u/Competitive-Term-759

I am a 47 year old man in SF looking for something consistent, fun, and real—good conversation, genuine chemistry, and someone I look forward to seeing.

If you like a man who plans things, follows through, and naturally takes the lead, you’ll probably feel a good fit here.

**About me:**

I’m successful, take care of myself, and have a full life I enjoy. Fit, active, and told I look younger than I am.

Grounded, easygoing, and fun to be around. I like live music, Warriors games, Formula 1, working out, dive bars, and long walks around the city with my dog.

Calm, confident, and intentional. I tend to take the lead in a way that just feels easy.

**What I’m looking for:**

Someone feminine, playful, and easy to talk to. You take care of yourself, enjoy good chemistry, and appreciate a man who leads without overcomplicating things.

Local to SF preferred, but open minded if the connection is there

I’m looking for something consistent and enjoyable with someone I genuinely like spending time with—not just physical, but good conversation and energy too.

Not looking to rush into anthing serious, but open if it naturally builds.

If this sounds like your kind of dynamic, send a message with a bit about you (age, location, physical description, vibe).

I genuinely love the simple pleasure of going down on a woman and making her feel amazing. I enjoy the taste, the texture, the sounds of a woman moaning, the building tension as she gets closer and closer to orgasm. If you enjoy a man who takes his time and pays attention, we’ll get along well.

I am Caucasian with brown eyes and short brown hair with some salt and pepper. Conventionally handsome face with a few days of stubble. I workout regularly and keep myself in pretty good shape. Outside the bedroom, I am grounded, intelligent, laid back, and easy to talk to. I enjoy live music, basketball, Formula 1, good dive bars, and long walks around the city with my dog.

In the bedroom I typically have a dominant, rough, and primal energy, but for this my focus will be on taking my time and making you feel amazing.

I’m seeking women with a slim to average figure and have a preference for shaved, or neatly trimmed.

Safety and consent are very important to me. We will talk about boundaries and comfort levels beforehand and they will always be respected. STD-free (Tested 2/26/2026)

I live alone in SF (aside from a very friendly and cute dog) and can host in a clean, comfortable space where we can relax and take our time. Happy to grab a quick drink first to make sure the vibe is right.

If this sounds appealing, send a chat with your age, location, and a physical description. Include the code word “scuba” so I know you read the whole post.

I may be a bit different from most men posting here, and perhaps not what you'd expect from someone seeking a traditional dynamic.

In most areas of my life I am far from conservative. I’m agnostic, politically left leaning, live in San Francisco, and love city life. Building a homestead in the countryside and having a bunch of kids isn’t really my vision.

But when it comes to relationships, I’ve realized that I’m drawn to polarity and defined gender roles. I like the idea of being the steady masculine presence in a relationship, leading, providing stability, and creating a foundation where my partner can relax into her feminine energy.

About me:

I am college educated and have spent the last 22 years building a successful career in tech. Outside of work, I have a pretty full life where I enjoy live music, Warriors games, Formula 1, working out, a good dive bar, and long walks around the city with my dog. I am grounded, calm, funny, and easy to talk to.

Physically, I’m Caucasian with brown eyes, short brown hair with some salt and pepper, and a face sporting a few days of stubble that I’ve been told is easy on the eyes. I live a healthy lifestyle, stay in good shape, and am often told I look a bit younger than my age.

My leadership style in a relationship isn’t loud or domineering. I’m naturally calm and steady. Taking the lead is less about control and more about being a dependable anchor and creating security so my partner can flourish. I’m also someone who notices effort. When a woman takes pride in caring for her partner and building a warm home life together, I’m very generous with affection, attention, and praise. I believe appreciation and leadership should go hand in hand.

About you:

My ideal partner is feminine, warm, affectionate, and naturally drawn to a relationship with traditional gender roles. You like the idea of building a home life with a strong and steady partner. You enjoy being cared for and protected, and you take pride in creating a warm, inviting home environment.

I’m drawn to women who live healthy lifestyles and take care of themselves physically. Women who practice something like yoga, pilates, dance, or another physical discipline often resonate with me because that mind-body awareness reflects the kind of intentionality I value.

I’m generally most compatible with women a bit younger than me, roughly late-20s to mid-30s, though I’m not rigid about this.

What I’m Looking For:

I value being a provider because I enjoy the responsibility of building our foundation, allowing us to focus our shared energy on our home and our life together. If you have a career you truly love, I would not ask you to give that up. What matters to me is having a partner who values home, relationship, and connection at least as much as career ambition.

The kind of relationship I imagine looks something like this:

I come home from work and you greet me with a hug and a kiss at the door. Maybe you mix my favorite cocktail for me to enjoy while you finish making a healthy dinner for us. After dinner we take a walk around the city with our dogs, then head back home to relax together with plenty of physical affection and playful tension between us.

I am child-free and have had a vasectomy, so if having children is important to you we wouldn’t be a good match. However, I’m a huge dog lover and would absolutely love to have a couple of fur-babies together!

I won’t make this post all about sex, but honesty matters. I am a highly sexual man with a very high drive, with some experience in kink and D/s dynamics. Sexual chemistry and openness to exploration would be important for long-term compatibility, but that’s something we can discuss naturally as we get to know each other.

If this post resonated with you, send me a chat with your age, location, a physical description, and what you find appealing about a relationship with polarity and traditional gender roles.