r/SexWorkers

A return client of mine today in a FSSW brothel. I don't do things like dirty talk and don't advertise that I do 😂 Especially in a standard service, which was what he paid for

Him: "What turns you on?"

Me: "... Money?"

Him: "Me too. But really, what makes you super horny?"

Me: "Piles of money."

For context, I've (male, 50s) been seeing the same SW for 7 months, following a difficult relationship breakup which put me off conventional dating. She is the first and only escort I have seen. We've met up about a dozen times and I thought we got on really well. I know her real name and we speak or text most days. I'm reliable, we go out on nice dates and I book long sessions. She knows I like her a lot and we've talked about having a different arrangement, like a sugar relationship I guess, and that we'd introduce each other to friends/family eventually.

Last week she said she was feeling down and also needed money for a few bills so I sent her some in lieu of a meet in the future. We have done this before and it's not been an issue. We met up in a hotel a couple of days later and she asked me if we could do an overnight booking for more money. It was the equivalent of about 5K USD in total. We have done this before, again no issue normally. She wanted some coke which she would pay for herself and her (female) friend who was picking it up was going to come up for a little chat, and then my SW and I would have some 'us' time. There was no suggestion that this friend was there for anything sexual. This friend ended up staying for nearly 6 hours. I was happy initially to chat with them but it went on far longer than it should have. I didn't want to spoil the vibe and I kept thinking she was going to leave any minute so I didn't ask her to leave.

My SW's period then started and she got some cramps and obviously sex was out of the question then. She ended up leaving shortly after, with her friend, about 2AM, far earlier than we'd agreed but I guess there wasn't much point in her staying. No intimacy at all and nearly all of the meet taken up by this friend of hers. BTW I am not suggesting for a millisecond that anyone should have to have sex when they are in pain or for that matter if they don't want to, for any reason, even if it's been 'paid for'.

So my SW has offered to see me this week. But she wants me to pay her standard rate, with only one 'free' hour as a sweetener. I told her this was not fair, and explained why. She has now offered me 2 free hours but I still need to pay her ~2K USD equivalent for a much shorter booking than the other night. I'm not suggesting asking for another whole night for free, but maybe a few hours? The other night was an awful lot of money just to watch 2 women do coke and chat to each other and not actively involve me.

I get that stuff happens and money can be tight but that can happen in any industry. The usual thing if you can't provide an agreed-upon service at a particular time, even if it's due to something that's beyond your control, is that you provide that service at a later date, not charge again for it. I can't help but feel ripped off. Am I being unreasonable?

Quibbling over what's fair and what's not is also kind of ruining the vibe for me. I'm wondering if the right thing to do might be just to cut my losses and walk away.

A client text me saying he submitted a screening on PD, I took a look at his profile and he’s left 11 reviews for 11 different girls. I read through all of them, and all 11 reviews had mentioned a massage and how great they were… then I took a look at the girls profiles and all 11 were listed under Escort and FBSM

Now remember his initial text was literally that he had submitted a screening, I proceeded to ask him how much time he was looking for (even if they reach out saying FBSM I still consider that explicit and will just say you’re paying for my time)

He sends deposit, address, the whole 9

I get to his house and after a few minutes of chit chat I ask him what kind of massage he was looking for today… you know what he says?

Massage? Huh? I invited you over for sex.

I say that’s weird excuse all 11 reviews you’ve left mentioned a massage He follows up with oh that’s just code

I say no maybe two or three reviews mentioning a massage would be understandable but not all 11

Honestly, it was my last straw. After seeing the comments women left on a news article of a sex worker reporting a man who pretended to be a cop and robbed her at gunpoint because she wouldn’t have sex with him. They were laughing saying he wasn’t wrong. It cancels out because they were both doing something illegal, and a lot of other shit.

I expect that behavior from men, but the craziest part is even men were defending sex workers against them, saying they were wrong and calling out women for not supporting women. You know it’s bad when men step in to call them out.

I don’t care those comments hurt. Like, imagine if somebody damn near raped and then robbed them at gunpoint they’ll be singing a different tune and crying about the patriarchy/misogyny.

That’s why I never hopped on the feminist wave. I believe in women’s rights, but feminism wasn’t created with us in mind, especially WOC sex workers.

Women’s logic is to not abuse or mistreat women unless it’s a sex worker. Feminists either “pity”, hate, or try to use SW as puppets. Leave me out of that weak ass movement, especially modern day feminism. It’s full of hypocrites who never stand on shit anyway.

Also, stop saying women should come together. That will never happen. Even after all the oppression women experienced throughout history, we still hate each other. Feminists are just hypocrites who are yapping into thin air at this point.

Let’s not forget how they acted when the tea app came out. Like you bitches are losers and 30 years late. Sex workers been had communities like that.

They claim sex workers are holding women back. It’s not our fault they’re bird brained, got played and had to find out the hard way that men don’t want them in any other way but on their knees.

I don’t even feel like a woman anymore because I don’t relate to them. I been holding my own since day one, no support from other women. Sex workers take all the degradation. We are the people society accepts to be abused, raped, and murdered.

I’m tired of defending myself and my job, but when I crash everyone will act like I’m the problem. I’ll never just sit and allow myself to be a punching bag, so I crash out easily, but I’m working on not letting people’s words and hatred get to me.

The only women I care about are my own civvie friends, loved ones, and sex workers. From now on im only looking out for them. Always been the empathetic type, helped others, felt bad when men play or do women dirty I’m tired of not receiving the same love back. call me cold hearted and for me personally it might be hard but I’m committed to not giving a fuck about any other woman but those I mentioned. sex workers need the support more than ever.

do you guys feel like sex work has completely turned you off from men unless money is involved? i kind of feel like as i’ve continued sex work the less social i am with men. maybe it’s because i see them for exactly who they are and i don’t trust em but yeah i’m so low effort with them. idk if it’s a good or bad thing and wanted to see if any of you guys are currently feeling the same!

If any ladies are here in the Houston area fleet week is here , thousands of navy , marine and coast guard men will be here … they are starting in the galveston area today .And will make rounds around the surrounding houston area the remaining time 🧚🏾‍♀️✨

I’ve been posting on Reddit coming up on a year in a little bit, and I’ve been struggling to find clients, I don’t have a job right now this is my only income and I’m desperate, please help me out!!

I am a queer woman and my girlfriend is a pole dancer, and is interested in becoming a stripper pretty soon. Any advice for a partner to be supportive and also just to understand more? I look forward to being her main support system, embracing her, and cheering her on, just want to do my own research and learn from other couples' experiences. Also pretty interested if there are any good media sources like podcasts or books that dive into this topic, specifically with monogamous committed relationship dynamics where one or both partners work in sex work, managing boundaries, fears, and support? Thank you :)

The end of ‘25 was good to me so I decided to book an east coast tour invest in myself and prepare for the best. My first stop is NYC and I’ll work my way down to the DMV while spending most of my time in New Jersey.

This is my first time on the east coast so I’m just looking for recommendations on cities to post in and places that are good for freestyling. I’m open to meeting with other ladies while that way. I want to network with likeminded SW who want to see one another win. We don’t have to be friends, associates/colleagues keeps things professional.

Any info helps! I’m excited and ready to put my game face on!

if you're here you already likely know what that means. sexual service in exchange for pay. Findom, Meet ups, Cam work, Domination, selling nudes, etc.

I'm a sex worker, and I really want to call out the way a bunch of dommes are acting towards each other in multiple communities! Downing someone because their kink content is different from yours, setting expectations you can't even meet yourself, shaming them for their content being different from yours, etc.

We're all in the same game, whether you like it or not. It's all sex work, whether your line involves nudity or not. Why are we shaming each other for running our hustle differently? I'm new to using reddit for advertising and such, but the amount of exclusion is insane! Being requested to make another account solely for the purpose of one section of my sex work? absolutely not. I'll find another community that doesn't mind all day long, but I'll still be infuriated by the hypocrisy that lies amongst us, and I can't pretend like I support the discrimination either. At the end of the day we are all

content creators.

I have meet with this client a couple times but this time its an out call at his apartment, I have been on TikTok looking for some safety tips but thought I should probably ask on here.

Would it be weird if I became a regular as a woman?

I recently saw a provider for the first time and I really enjoyed myself. I want to be a regular (budget considering) but is it unusual for a woman to see a provider regularly? I'm sure I'm overthinking it

Thank you for your input!

(also alt account so I don't dox myself)

What is the best experience you’ve had?

What are some things the provider did and said to you or requested.

I offer some domme services but unfortunately a lot of clients aren’t specific so I don’t feel comfortable to do the booking. I also find it hard to dom a client I’ve never seen before for a short time even when we have a lengthy convo beforehand so I need ideas. I know there’s so many different avenues for sub dom but I’d love to hear any details!

I feel like I request the same things as I feel like I have limited options in bookings as it’s usually a one room situation I’m getting bored.

Tia 🫶🏼

Hey lovelies. I was just wondering if anyone else in experiencing a hard time on Scarlet Blue. My account is almost a week old and it has just been crickets around here. I used to work for an establishment and now I’m going independent.

My images are verified and professionally taken, I have a nice figure, decent ‘about me’ section, I’m a polite and warm person etc. I’ve basically completed every part of my profile with great attention to detail and a lot of effort and studying. I just don’t know what to do.

I’ve had one booking so far and it was 3 hours for $3k. This is pretty common where I am located.

Is it because my account is new and I’ve not built enough credibility yet? I feel as though in establishments it’s different; everyone wants the new girl. But on this site it feels like the opposite. Or is there something I’m missing? Or is this a normal phase to go through when starting?

Any guidance would be much appreciated x