u/SpaceChannel5_

Hello! Thank you for viewing my post. I have been interested in BDSM for a while now, and I’m very eager to learn and explore what best suits me. To find a compatible match, I’m going to be completely honest and open (as possible) about myself and what I’m looking for.

About Me:

I’m a 25-year-old black male. I’m a college graduate earning my bachelor’s degree in Business Administration, majoring in Business Information System with honors cum laude. Very proud in my achievement. I’m hoping to pursue a career in IT and furthering my education. Currently working towards a Google IT support certification and potentially a master’s degree.

As for my appearance, I stand at 5’8” and weigh around 128 lbs. I have light brown skin and a slim/athletic build.

I am introverted and shy at times, but I do open up when talked to. I’m learning to slowly put myself out there to be more social. I greatly enjoy playing video games. Some of my favorite franchises being Sonic, Pokemon, Bayonetta, Kirby, DMC, Spyro, and many more. I also enjoy fighting games and learning about them too, with my current games being Guilty Gear Strive and Granblue Fantasy Versus Rising. I enjoy going for walks, light exercises, anime, art, tennis, badminton, and technology-related things.

My viewpoint on BDSM:

Regarding BDSM, my perspective or philosophy on things is different. When I discovered BDSM, I was very fascinated by it. I took an interest in the Dom/Master roles, but I wasn’t too appealed by the traditional styles of them. Certain characteristics and aspects that are commonly derived from them doesn’t reflect who I am as an individual. I don’t want to put on a false persona of any sort. I wanted to develop something that feels unique to me and my perspective. This is where I considered myself in the role of a “Soft Dom/Master”.

What does it mean to be a Soft Dom exactly? For me, I view the role of a Soft Dom to be more than just simply being in control. It’s more of being a guiding hand to hopefully bring encouragement, support, structure, and more to allow one to be their best self possible. That being as an individual and sub.

While the feeling of being in control can be empowering, it’s not truly felt when you don’t have someone that’s chooses to listen to you. Someone that actively listens to you, understands you, and wants to follow your guidance is what being in control is. This goes both ways as well.

This is what I hope to learn and achieve, and what feels empowering to me.

I want to take this gentle approach while still being in control and guiding the other person and myself to be our best selves possible. I believe a BDSM relationship should revolve around communication, trust, and treating the other person with respect. Encouraging, understanding, growth, and empathy from both sides and creating positive experiences. I hope to learn and develop into the Soft Dom/Master that I want to be.

Who and What I am looking for:

In terms of the ideal partner, I’m seeking a man with a muscular build, preferably beefy, who is submissive (submissive top). That is personally the type of men I am attracted to, body type wise. Additionally, I find it appealing when the larger , more muscular male submits to someone smaller and less physically imposing. It creates a contrast between both individuals, and gives the impression of the larger male as a knight or bodyguard protecting the dom while under his control. I would prefer a partner between the ages 25-55, but am open to slightly older or younger.

I want to be able to share these feelings with another person, as we both grow. I don’t have overly high expectations of how this should unfold. I believe building a connection first and seeing how that progresses is the best way to start. Honesty, respect, communication, and trust from both ends are important factors to a successful relationship. Creating a safe environment free of judgement to be able to learn while respecting one another. The willingness to learn and be a part of a dynamic such as this also important as well. While Im mainly looking for online connections , I’m open to in-person connections too if we reside in the same area.

Here are some kinks and aspects that Im interested in:

Obedience training, Rules, Muscle growth/fitness control, Wardrobe Control, TPE, Orgasm Control,Milking/Edging, CBT, Cum play, CEI, JOI

My limits/dislikes:

Feminization, Degrading, Humiliation, Blood, Race play, Scat

If you made it this far, I thank you for taking the time to read my post. If interested, I kindly request the you write a form of introduction about yourself in your opening message. I look forward to hearing from potential people. Thank you again and have a wonderful day/night.