. This is where I considered myself in the role of a “Soft Dom/Master”.

What does it mean to be a Soft Dom exactly? For me, I view the role of a Soft Dom to be more than just simply being in control. It’s more of being a guiding hand to hopefully bring encouragement, support, structure, and more to allow one to be their best self possible. That being as an individual and sub.

While the feeling of being in control can be empowering, it’s not truly felt when you don’t have someone that’s chooses to listen to you. Someone that actively listens to you, understands you, and wants to follow your guidance is what being in control is. This goes both ways as well.

This is what I hope to learn and achieve, and what feels empowering to me.

I want to take this gentle approach while still being in control and guiding the other person and myself to be our best selves possible. I believe a BDSM relationship should revolve around communication, trust, and treating the other person with respect. Encouraging, understanding, growth, and empathy from both sides and creating positive experiences. I hope to learn and develop into the Soft Dom/Master that I want to be.

Who and What I am looking for:

In terms of the ideal partner, I’m seeking a man with a muscular build, preferably beefy, who is submissive (submissive top). That is personally the type of men I am attracted to, body type wise. Additionally, I find it appealing when the larger , more muscular male submits to someone smaller and less physically imposing. It creates a contrast between both individuals, and gives the impression of the larger male as a knight or bodyguard protecting the dom while under his control. I would prefer a partner between the ages 25-55, but am open to slightly older or younger.

I want to be able to share these feelings with another person, as we both grow. I don’t have overly high expectations of how this should unfold. I believe building a connection first and seeing how that progresses is the best way to start. Honesty, respect, communication, and trust from both ends are important factors to a successful relationship. Creating a safe environment free of judgement to be able to learn while respecting one another. The willingness to learn and be a part of a dynamic such as this also important as well. While Im mainly looking for online connections , I’m open to in-person connections too if we reside in the same area.

Here are some kinks and aspects that Im interested in:

Obedience training, Rules, Muscle growth/fitness control, Wardrobe Control, TPE, Orgasm Control,Milking/Edging, CBT, Cum play, CEI, JOI

My limits/dislikes:

Feminization, Degrading, Humiliation, Blood, Race play, Scat

If you made it this far, I thank you for taking the time to read my post. If interested, I kindly request the you write a form of introduction about yourself in your opening message. I look forward to hearing from potential people. Thank you again and have a wonderful day/night.

Heya!
Im a 22yo college twink thats mostly on the submissive part of BDSM. Im looking for some Doms or Switches to chat with online, talk about experiences, kinks or even have some sessions if we match. Im experienced with bondage, degrading, humilation, cbt, torture and many more so feel free to hit me up with your freaks ;)

I barely have any limits despite the obvious illegal ones. Only requirement would be that you are somewhat talkative and introduce yourself at least a bit. A simple "hru" aint it, sorry >_<
Big W if you are somewhat around my age aswell.

Nice to hear from ya!

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Hey I am 18 years old from Israel, I am a top/bull/master,at first I am looking for online play if we have a connection we can try IRL play if that sounds good to you dm with your kinks limits and asl and please don't just send me something like: (hey I am 20 m sub from USA) please read what I wrote and dm with this information I will not answer to just hey or low level dms

When you dm me, please answer all this

Thanks

For people 40+, you will get a quicker response

Name:

Age:

Kinks/Limits:

Where you live and time zone:

What do you do for a living

Why do you want to serve me:

What’s driving you to submit:

Looking for a daddy to serve. Preferably older but on with any age over 30. Someone to keep my cock locked up but will let me out for prejac training and ruined orgasms. A dom that will make sure I always lick up my cum and send me off to service other men at the bathhouse gloryhole. I'm straight presenting and need my sex life and orgasms controlled. This will be online unless you are in western canada.

Please message me instead of commenting if your are interested in controlling me. I have pics to share if you do.

Once you've read everything send your age and your kinks at the start don't stay silent and show me u have body type send shirtless pic. If your a Euro sub even better. Will be available to do sessions at like 9:30 for reference it’s 5 where I am rn

Looking for horned up intelligent but obedient gooner sluts ready to give up AL control and do whatever their master tells them to domination is my kink and the only slaves I'm interested in are the ones that ask how many loads the should stroke out when I tell them to cum. Not just looking for dues that will do sessions but ones that will follows orders and complete them outside sessions too

BODY TYPE: is simple I'm looking for twunks or gymboys so be skinny or lean be toned and have muscular body and abs. You MUST match this mostly if u don't have abs it's fine so long s your toned and muscular. Slaveplay below

It's faceless slaveplay, the master doesn't send pictures or videos; instead, they assign the slaves tasks or dares to accomplish that get more sexually intense as the session goes on. The goal of for the sub/slave to gain physical and mental pleasure and satisfaction by carrying

For this slaveplay I prefer guys that will show their faces over guys that don't but it's just preference. Also for this you need to be cool doing VC if you aren't it's a dealbreaker and I don't do bed bound slaves lying on your back for tasks is boring and defeats the point.