Not me unintentionally running a submissive orientation seminar-this was supposed to be a date, why does it feel like onboarding?
Has anyone else noticed an uptick in submissive SDs?
I’m a switch that leans subby and any kink discussion includes that information, but recently the number of submissive men who want to be bossed around has outnumbered both vanilla and dominant men combined.
I’m admittedly an older sugar baby (40) who has often been called intimidating professionally and personally (I am extremely confident and my career requires a level of no nonsense). On Saturday I was described as “intense” during a m&g and told I made him “nervous. And I don’t get nervous… it’s hot as fuck.” Which, ok, I’m not bothered by this, maybe the combination of my age, demeanor, and communication style simply attracts the submissive types. Or maybe I’m triggering it in some way.
A few have suggested switching between roles… only for them to only ever want to submit. Maybe the suggestion was an attempt to “save face.” And more than one initially claimed to be a dominant or alpha, but end up completely deferring.
Most immediately ask for a second date, so maybe I’m just discovering a niche market or running a conversion camp of some sort.
(Repost after trigging the auto moderator with the phrase “Yes, *juvenile term for a female parent*.)