First MFM experience disappointment
Wife posting. Long post ahead. We have been fantasizing about a MFM threesome for over a year. We finally pulled the trigger and texted one of his buddies last weekend. They had a good conversation about it, his friend said he was down, but just wanted to hangout and feel out the vibe beforehand, which we were all cool with. A few days later I started a group chat to make plans, his friend happened to be available the following evening.
His friend came over, we all ate dinner together and had some alcoholic drinks. Afterwards we sat on the couches in the living room. My husband and his friend sat on our three seater couch on opposite sides. I didn't want to move things alone too quickly so I sat on the couch adjacent for the first hour or so. We were all just drinking and chillin. Eventually I got up to use the bathroom and when I came back, his friend moved the pillow in between them and motioned for me to come sit down. Quickly after that I draped my legs over his lap while leaning my head on my husband's shoulder. We were just listening to music and chatting, vibes felt good. His friend started rubbing on my legs, it felt really nice being in between two men. This went on for about half an hour until my husband asked his friend if he wanted to go to the bed. Friend said he needed to use the bathroom first, so we went upstairs to wait for him.
After a few mins, his friend wasn't coming upstairs, so I told my husband to go check what's going on. He goes down and I hear them chatting for a few mins. Eventually I decided to go down to see what's up (at this point I had taken my leggings off and was in just a crotchless thong and thin crop top.) When I got downstairs, his friend seemed a bit hesitant but also intrigued by my lack of clothing. We could sense he didn't want to go to our bedroom, so we suggested staying on the couch where he already made himself comfortable.
We all go to the couch in the same sitting arrangement as before. They both start rubbing on me and my man tells me to reach for his cock. So I reached under both of their pants. My husband was already rock hard, his friend unfortunately was still soft. Eventually they both pulled their pants down and after a few mins of them rubbing and sucking on my tits, and both of them taking turns putting their fingers inside me, I began to suck my husband off so his friend got an idea of what was to come. I realized his friend still wasn't getting hard (started to feel really bummed out) but I asked him if he wanted me to put it in my mouth, he said yes. I figured I'd be able to suck him to get hard. Unfortunately, despite feeling him pulsing in my mouth trying to get hard, it didn't happen. I checked in with him to ask if there's anything specific he likes or needs, but we could tell he was starting to disconnect. He pulled his boxers back up and we just sat there seeing if anything would change. My husband and I both reassured him that everything was cool, no pressure. His friend expressed that he was too "in his head" to get there. We all decided to call it a night.
The following day, I texted in our group chat to apologize for any discomfort and asked if he would be interested in trying again at a much slower pace or if he wanted to keep things platonic. Unfortunately his response was that he doesn't think he can handle the intimacy part at this time. We're not sure if it is him worried about someone catching feelings or being naked around another guy, because he seemed totally willing from the get go. We don't feel like we pressured him into it at all, but it is very disappointing that it didn't work and he doesn't even want to give it another try.
I guess I'm just looking for some solidarity or any advice, if we ever decide to try again. If you read this entire thing, I greatly appreciate it. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions the past few days.