Should I go to sex therapy or pay for an escort?
I’m a guy, almost 33 years old, and I feel pretty bad about never having had sex. The furthest I’ve gotten is going out with three girls in my entire life and a few kisses, nothing more. The main problem is that fear blocks me and I can’t move past that point.
For years I’ve been taking clonazepam and fluoxetine for social anxiety. I’m generally a cheerful person with a good sense of humor, and on apps like Tinder I get matches and even girls who invite me out… but it never goes beyond that. I just can’t take the next step.
I’m currently in the United States for work and thought this could be an opportunity to change things, but it’s just as difficult as before. There isn’t a single day I don’t think about this, and it’s already affecting my work and my peace of mind.
On top of that, I compare myself a lot to what I see on social media, casual relationships, people who are much more relaxed about sex, etc. That makes me feel even more behind, and I get insecure thinking that any girl I go out with will have much more experience than me, and that I’ll embarrass myself.
I’m at a point where I don’t know what to do: whether to start sex/psychological therapy focused on this, or try with an escort to “unlock” myself (although I’m also afraid of paying and then having my nerves get the better of me).
I feel like I’m stuck in a pretty exhausting vicious cycle.
Has anyone gone through something similar or have any recommendations?