u/Character-Act5453

BDSM Party exploration

Hey guys, I am a new dom, and I am still exploring what i like and what I don’t.

I spent a night with a sub last week and it was really good, i had so much fun, and he invited me to this bdsm party so i can meet people and explore more.

The problem is unfortunately i didn’t get to talk a lot with others since i don’t speak the local language well.

However I have a clearer idea of what I am into but I still have some unanswered questions so i would like if any of you can please give me some advice.

I didn’t like the fact that many of these man were so submissive without a fight or a push and pull.

It turned me off so much when someone comes to ask to lick my boots, but it turns me on when i flirt a little with a guy and then make him lick my boots.

I am trying to think of it the sale way when someone in a usual flirting situation comes randomly and ask for a kiss which of course is a turn off, and when i am into the person and i want them to kiss me, is this comparison logical?

And from you perspectives do u think i will find these kind of dynamics in these kind of parties or should i look elsewhere for my kind of subs.

To make it clearer i like it when the sub looks extremely masculine and wouldn’t cross no one’s mind that he is into this. i like to think he is only submissive for me and not others and there is some resistance and fun not just completely obedient from the first eye contact.

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u/Character-Act5453 — 13 hours ago