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Just coming into my more dominant roots and have recently edged someone and had lots of fun.

But I’ve always wanted to try tying someone up and edging them and then overstimulating bc it’d be very hot hehe. Not wanting anything done to me, just purely focusing on the other person.

Haven’t really had much experience being too dominant but would love to try it out on any willing volunteers! Please pm if this sounds like something you’d enjoy! Looking for people around my age please. I’m a bigger girl too, so if you aren’t down with that, don’t bother :)

Lifestyle dilemna

Hi everyone, wife posting here 👋

I’m trying to figure out how to navigate something that’s been a bit of a block for me in the lifestyle.

I’ve realised I’m very non-verbal when it comes to anything sexual. I don’t enjoy talking about sex beforehand, and even in person I’m quite shy about it. I’m naturally more on the submissive side and much more comfortable just feeling the vibe and letting things unfold rather than discussing or planning.

I tell my husband to just enjoy upstairs and let someone approach us.

But I also understand the reality:

Boundaries, consent, and expectations are important especially with new peopleand skipping those conversations completely isn’t fair or safe.

So I feel a bit stuck between:

• not wanting to talk about sex at all (before or during)

• being quite shy/submissive in person

• but still wanting things to flow naturally and spontaneously

For others who are similar how do you make this work?

We’re a genuine Melbourne couple, both new to the lifestyle and curious to explore with the right person/people. We have a hotel booked this Saturday night in the CBD.

About us: She’s 30 — blonde, blue-eyed, curvy/chubby, soft and feminine. He’s 32 — slim build, laidback, respectful, and only there to support her comfort and pleasure

We’re big on chemistry, communication, and mutual respect. This is something we want to enjoy properly, so we’re not into pushiness, ego, or anything that feels rushed.

What we’re looking for: Primarily looking for a clean, respectful male aged 25–45 who understands boundaries, takes care of himself.

We’re also open to the right couple if the vibe feels right, but the focus would still be on her comfort and enjoyment.

Someone confident but not aggressive, patient, easygoing, and able to read the room. Good hygiene, good energy, and genuine vibes are a must.

We’d prefer to chat first and see if there’s a connection before anything else.

If you think we might click, send us a message with a little about yourself and a photo 😊

Seeking Playful Connections

Looking to connect with others for some fun.

We’re a M41 & F36 couple with plenty of experience in the scene. We’ve mostly enjoyed threesomes with singles but are open to couples or small group play.

We’re both bisexual, and while we tend to connect best with other bi people, we’re open to straight individuals or couples if the chemistry feels right.

We’re located in East Gippsland so please be happy to travel (there is a free train) or be patient for us to do Melbourne trips which we do regularly.

Seeking: Single men: 18–30, Single women: 21–45 • Couples: 21–45

If you’re interested and want more than a ONS, send us a DM we’d love to chat and see if there’s a spark.

hi all,

curious to know if anyone has attended a BCD event/party?

yes i know they first advertised in here 2 years ago, but havent seen that many posts abiut the events themselves.

i reviiewed their website, they have an extensive vetting process (this is good) and have "High Class Events" however was hoping to hear/read firsthand experences?

Any feedback, good, bad or indifferrent is apprrciated.

thanks

Hey everyone,

Figured I’d just be upfront and save everyone time — I’m a bi guy, 6’1, fit, take care of myself, and yeah, I’m well-endowed if that matters to you. I’m confident in what I bring and I’m not here to play games or dance around intentions.

What I’m looking for: open-minded couples who are genuinely into exploring and know what they want. I’m interested in both of you — not just one-sided dynamics — and I appreciate people who are secure, communicative, and drama-free.

I’m pretty straight to the point. Not really into the whole “let’s chat for weeks” or doing the polite drink-and-small-talk routine just to feel things out. I respect your time and mine, so I prefer clarity, mutual attraction, and then seeing where things go in person.

That said, I’m not rude or pushy — just direct. Consent, comfort, and good energy matter. If we vibe, great. If not, no hard feelings.

If you’re a couple that knows what you’re after and likes the sound of this, feel free to reach out. Be real, be clear, and we’ll take it from there.

Hello all,

We are a Sri Lankan couple living here for 5yrs now and want to connect with others. Now we are parents of 1.

I need a decent, fun loving Sri Lankan couple who can be like our friends in the long run and convince my wife to this. I don’t want things to be done in hurry, need a couple who can come to our trips, parties and shopping etc. We are a very fun loving and respectful couple and we expect the same from others. Doesn’t matter if you are parents or not.

Little bit about us

F-29 Petite, brown eyes, kind and caring girl..would be really shy at first

M-30 medium built, black eyes, fun loving and friendly guy.

We are happy to share photos once we get comfortable. We are in the eastern suburbs.

What we want:

A couple who are Down to earth, fun loving and respectful. You guys have to be between 25-32. This process won’t happen fast so I need a couple who can take their time until everything gets sorted. Would love to hear from you even you are trying to convince your wife/gf to this. We can all discover this together.

Thanks for reading and hope to hear soon 💜

Hi everyone, i am 23 m, brown, Thinking of visiting wet tomorrow for queeraf. I usually straight, but want to explore more , would love to hear from others. Any suggestions, recommendations or something i need to be aware of?? And as i am brown, do i need to be afraid of stereotyping and racism??? I would love to know experiences. I am located around reservior.Thanks