How early do you reveal FF?
TL:DR read below.
Note: Foot Fetishism is my sexuality. I am unable to orgasm without her sweaty smelly foot-related play and dirty talk. I can do vanilla sex and enjoy giving orally (I always make sure she finishes) but I do not finish during blowjobs or penetration.*
I am almost 40yo dating with intention. While I have dated many women who accepted my FF, none of my committed Long Term relationships were as enthusiastic as more they tolerated. They did for my fulfillment and that is acceptable to me.
Since my last LTR ended I am wanting to prioritize my FF needs since I believe 100% sexual compatibility is very important for Life Partner or Marriage. I know FF Hedonists do exist albeit rarer and hope to find my unicorn wife.
Because of this, I have dated casually and seriously enough to know that majority of women do not fully grasp the implications of my FF for Life Partner, until we are well into dating or even committed relationships and becomes dealbreaker for them.
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Last LTR of almost 3 years we were planning marriage but (among other reasons) broke up because she know longer saw our sex life compatible long term. She had lightly aromatic feet. She was also a “clean freak” and not keen on trying to make her feet smelly for me. Wearing used socks more than twice was not for her. At the time I was able to accept it all, but now I want to find someone who does have really pungent feet and more than accepting but prioritizing my needs for the extreme end of FF (as I prioritize her needs and kinks).
My most recent short relationship, when becoming intimate (had sex once but I did not finish) I told her my FF around 3rd date she was open to exploring, but when she realized how serious it was and my need for smelly feet she found it disgusting (her words). We broke up because of my FF.
Of course had multiple dating experiences when they are not open to exploring FF and that is a dealbreaker. That is probably at least 50% of the time. Which is totally acceptable and why I want to weed out women for those who would be into extreme end of sweaty smelly feet fetishism. I hate to “waste time” for both parties and hard enough to match, date and find compatibility. But when it is over multiple dates she finds out my FF is not for her afterall, gets frustrating for wasted effort. I think women assume I love to suck toes as foreplay but having to actually make her sweaty smelly feet my priority for orgasm is a bigger ask.
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Now I am thinking of revealing early on before first date when we are initially talking how much FF is important to me and the specifics. To be a caveat and letting her know now in case she wants to exit.
Should I even hint on likening Feet before the first date? My dates are most always from Dating Apps. I was even thinking of listing my FF as dealbreaker prompt or reference a “Quentin Tarantino” joke or similar lighthearted hints but listing on my profile may be too forward too.
I don’t want her to think sexual activity is my primary focus for dating, but I also want her to know how rigid my sexuality is for potential compatibility.
Thoughts?
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Cliffs
- FF (female sweaty smelly feet) is my sexuality and required for my orgasm.
- Late 30s and have yet to find true sexual compatibility in LTR. Not wanting to waste time for anyone, want to start weeding potential very early. Intention is committed Life Partner or Marriage and kids.
- Should I reveal FF before or during First Date?
- Hint or explicitly say have FF on Dating App Profile for caveat dealbreaker?