Live and learn...failed
I set up an encounter, hoping that it would play out as I imagined.
Took her to another town, shopping, dinner, motel. Had arranged a massage, with the understanding that if she wasn't responsive, he would just give the massage and go. It sounded good in my brain.
Wasn't totally blind as she knew that something was up due to timelines, like we need to be back by a certain time. I teased her, leading up to the weekend of the proposed massage and possible outcomes afterward. That said, she never saw photos or had any conversation with potential guy.
Guy shows up late, not a big deal. Wasn't really prepared again wasn't a huge deal but hard to sell as a masseuse.
She came out and was like NOPE.
I asked him to leave and apologized for having invited him just to have him leave. He was understanding and left. (This is not a bash on the guy as im the one that failed to set things up correctly)
At this point, I figure im in the dog house at best.
She says it felt like an ambush, and she wasn't comfortable with the whole situation. (Looking back, i see that now, but honestly, my dumb ass didn't see it before)
We ended up still having amazing sex and enjoyed the night.
I definitely learned a few things, and our discussions were honest and deep. All in all, I failed, but there were some positive aspects, too.
Thanks for reading, and feel free to offer advice if you like.
Appreciated