u/Soft_Childhood5565

Me: 22 M bottom

I recently made a post about my best friend constantly tries to isolate me, he obviously doesn t say it directly but he clearly puts an effort in doing so.

But why do i kinda like being treated this way?

you know, being manipulated, gaslighting me, tries to make me doubt about everyone around me including friends and family just for me to keep being on his side.

It makes me feel apreciated, should i worry for the day i find a bf? what if he behaves like he does? can a toxic relationship be healthy?

Does anyone else likes toxic behaviour?

(there is more context in my other post)

from emotional manipulation like guilt tripping, gaslighting or psychological manipulation like isolation, checking on your phone without permission or just being jealous?

I don t think i should even enter physical abuse because i don t know if that is considered a kink anymore.

This post kinda correlates to another one i made about me and my best friend: https://www.reddit.com/r/TopsAndBottoms/comments/1sq44ea/is_my_best_friend_being_posessive_and_jealous_do/

I wonder if we are secretely enjoying this, idk but sometimes im flattered someone cares enough for me that tries to isolate me, i may have the theory my friend wants or at least wanted to try a move with me a some point because of all that behaviour plus he has my nudes, when i asked him why he still has them (we were both in a XXX chat at some point) he just said "everyone has them".

i will add unnecesary detail because maybe some of you are into this stuff:

Me: 22 M bottom 171 cm

Him: 23 M vers-top 190 cm

I have a friend who's always trying to stand out from the rest of my friends.

Whenever he sees me taking photos with friends who aren't him, he insults them and calls them idiots.

If they're guys, he tells me they probably want to get with me and that he's the only real one because he's not into me.

Sometimes he's actually right about warning me about some jerk, but most of the time he's just annoying.

For example, I have a friend with benefits. This friend once told me that he doesn't usually like guys like me (kinda short and geeky vibes), that he's usually more into tall, super masc guys like him, but that I was the exception.

Today he reminded me of what he said (because I told him at the time), and in his words he said: "I'm not like that friend of yours who said you're an anomaly and 'your type.' He's got that disguised racist prejudice going on and you let that macho guy walk all over you."

So two options, he really doesn t remember my words or he just trying to change how i see things....

In case anyone think anything, no, as far as I know he isn t attracted to me or the other way around, we had a big problem back in 2022 because i had a crush on him when we almost stopped being friends.

Last year we were talking about going on one of those saunas together and that was it, we never did.

I just feel he is being clingy or he has this self given protector role.

But any opinions on you guys having similar friends would help.

Context: We have agreed in a new way to live and it's that the womens would live in the east side of earth and male on the west, they only would get together to path reproduction as a way to keep human race existing.

Because everyone all of the sudden lost all interest in straight sexual necessities.

Being that said, the male part of the world is being ruled by gay mens, but considering how we humans are and how many mens treat sex as a part of establishing dominance, they have decided for bottoms to be silently oppressed, just like old times.

How would these laws affect us bottoms? To make tops feel more in power?

Fun fact: being versa/inter would be an act of rebellion and could be considered a crime.