Wife is interested
So basically me (27), and my wife (29) have been having this ongoing fantasy of involving another woman.
We’ve gone through steps of talking through it, and what our boundaries would be, fantasizing during sex, etc. But then the next day, or a week later, she changes her mind or says it’s a bad idea.
Here’s the thing, despite the obvious caution I have, I’m pretty down , I love my wife with all my heart and want to make sure everything goes in a positive way with as limited risk to our relationship. THAT being said, I’m down to just drop it completely, but she is the one that will drop it, then bring it up completely on her own.
My thought is she wants it bad, but is scared? I’m not really sure how to make her feel less nervous/take it to the next step. She’s gone as far as making a tinder for me (yes, we were going to be upfront about our situation), but then she went back a day or two later and said maybe it’s a bad idea etc etc. I said well I guess we should delete the tinder then, so she did. Cut to two weeks later she’s talking about having a threesome again. Lots of instances exactly like this. Almost always her killing the idea, and almost always her reintroducing it
Anyone have any experience with this?