New label NLSIT makes me nervous
No limit slut in training - new term for me
I've chatted with D for two months now and we saw each other once (and it was pure fire), he is eloquent, creative, handsome, hot, and puts energy in our D/s relationship, he is present, follows-through, I'm really happy so far, and he praises me and even said he is starting to adore me.
But I'm still guarded as I've had bad experiences in the past and this is a budding (but promising) relationship. He travels constantly so I don't get to see him physically that often but I get challenges almost daily, dirty talk, praise etc. I am in training and I'm loving it.
There is though a little orangey flag starting to emerge and I'm turning to this awesome community for advice, he says things like "My wish is your command" (hot right) but also "No limits allowable, safeword permitted" and has now labeled me as his No-limits-slut-in-training.
Now admittedly his steadyness, his authority, how demanding he is and the whole idea of having no limits does really turn me on in the fantasy world, but in reality I always thought a sub with no limits was a red flag?
Or does he consider limits to be different than boundaries?
He is super open to us talking about this more thoroughly cause I did mention to him feeling a little nervous about the "no limits" label.
I think what I need to make sure of first is that he is a true Dom that has my well being at mind, that will care for me and wants me to grow and be empowered. Sometimes it's good to test your limits, overcome them etc. And so I do enjoy where his energy is leading me.
Your thoughts, ideas, advice and how to address this discomfort, or if him saying that should be considered a red flag?
My fear being I go in my sub space, and I'm subservient, I love to please Sir, I'm also a service slut, so yeah I go there and do something I didn't want, and I don't have that many limits really, I guess what it all boils down to is I suspect he likes poop play and that for me would be off limits, like he has said we will do ATM and he wants me to put it in my mouth no matter how dirty....that he will train me. Can you go from total disgust to enjoyment through training?
It's a fascinating world the world of D/s
P. S on another note he asked me if I'd be willing to put the label "In consideration of D" on my fetlife account. Cute right? I'm wondering how to interpret that.
Thanks for reading and for your insights