r/SPHcouples

Long story short: I kinda like light SPH. I don’t tell my wife this directly. But I’ve done things like ask her to tell me how big her exes were or how I compare. She plays along but I don’t push this. I am actually insecure because all but one was bigger than me, some a lot.

She has always told me that don’t worry even though may were bigger mine is great / her favorite ever and average.

Last week I got up the courage to ask her to do something that I fantasized about for a long time — I asked her to measure me with a tailor’s tape.

When she saw it it was obviously less than she expected. She said immediately “oh wow it’s less than 6, I always figured you were six”. I asked her why she thought that and she said because she thinks that’s average and she figured I was average. This does not sound socking or anything but the look on her face I’ll always remeber. It was like a surprised stepping back “this is interesting ..” with a little smile. Not like mean or anything but it clearly had some impact on her.

I explained to her that actually 6 is above average. 5-5.5 is average. She said well maybe that statistic is worldwide and maybe it’s different just in our area. She was very reassuring though. She said I am overthinking it. That i already know I’m the second smallest she had yet …. She picks me! And how this is silly because this is a non issue and no woman picks a man for his penis.

Still ,,, this kinda shook me. That look on her face. I kinda regret not that my fantasy might have had a real impact on how my wife thinks of me as a man. I wish I had not asked her to do this. Just a cautionary tale I guess for guys that are thinking of asking their wife or gf to do this. Or it’s all in my head.