r/FindingAffairs

Hey yall, I’m 29 M from central Florida. Been together with my partner for over a year but I feel like something is definitely missing. She is great, very kind, funny and supportive. But I can’t get over the lack of sexual attention I don’t receive. Her excuse is that she already went through that phase in her early 20s and now doesn’t wanna have anything more than boring, vanilla sex. I’m a firefighter and veteran of 5 years in the Marines. I live a very high stress and high intensity life. I need someone to match my sexual energy and appetite. Also someone to be just as loving, sweet and supportive. Give me your attention and patience. I’ll make it worth your wild. I need a solid replacement that includes a high sexual drive . I’m 5’9, I’m fit and Hispanic. I am lowkey a nerd and high on that ADHD vide. Let’s find something true and real and enjoy this short thing we call life. My DMs are open. HMU if you’re interested.

I’m here to connect with someone who’s looking for something similar and is married or in a relationship that’s lacking. You’ve lost that spark, the feeling of being desired and wanted. Seeking—A connection, mentally and emotionally, FWB-NSA relationship. Built on mutual respect, honesty, and clear expectations. I’m looking for meaningful conversation, chemistry, and then regular meet ups. I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation or my own. I believe attraction and compatibility matter, so chatting first and meeting in person (when comfortable) is important to me. I’m not opposed to single women, but it has been my experience most are scammers. No offense. I also won’t be your SD or financer.

I’m down-to-earth with a great sense of humor and a straightforward communication style. I’m married and value discretion. I enjoy staying active—exercise, watching sports, and spending time outdoors. Camping, hiking, and working with my hands are some of my favorite ways to unwind. I like building and fixing things and take pride in being practical and capable.

I’m open-minded and appreciate confidence in all forms. Age is just a number, and personality matters more than anything else. I love thicker women but I’m not picky. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I can be direct and forward at times, but I value kindness and transparency—no games, no drama.

Please be within about 90-120 minutes of the B-ham area, as it keeps travel reasonable on both sides. I’m not a scammer and again I have no interest in scams or financial exchanges. Sorry but I won’t be buying you an apple gift card, or sending you money for groceries.

When it’s time for meet up? Could you be able to split the cost of a hotel? If not no worries, but let’s be honest we’re both here for a reason. I cannot host not sure if you want to host. But I believe a hotel would be better for discretion. Daytime availability works best for me.

Discretion is an absolute must—no exceptions. If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I look forward to connecting. Stay safe.

I’m 28, married, successful in marketing, and from the outside, it looks like I have everything. But there’s still a big empty space.. that craving for real emotional connection, intimacy, and excitement that I just can’t ignore anymore. I’m not here to chase 10 girls or waste anyone’s time.

I want one special connection: a monogamous online affair where we can be friends, share deep conversations about life, flirt, and explore chemistry as friends with benefits.

I’m naturally dominant and kinky. I love dirty talk, strong flirting, and manhandling you in sexting (in the best way). If you’re a smart, submissive woman who enjoys being led, deep talks, emotional sharing, and building something real on the side.. We might be a great match.

A bit about me:

• 179 cm, stay in shape (gym regularly)
• Kurdish, love reading (especially Kurdish books), chess, music, movies, and self-development
• Career-focused and ambitious

What you can expect from me:

• Daily messages and consistent communication.
• Sharing life moments and building a real connection.
• Emotional support and someone who listens.
• Loyalty and focus on one person only.
• Making you feel valued, cared for, and not alone.
• Genuine attention, appreciation, and affection.

I don’t have many preferences physically, but I’m not into chubby women. Feel free to ask for photos if it matters to you. I'm happy to exchange if there’s a good vibe.

If you’re married or attached, too, even better. If you think we could click, send me a short message about yourself, and let’s see where it goes.

Thanks for reading. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Professional male looking for something intimate and discreet with someone special. Hopefully, together, we can escape the everyday!

Married latino male born and rasied here, just being honest—things at home aren’t what they used to be in the bedroom. Not looking to change my situation, just hoping to connect with someone who understands that feeling and is in a similar place.

Looking for a woman (married or single) who enjoys good conversation, a little excitement, and seeing where things naturally go. No pressure, no expectations—just two people connecting and figuring it out along the way.

Discretion, respect, and honesty matter. If you can relate and want something a little different from the routine, feel free to reach out.

47 yo white male NYC. In a bed that feels like a desert. I’m not here to vent or blow up my world. I’m just done pretending that "fine" is enough.

I look younger than what my age is. But none of that matters if there’s no chemistry to use it on.

I’m looking for a woman in the Tri-State who is in the same boat: stable, discreet, and tired of being overlooked. Let’s be the escape we both need. No drama, no complications, just the physical connection that’s been missing.

If you’re the type who can keep a secret and still tell a dark joke, reach out.

Bonus points if you have a favorite 90’s comedy.

Hey there! Thanks for checking my post! I’ll keep this short and sweet. I am a 38 year old straight married male who lives in Northeast Ohio. My marriage is a dead bedroom and we are more like roommates than a couple. I am hoping to find a woman for a long term affair with the potential for feelings to develop. Any relationship status whether single or committed isn't an issue. Just want a woman who is looking for the fulfillment and satisfaction they are currently not getting. Age isn't too big of a deal but would like us to also be close in distance so we are able to meet. I can do some traveling and can host on occasion. Discretion is an obvious must. If you have made it this far and it has piqued your interest, then send a message and let's see where this goes!

Location: KW (but I can travel anywhere from GTA to Ayr)

Status: Married Dad & Tech Professional

The Vibe: I’m 42, Indian, and "perfectly acceptable to look at" think of someone who cleans up well, but not gonna feature in any hottest pAP lists. I’m a successful techie who uses an MBA and Engineering degree to win movie plot arguments and critique cinematography no one asked about.

The "Why": Life is solid, but I’m missing a female best friend to share the irreverent side of life with. I love giving; whether it's being a rock-solid listener or trouble shooting your home wifi, I’ve got you.

The Gear: Home Automation: My house is smarter than chatGPT; my blinds have a mind of their own.

DIY: I can build a shelf with only a 1% "character" lean.

Outdoors: Nature walks and beaches are my escape from cell service.

The Ideal Match: You appreciate self-deprecating humor and want a high-quality connection without a life-overhaul. I’m reliable, funny, and great at keeping secrets.

Warning: You will receive unsolicited digital OPSEC tips. It’s my love language.

Let’s grab a drink and talk about everything we shouldn't.

Im a 41 year old married white male who lives in Colorado looking for hopefully what you are looking for, a new connection. I feel stuck in my life, from a dead bedroom and four kids under 13. I'm looking for someone in the same or similar situation. Wanting to find a friend that can develop into something more and deeper. Online or in real life or a combo of both. I just want to have that spark that seems to have been lost. I have many hobbies. I love cooking, traveling, science, history, astronomy, and movies.

Looking for Hispanic,mixed,darker skin woman

5'9", brown skin, brown eyes, black hair, salt n pepper goatie, average build, married but seperated, a dad. Looking for a mature woman in her 40s preferably (but not limited to) who is caring and nurturing and loves and is missing affection in her marriage. Please DM me. Only serious folks please.

47 yo white male NYC. In a bed that feels like a desert. I’m not here to vent or blow up my world. I’m just done pretending that "fine" is enough.

I look younger than what my age is. But none of that matters if there’s no chemistry to use it on.

I’m looking for a woman in the Tri-State who is in the same boat: stable, discreet, and tired of being overlooked. Let’s be the escape we both need. No drama, no complications, just the physical connection that’s been missing.

If you’re the type who can keep a secret and still tell a dark joke, reach out.

Bonus points if you have a favorite 90’s comedy.

Hi, long time lurker first time poster here. I'm a 39 year old European Latino professional male here in Indy. I'm outgoing, laid back, spontaneous, goofy, endless romantic who has been in a sexless marriage for way too long. If you are reading this is because you can relate as well. I'm currently not in a position to change my situation so I'm hoping to find an amazing woman who is in my shoes. I'm open to age and race but please be drama free, as well as drugs and disease free.

As far as me goes: I'm 5'9, 190 lbs, bulky athletic, brown eyes and black hair. I keep a nice beard, I take care of my skin, love to smell good and always dress well. I have a wild naughty side with a high sex drive so I hope you do to. Aside from that, I love to travel, I've been tom 33 countries, I love to dance, love music, learning new cultures and customs, and I ove food! I'm an avid sports lover, I love communication, and have zero time for games.

If you are interested, please send me a DM with a little bit about you. We can exchange pictures and go from there!