r/thehappywife

After we identified her postpartum depression, she began taking antidepressants, which significantly reduced her libido. Sex, which had previously been spontaneous, started to require more effort on my part, and she also stopped reaching orgasm. We tried several approaches (medications, herbal remedies, and others) until I decided to introduce toys. I bought a Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3, and that resolved the orgasm issue: she began climaxing consistently. However, her desire remained low. From there, we started exploring new possibilities, which also brought out a more “kinky” side of me. I had always liked certain elements, such as lingerie like garter belts, something she wasn’t particularly into. Since the vibrator worked well, she became more open, and we started experimenting with larger prosthetics and sleeves. At first, everything went well. I noticed that she experienced a different kind of pleasure with larger accessories (given that I’m of average size). However, despite clearly enjoying it in the moment, she later began to deny it, saying she didn’t like it, that she preferred me as I am, that my size was sufficient, or that she didn’t like the texture of the sleeves and prosthetics. I stopped insisting, although I would occasionally bring it up, often met with reluctance. Over time, she began to view my interest as somewhat unusual. I then made an effort to explain that this preference was exclusively about our relationship, with no connection to cuckold fantasies or anything of that nature, and that my focus was on enhancing her pleasure. I also acknowledged that while I sometimes think about having a larger size, what truly matters to me is what we experience together. Gradually, over the course of about two to three years from the first purchase, she became more understanding and open. At some point, we developed a dynamic: when I give her a luxury gift, she leans into this more playful side and becomes more willing to explore these preferences with me. That shift proved to be a turning point and she gets mad for these type of presents. Since then, she has become much more receptive. This past weekend, after receiving an expensive handbag, she used a butt plug and a sleeve that significantly increases size, bringing it to over 20 cm.