I went to a BDSM party for the first time, it went great
I felt a bit weird going as a single guy with no real experience. I figured I would go and have a look, see what happens, maybe talk to some people. I had no expectation that I would be participating
I was looking at some folks doing a spanking scene and got talking to a couple of girls, just generally discussing the scene, what brought me here, the location etc. I asked what they where there for and we ended up discussing doing a scene together. We went through a whole consent discussion, got some condoms from the bar, I stripped naked with a bunch of people watching. I got spanked by two people at the same time, my butt cheeks are pretty bruised.
Honestly better than what I was expecting, I think they may have set the bar higher than I should expect for future events!
So yeah, I really recommend trying this out if you're wanting to do something with your kinks. You probably shouldn't expect to get any action (not everyone there was involved). But still, take some toys, dress up, clean up your pubic hair, and be brave enough to start a conversation.