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hey all, looking for some advice on what i might be doing wrong 😅

i bought a satisfyer pro 2 gen 3 a couple weeks ago, exchanged a standard bullet vibrator for it, and since then i've tried it about 4 times.

i've looked up all the advice people give (i.e. make sure youre super in the mood, use lube, start lowest and slowly increase, hold it perfectly still etc.) and i must be doing something wrong, or its my anatomy (my kitty's on the larger side) because not only are the O's not that good, it takes me a whiiile, it took me nearly an hour today 😭 people keep saying it takes less than 5 minutes, even seconds!

the main thing is my previous vibrator worked like a charm, i only exchanged it since it stopped charging. i heard the rave reviews for the satisfyer and it hasnt met the bar my vibrator set so far! i did have *one* O with it that was really great, but it was overwhelming so i immediately moved the toy, which made the O very brief. the couple tries ive had since left me with average O's.

i don't wanna buy a new one since i'm saving my money for driving lessons right now, so any advice as to how i can make this thing work wonders is greatly appreciated! 🫶

hi all, hope you're doing well :)

i spend almost all my time with my older sister, and though she isnt diagnosed we're both 99% sure she has OCD.

her main compulsions are health related, such as thinking she's having a stroke or heart attack, worried about dying in her sleep, etc. she has an anxiety attack nearly every day about it.

most of the time i will end up looking up symptoms for her, since if she searches herself, she believes she has whatever fatal condition it shows her.

i care about her very deeply and i am not shaming her at all, i completely understand how difficult it is to live like this. the thing is, it's been over 2 years now and it's wearing me down.

i've been telling her for around 3 months now that she should talk to a therapist, but she keeps finding reasons not to, whether it be time, money (we looked up prices and know she can afford it), or the belief that it simply won't help.

what do i do in this situation? it's hard for me to not get frustrated, so she's started being aggressive and keeps insisting her intrusive thoughts are true unless i find concrete evidence for her exact problem (i.e. today her finger was hot and painful at the tip after a minor cut, and since i couldn't find someone else with the same symptom she's convinced she's gonna get sepsis)

sorry this is long, i hugely appreciate any advice!