r/MarriedAndBi

I’m 40, my wife is 42, and we’ve been together a long time. She’s pretty vanilla when it comes to sex, but she’s been open to letting me indulge in some of my submissive kinks. One of the things I really enjoy is cleaning her up afterwards (just from myself). She goes along with it and basically sees it as one of my quirky/strange kinks, but for me it feels a lot more significant than that. It taps into a deeper submissive (and possibly bi) headspace that I can’t really explain.I’ve also sucked cock a few times in the past and enjoyed it.

Has anyone else (especially married submissive or bi-curious men with more vanilla partners) experienced this? Did your partner initially brush it off as “just a kink”? How did you talk more openly about it with them? Did it change things in your relationship (positively or negatively)?

I’d really value any honest stories or advice — keen to hear from both the guys going through this and from their partners too. Thanks in advance.

23 F with a 25 M hubby. Ive never dome anything with another woman but ive been having intense thoughts lately when i see other beautiful women.. Im not sure what to do...

I've been wanting more and been having fantasies about mmf or just bi. How do I start?

OK me and my wife has been together around 10 years. She knew I was bi when we started talking, before we got married we talked about me wanting to be with a guy and she told me it was a turn off and she didn't want to know anything about it and didn't want to come home and catch me with another guy, I haven't been with anyone since we met, my wife has pegged me off and on, my wife's going through menopause and we haven't had sex much lately and it'd been a while since she's pegged me, I've been wanting to be with another guy a lot lately but I feel stuck my wife gets upset if she finds out if I've been watching porn, I feel like no matter what I'm in the wrong. I guess I'm just venting and don't know what to do, I really love my wife and don't want to screw things up with her.

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Never been with a guy in any way. I am 50ish. Mediterranean. Athletic a d in good shape. I having thinking about other men. I would love to exchange touches. Maybe more. Plus if it's a guy it's a friend. So I guess my questions do others guys look for friends with benefits? If so how do you do it? I am nervous but went to island house key west once for a drink. Going to go again. One day try a day past. Not sure how to engage. I live here in key west. Thanks

Wife and I just got back from a beach vacation and she pretty much wore a slutty little bikini the whole time and I loved how I saw so many guys just staring at her. The best part though was when she was joined in the hot tub by a very attractive guy, I watched from a far as they laughed and smiled at each other, then I went over to join them and immediately noticed his massive bulge threw those wet swim trunks. My wife and I didn’t say anything to each other about it but immediately fucked when we got back to our room and she was so wet. That was a fun vacation!