What to look for in a potential Dom/me?
Hiiiii so I'm relatively new to kink, really just entered the community back in January. I've been exploring with a dom at a dungeon, with basically zero expectations of a dynamic. But now things have developed into a situation where it's becoming harder and harder for me to not ask him to collar me. I've talked with him and he's interested in taking me on as his sub and will leave open a spot for me, but he's left the final decision totally up to me and is encouraging me to wait longer and interact with the kink community more before I ask for a collar.
I really recognize my vulnerability in this situation, I'm new to kink, I'm just getting out of a bad relationship, my home life is stressful AF due to said bad relationship (i live with my shitty ex). I really want to feel secure in my decision to enter into a dynamic with all the implications and commitments that comes with. I don't want this to be an emotional decision I make that ends up not being sustainable and hurts both of us.
So I guess I just wanted to ask what everybody here looks for when vetting a potential Dom? How do you know when you've found the right one? How long should I realistically wait before asking for a collar?
And as a side note, are there any lesbians/sapphics here with male doms that can tell me how their dynamic works? Cause that might be me in a bit here 😅