r/OnlineAffairs

About me - 47 turning 48 in a few months, 5’2 chubby girl, married since 18. Not quite dead bedroom but missing the excitement that it once had. Not looking to change my or your situation. Don’t want anything heavy just some light chitchat and sexting back and forth. Someone who understands the need to be discreet and that I can’t always be available when they want me to be. Just fyi I am in northeast pa for time zone idea, my best times to chat is during weekdays and if I can’t chat back will try to get back as soon as I can. If you are in a similar situation message me. Also please no messaging from 40 or younger, profiles that aren’t at least a year old or are blank, would prefer if you were in same state as me if possible. I know it’s a lot to ask but I’m tired of weeding thru just as you probably are.

So I’m 37. Mom of 2. Work in healthcare. Fun and bubbly. I feel like I’m stuck in the same circle of life. Same routines same thing everyday. Looking to break it up. Any other dads feeling the same? We should chat and see if we vibe. Whether it’s just chatting, flirting or teasing I’m down for it all. We can be each others distraction. Be over 30. I want someone fun. Be ready to trade pics. We can do it on telegram for discreet purposes. Just makes it more real and a real connection. If you don’t like curvy woman you probably won’t like me just being honest. Anyhow, let’s see if we are a good vibe and if things come naturally. I don’t want to force anything that natural build is the best 🤩

Hi there! I’m 28F, from the US west coast. Married, no kids, and probably way too busy to be attempting to have an affair. I’m an introvert, an animal lover and chronically anxious. I’m sweet but bratty, moody, and I care too much too often. Admittedly, I’m chasing a feeling, an all consuming one.

To start, I want friendship. I want banter and laughter and to feel at ease with someone. My playful sarcasm will come out the more that I like you. More than anything, I want trust and I want to be able to be open and share vulnerability. This is a priority and very important to me that it is established.

I’m looking for a dynamic that has a power imbalance. I want us to be able to get under each other skin and challenge each other. I want mutual intensity and passion. Let’s be obsessed with each other, let’s fall in love. I want to share intimacy, yes, kink and D/s go hand in hand with this.

I have to admit I do like things a little bit toxic (with consent of course). Let’s be possessive and jealous, don’t hold back. If I really like you, I’d hand you my soul on platter. I want to crawl into your chest and stay while. Maybe you’ll even let me wear a vial of your blood around my neck.

Because attraction and chemistry is important; I’m short and plus sized, I have lots of dark hair, dark eyes, and a few tattoos. I’m attracted to assertive men who aren’t afraid to take initiative. Kindness and sensitivity is also very attractive. Above all, I’m a slut for good communication. And if I’m being upfront: tall, dark and handsome, with tattoos, helps too lol.

I want the good, the bad, and the ugly. I want to catch feelings and have a certain kind of intensity with someone. I won’t try to sell you on the best of me, just the true me. I do ask that you can hold a conversation and stay curious. Being empathetic and understanding is a must. Let’s break down each other’s walls and experience an emotional connection.

This is way too long already. Please send a thoughtful response, only if you’re genuinely interested. I’ll do my best to get back to you soon!

Heyoooo.

This is just another post about a married chick who wants FEELINGS with the right fella.

I’m not gonna write a bunch of cliche shit, but I’m not here for casual sexting. I need depth and an emotional connection. Something that makes me feel fucking giddy and alive.

I’m just a horror lovin’ girly who likes to read, enjoys her dogs, and frequently spirals about insignificant shit. I think I’m a fuckin catch, but I’m also really flawed. I struggle sometimes and am probably way too jaded for my own good. I like to talk about anything and nothing, and I’m constantly questioning what the fuck life is. Most of the time I’d rather talk about weird shit and lightly bully one another, but I do think it’s important to learn about the deep, dark stuff too. I’m far from a skinny queen; I’m soft and have squish to me, plus sized, whatever. I try to better myself daily, but sometimes it’s really fucking hard. I’m not the nerdy type, but I don’t care if you are. Communication is really important to me, so if your availability sucks, I will sniff it out like a bloodhound. Dark and offensive humor is really important to me, so if we can’t push those lines, I won’t be interested.

Be looking for something legit if you reply. & please be 45 and under. Many thanks.

Hi,

It’s Saturday. I didn’t think I would find myself at the corner bar again today, but here I am. The vibe I’m giving off is quiet… tired. But also, tender, and alone.

A little bit about me:

I’m a poly-friendly lover who is looking for a soul mate — someone who may be quiet and shy but also has the time and energy to gaze deep into my soul and awaken the soul-stirring sexual being inside me that longs to give myself over to my lover.

I long for quiet conversation, the kind where the silences speak as much as the words, the kind where a song starts playing in the background that captures how we both feel, the kind where the night stretches on because our curiosity lingers each time it’s time to say good night.

But I will warn you: my heart is tender. I was recently broken up with and I’m still sorting out the pieces of my shattered heart. But if you’re not threatened by that and you can meet me in that liminal space, in the depths of that crevice that requires patience to open up, but is also desperately and fervently looking for love, then maybe there’s a conversation to be had here.

Some technical specs:

- INFJ 4w5

- East Asian, long dark hair, Asian eyes

- Prefers men between 35-45 who have a lean build, brown hair and brown/blue eyes (don’t ask me why, I’ve just realized it’s a thing)

- MST time zone

If that drew you in or at least didn’t scare you away, then, feel free to send me a message. It might take me a bit to get back to you, but I appreciate your patience and your meeting me where I’m at.

Cheers 🥂 until then.

Hello! I’m a 36 year old mom from Georgia. I have brown hair, blue eyes. I’m on the curvy side but I’m cute and I care about my appearance.

I’m looking for a kind, emotionally aware man or woman between the ages of 30–45 to connect with. I’m looking for someone who values good conversation, mutual respect, and is looking for that spark and butterflies in your stomach feeling. Someone who is kink friendly is a bonus. I generally am into people that care about their appearance and make an effort to look presentable. Men: No wild, unconventional or untamed beards please.

I lean left politically and appreciate someone who is open minded, compassionate, and thoughtful about the world. I’m drawn to people who are genuine, communicative, and able to be both playful and real.

Women: I’m newer to connecting with women, so I need patience, honesty, and a sense of curiosity.

If you’re kind, self aware, and looking for something that starts with conversation and could grow into more, I’d love to hear from you.

In your message to me, please include how old you are and where you’re from, time zones are fine.

**If you’re looking for something only sexual, I’m not the person for you**

Hey there! I’m a 28 year old married mom living in New York (no, not NYC - the other side of the state.) I'm 5'3, curvy, with tattoos, freckles, green eyes, long dirty blonde hair with purple streaks, and some piercings. I will send pictures once I feel that we mesh well. I promise that I won’t try to change your situation. I’m looking for ages 28+ preferably in the US.

I would prefer to keep this online only. I'm hoping to find somebody that I can gain trust in and grow an emotional connection with. I miss the feeling of being adored, loved, cherished, and complimented. I want that spark and romance back in my life. The butterflies when I receive a message on my phone. I want to find my best friend, my partner, I want to fall in love all over again. I do have a lot of walls up and don’t trust easily, hopefully you can be patient with me.

A little bit about me:

•I have a sick sense of humor and am very sarcastic. I’m a sucker for memes - the darker the better, I promise you won’t offend me. Almost every other word out of my mouth is a swear word.

•I enjoy anything artistic and crafty, especially painting, cross stitching, and working on diamond art.

•I love to read books and listen podcasts.

•I enjoy antiquing and adding to my collections.

•My music taste is pretty eclectic, but mainly alternative rock and classic rock. Every other song on my playlist is a different genre.

•I love paranormal tv shows, horror movies, and Halloween is my favorite holiday.

•I’m a bit of a nerd, huge fan of Pokémon, Disney, and Marvel.

•I’m an animal lover; I have a dog and two chunky cats

•I enjoy playing video games on my Switch and PC (maybe we can play some games together?)

•I love watching football. I’m an Eagles fan (yes, I know, “but you live in New York!”)

I do have many NSFW interests as well, and kink friendly, but that’s a conversation for down the road. I need an emotional connection in place, then the physical connection will follow. I want more than just sex.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading! I know it was a lot. 😂

Last affair ended. I don’t want to be here again 😩 I’m guessing you don’t either. Will you save me?!?

This place genuinely sucks the life out of your soul. But I do want to find the right person for something long-term and committed. A real love affair.

Yes, I said love. If you’re afraid of the feels, don’t message me.

Me:

• Married. 2 kids. 2 dogs
• Brunette. Big blue eyes. Full lips. Light skin.
• Curvy. Not obese, but not skinny. I’m hot as fuck and very confident in who I am, but I do have extra weight. If that’s not your thing, I’m not offended, just keep scrolling
• Intelligent. High-powered career that I love
• Passionate about life. Funny, outgoing, and love to chat and banter about silly things, then switch into deeper conversations
• A giver to the fullest extent. I will give you my all, even on the hardest days

You:

• 5’11 minimum, preferably over 6ft
• Conventionally attractive. You don’t need to be perfect, but I fit the bill of a typical pretty mom, so you should be that dad too
• Both dominant and gentle. You know when to lead and when to listen, when to hold firm and when to soften
• Actually interesting. Funny and kind.
• Want a relationship, depth, consistency, and connection
• You can ride the wave. Not every day is butterflies and rainbows, and you’re still willing to be there for me on the hard days

I want to be consumed and chosen every single day, and I want to give that to you too. I will give you everything I have and more, and I expect the same in return.

Willing to start or stay online, but nothing beats in person. I do travel for work so - yay for that.

Can’t wait to hear from you 🥰

Does lightening strike twice? I don't know why I hope for that given the first time somehow didn't kill me and I shouldn't test my luck.

But here I am again. Seeking the proverbial needle in a haystack. The man who seemingly has everything... the family, the house, the dream job and a team who would be shocked to find you here.

Why are you here? You love your life but need something more. You can't be your full self at home, and you want a woman who you can be you with. You're probably a bit dominant, but not in the wanting to tell a woman what panties to wear every day (who has time for that?) You know you don't know everything but are confident and comfortable in your skin, and don't mind that I'm not. Maybe you like shy awkward nerdy brunettes who can't quite hold eye contact. Do you?

What I've realized is for this to work I need to admire you. That doesn't have any set requirements, but intellect is important. Being a model is not required but being somewhat healthy is. Having passion for something is key.

I prefer men 48-53, give or take a few years. I like a man who enjoys holding a woman, who knows that there are many layers of connection and each is worth exploring.

I'm still a bit broken from something wonderful that is no more, and I'm not going to pretend that's not part of my reality right now. I just need a friend, a man, someone in the world to be something. A connection. More. Or less. Whatever makes sense.

Or tell me about how broken you are about your ex, and I'll tell you about mine. Seems common in these parts.

Hi! I’m a girl from Southeast Asia who would love to have someone to talk to regularly like just sharing about our days, what we’re thinking about, and what we’re up to in life. I really enjoy deep conversations and emotional connection.

I also believe sexual chemistry is just as important as emotional connection. I consider myself demisexual, which means I’m only really attracted to someone after I form an emotional bond with them. And I’m also sapiosexual, meaning I’m attracted to intelligence a smart mind is very attractive to me.

So I guess you could say I’m a pretty kinky girl, but I’m also someone who loves meaningful conversations and intelligent people. That combination matters a lot to me.

I do have a major DDLG kink and I’m very into age gaps, so I usually connect better with men in their 40s and above. I genuinely enjoy listening to people’s life experiences, their stories, what they’ve learned, and how they see the world.

Since I’m in Southeast Asia, most connections will probably be online, but I don’t really see time zones as a barrier when it comes to connecting with someone’s mind and soul.

My interests include cats (especially fat cats, so if you have a cat please show me) and I love hearing people talk about what they’re passionate about. I don’t like people who are cold or mean. I like someone who is soft and gentle, but can also be rough when he needs to be.

I am in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years, so I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation or mine. But I do like the idea of being a little bit of sunshine in someone’s otherwise grey life.

I’m only going to choose one daddy to be my daily diary and someone I talk to every day, share my thoughts with, and who gets to be a little bit involved in my life. And he might also get the privilege of controlling my remote toy when I’m at the gym or even when I’m at the office. 😘

Thus if this post is still up it means i have yet to find a daddy for me.

A little about me, I’m 29 with gorgeous long brown hair and blue eyes some tattoos looking for that thrill again. The thrill of being desired and the a little bit of the thrill of doing this in secret. Not looking to change anyone’s situation just looking for that thrilling little bit of side fun. Typically attracted to redheads but as long as you can hold a conversation and not mind when I get busy that does not matter. Looking for late 20’s early 30’s like myself but am definitely not intimidated by a woman older than that!

So I’ve tried this before with minimal success. I think most people here aren’t as genuine as we would like to think. Assuming we are all in relationships (some with kids like myself) and not wanting to change that. So it’s tricky.

But myself, what I’m hoping to find, is that spark that gets you up in the morning, the excitement that makes your heart race when you see a message come up. And when that emotional connection builds and then it turns into a bit more, well then it’s just addicting. I know that sounds too good to be true, but it must be out there.

Me: 35, healthcare professional, I stay active and fit if that’s important for you…I love most active things, Indoor and out. Love music, play guitar and would love music to be a focus of our relationship.

No expectations of imploding your life to make this happen. Always respectful, no drama.

Hope this resonates with you

first & foremost - please be close to me…. it’s just not going to work (for me!!) if you’re in a completely different country or area of the US.

Looking for something REAL and not just purely sexual. It takes time to build that. When it’s rushed… it’s boring. I like to know what makes you tick and gets you goin’ 🤪

About me.. 5’4, hazel eyes, a little past shoulder length brown hair, mom body?, I guess haha I lost a bunch of weight so I have no idea where I stand anymore 🤣 for those it matters to… I’m roughly 170 lbs. I love going to the gym and want to participate in my first 5k this year… after summer when it’s not so humid hahah. I’m also a big reader & traveler!

You… someone who is dominant but doesn’t make it overbearing. Actually has a caring bone in their body. Great communicator because…. Leaving someone hangin’ is weird. I will not accept any 9-5 only type of behavior. It’s just not fun.

Anddddd.. where’s all the people who actually want to meet and don’t live 3 planets away?! lol. I’m glad some of you can travel far but I can’t go that far!! 🤣

33, Black, Gym rat, Married, Staying that way. Okay now that the basics are out of the way.

I’m a mom to one teen + a spoiled cockapoo. Im really looking for something that feels good, is consistent, and worth my time.

I’m looking for one man, not a rotation, who actually has the availability and intention for an ongoing connection. I enjoy conversation that carries throughout the day, not something that disappears after a few messages.

I’m soft, feminine, and a hopeless romantic (Disney and rom-coms will always get me), but I’m also selective with my energy. I like a slower build, real chemistry, and tension that develops naturally. If you lead with the spice or can’t hold a conversation, this won’t go anywhere.

With the right dynamic, Im very submissive, so I’m drawn to men who are confident, grounded, and quietly dominant. Not loud, not controlling… just someone who naturally leads.

My standard physically:

Tall. Lean/athletic/average(no dad bods please). You take care of yourself. I like short hair(with a nice hairline) and short or clean shaven facial hair.

I’m in the gym daily and would like someone that also stays active.

I also expect:

• Consistency

• Actual communication skills

• Emotional awareness

• A lot of time and availability since I do too.

I take care of myself and I’m confident in how I look, so mutual attraction matters. I prefer to exchange pics early and move off Reddit quickly (Telegram).

I’m playful, a little competitive, and I enjoy banter, games, and someone who can mentally keep up. If I have to carry the conversation, I lose interest.

If you made it this far, message me :)

To get a response, include:

• Age

• Height

• How you stay active

• And something specific from this post that caught your attention

Low effort gets ignored.

Hi there!

I’m a 28 year old dog momma from the PNW. Short, dark hair, dark eyes, and yatted - and discretion is a must.

I work in the healthcare industry so my schedule can be pretty demanding at times but I’ll be off the next month or so and could use some flirty conversation and Netflix recommendations to keep me company :)

I love conspiracy theories, aliens, and some good bants- if you have any hooty theories to share, my inbox is open 👽✨

Tele: @bhadblippi

In the midst of a long weekend, the weather is not anywhere near warm enough, the world feels all a bit familiar and the same, which is probably exactly why you’re here in the first place?

Every day is a new dawn where you count your blessings according to some hideously annoying twat on Instagram or maybe the world is fucked, littered with conflict mad Vlad is still going at it with Ukraine and ‘The Donald’ is starting wars he can’t finish or threatening to take countries so another day feeling invisible, under appreciated and the prospect of next week listening to Linda in accounts talk about her latest bout of aggressive thrush doesn’t make life feel like the blessing.

So, if you’ve not dived out of this post to call the divorce lawyer or The Samaritans then maybe you’re the type of person I would like to speak to.

Fine, I am not going to run off into the sunset with you, I might meet you if geography and the connection is right and whilst I have no desire to change your situation - I want you to feel some uplifting feelings; be heard, have a laugh, feel inspired and desired because the reality of a marriage or long term relationship that is entrenched in ‘friend zone’ with the oft wheeled out ‘dead bedroom’ situation can be a bit of a dark place.

So, a bit about me. I take each day as a blessing. No! Course I don’t, leave that shit to the beautiful bastards on Insta. I have friends, confusingly I am popular, I have a decent life but I am unseen and I speak yet go unheard - you probably are too.

I reckon I am a solid 6-7/10. I know what you’re thinking, “don’t go into sales because I wouldn’t buy what you’re selling” but I have read a lot of shit here like:

- “I’m handsome” - says who? Your mum? She would tell you that.

- “Dadbod” - no, you’ve got more folds than an origami convention.

“I’m athletic” - watching an event doesn’t burn calories my man

“Well hung” - lying about inches is why you then moan that women can’t park vehicles, be honest.

So, where was I, I am really tall. Like about 76% the height of an Asian elephant (course I googled it), I work out daily. I do not have the physique of one of those Greek bod monuments but if I look down I can see my feet and my penis (it’s fairly big and it has a good girth - I have testimonials and I take feedback very seriously as it will stand me in good stead for middle management), I have glasses, green eyes and short but thick beard - I look like a hybrid of a bit of a data geek that was twinned with a Viking warrior (again, taken from one of the testimonials).

What do I want?

- someone 25+, need some maturity about you

- someone who knows life is not all rainbows and unicorns

- have a sense of humour

- have time - this means actually being available, if I wanted a one way conversation I would carry on as I am

- say more than one or two words at a time; seriously nothing kills a brain boner or a conversation quicker. Cannot stress this enough

- flirtation and perversion: if you’re the right person, in time and definitely not today right now

- in time be willing share a pic. Again, not right away but if you don’t then I’ll assume you’re a truck driver called Bob, then I’ll wonder if you’ve got a bigger phallus than me and I have enough issues as you’ve probably already established

- in reasonable shape; so you didn’t make the Olympic team, that’s cool. Life ages us and we have scars that define; love that. Personally, BBW/SSBBW is not my thing; just doesn’t float my boat.

What will put you off of me, if the rambled BS above hasn’t already:

- I don’t have kids. I don’t care if you do or don’t but for some it’s a dealbreaker on here that I’ve not sowed my seed liberally in a fertile “mate”.

- I have a beard, some of you really hate it, I think you’re scared that we don’t wash it, hide snacks in or harbour rare colonies of bat in it.

- You want 24/7 serious: God, keep going you’ll hate me. Caveat - I can be serious, sensible, cautious and I give good balanced advice.

So, I am going to stop rambling and stare at the tv whilst contemplating my dinner options. Imagine my disappointment when I return to downvotes, lots of views and no messages. Oh Jesus, it will be like the time I found out ‘Lord of the Rings’ wasn’t an adult movie.

If you got here, you’re a fucking goddess and you probably even know what sightseeing is called for blind folk.

47 yo white male NYC. In a bed that feels like a desert. I’m not here to vent or blow up my world. I’m just done pretending that "fine" is enough.

I look younger than what my age is. But none of that matters if there’s no chemistry to use it on.

I’m looking for a woman in the Tri-State who is in the same boat: stable, discreet, and tired of being overlooked. Let’s be the escape we both need. No drama, no complications, just the physical connection that’s been missing.

If you’re the type who can keep a secret and still tell a dark joke, reach out.

Bonus points if you have a favorite 90’s comedy.

Happy Easter!

You've won a 6'3 man, with dark features, tattooed sleeve, he's fit, into sports, the cinema & music, to be honest he enjoys most things and can relate to a lot. He's easy going, doesn't do BS or games and he's looking for his match, his someone who matches effort with effort, with high energy and needs someone new in their life without changing our situations.

He's seeking an attractive, intelligent, and down to earth online affair partner in crime. He's married, with kids, and here for the same reasons as you probably!

He's happy to exchange pics early to not waste each others time, and he has a lot of time and attention to give the right person.

36, married, and at that point where things have just gone a bit stale. No drama, no partner bashing, just being honest about where I’m at.

I keep fit, look after myself, and have a fairly active lifestyle. I travel a bit for work, so I’m not tied to one place all the time, which keeps things interesting but also makes it harder to find any real connection.

Originally from Ireland, based in the UK the past few years. I’d like to meet someone in a similar situation who’s grounded, discreet, and actually interested in building a genuine connection rather than something purely transactional.

Not in a rush, just seeing what’s out there.

I’m looking for a woman who communicates well, flirts effortlessly, and shows up consistently. You have had that special feeling with a partner in the past. The pull is alluring.

Intelligence is important. Sexy flirting has its time and place too.

Would like to keep this online. Safe and discreet. Let’s keep things in perspective.

I’m 60, married, kind, caring, fun, fit and adventurous. You should also have a sense of adventure.

If you enjoy witty banter, meaningful chats, and making someone smile every morning — say hello.