r/NorthshoreLGBTmeetup

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​I’m a 39-year-old FTM trans man (5’8”, average build) looking for consistent, intentional connections. I’m happily married, but we practice strict parallel poly—we date separately and do not do threesomes.

​Who I’m Into:

​Men (25–49): Rugged country vibe (flannels, tattoos, caps). Short, trimmed beards or goatees (no grey, please). Average to athletic builds.

​Women (25–37): Stem or fem energy. Long hair or expressive style. Average to athletic builds.

​The Vibe: I need daily consistent communication and digital banter. I want someone who puts effort into planning dates and spending quality time together.

​About Me & My Transition:

I’m 100% upfront: I was born female and have transitioned. I’m on weekly T-shots and had top surgery. I still have the pussy I was born with and I’m keeping it. You must be totally cool with this. Note: I don’t drive, so that’s something to know upfront for planning.

​Home Life & Boundaries:

I live with my wife, our homeschooling teenage daughter, and our pets.

​Life Balance: No one is moving in, getting married to me, or doing sleepovers.

​Privacy: My wife and I don’t flaunt our outside relationships in front of each other. We have a hard boundary about not seeing or hearing each other being intimate with our partners.

​Respect: I expect mutual respect for everyone’s time, space, and existing relationships.

​The Essentials:

​Demisexual: I need a real bond first. Sex only happens once we are officially dating. No FWBs or hookups.

​Autonomy: I date multiple people, and you’re free to date or hook up with others—just keep the communication open.

​Interests: Horror movies (favorite!), WWE, music for every mood, and at-home fitness.

​Next Steps:

If we vibe, I’ll eventually ask for a non-nude selfie and the basics (age, location, job, hobbies). I just want to ensure we’re both here for the right reasons.

​I’m chill, a little sarcastic, and loyal once we bond. If you’re a rugged guy or a stem/fem woman who shows up, let's chat. Tell me about yourself and why you're reaching out.

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Hey! I’m a 39yo trans guy (5’8”, average build) looking for open polyamorous connections with multiple bisexual men (ages 25–49). I’m happily married, but we date separately. I’m looking for a few great guys to build individual, long-term connections with.

The Golden Rule: My wife only dates women; I only date men. Do not ask for nudes of my wife and do not ask about threesomes. I am strictly here for my own 1-on-1 dating!

What I’m Looking For:

The "Bad Boy" Aesthetic: I’m looking for that rugged, masculine "Country Boy" look. I love tattoos, athletic builds, or athletic dad bods I am not into heavyset men. I prefer men 5’9”+ with that tough Southern exterior.

Grooming: Short trimmed beards or trimmed goatees are a must. No grey facial hair and no long beards, please!

The "Gentleman" Heart: Even if you look tough, I need a sweet, kind-hearted, and attentive "nice guy" on the inside. I value old-fashioned morals and a man who can keep me laughing.

The Connection: I’m demisexual. I need a "best friend" foundation no sex talk or nudes. Once we are officially dating, I’m definitely attracted to a man with BDE (Big Dick Energy that quiet, masculine confidence).

The Essentials: Must be kid/pet friendly (Teen daughter, 2 dogs, 2 cats). No "DL" or cheaters; your partner(s) must know and approve.

About Me & My Life:

Physical: Top surgery (surgical pecs) and on T. I have my original tight fat pussy with a huge clit, and I'm keeping it. I enjoy at-home fitness and goofy banter.

Vibe: I thrive on daily consistent communication. I love horror movies, 90s country, and I’m a huge WWE fan.

Home Life: Sober household (vapes only). I don’t drive for health reasons, so I appreciate a guy who likes taking the lead on planning dates.

Poly Style: Parallel Poly (partners stay separate). No moving in, marriage, or sleepovers. All holiday/birthday dates are scheduled in advance.

To Connect:

Please send a message with your name, age, location, and hobbies. I’ll ask for a face and body selfie (no nudes) for safety once we start chatting. Let’s share a few laughs and see if we click!