New to being a Dom, any tips?
23F dating a 22F for about 3 months, we’ve started becoming sexual and she opened up about being into BDSM. I already knew about it vaguely since she’s into puppy aspects, like wearing a subtle collar in public and a play collar when with me, and liking to be called Pup or making dog noises when excited. She’s only ever had Doms online, is a virgin/has never had an irl relationship but has had plenty of sexual experiences online whether through sexting or webcam stuff, and her most recent Dom treated her pretty bad.
We’re into pretty much the same things, and we started a reward/punishment system such as making sure she’s taking her meds/hygiene/exercising/etc. We have rules that we both agree to, and I let her voice opinions about the reward/punishment system to adjust them fairly. I try to avoid doing the things her last Dom did (monetary abuse like taking money, sexual punishments- except we do have one where if she orgasms/masturbates without permission she’ll have to write degrading terms on herself or take a cold shower, making her over-exercise, etc).
Some things I want tips for is how to act like a Dom outside of play, and how to actually enforce punishments without giving in. Also for any doms that like to be on bottom sometimes, how do you maintain the Dom aspect?