u/ottawasexytimes1

Looking for a guy 18–50 who’s curious about giving up control and letting himself get completely lost in the moment. If you are into being edging and milked into oblivion, with plenty of teasing and anticipation along the way shoot me a message.

I enjoy using restraints and toys if that’s something you’re into as well. Not really looking to fuck — more into the slow build-up, control, and the experience.

if you have limited experience is totally fine, but I do need you to be able to articulate at least a little about what you’re looking for and what interests you.

Hit me up if you’re interested, and tell me what colour underpants you’re wearing so I know you actually read this.

I’m an experienced, calm, controlled soft dom looking for a submissive guy who’s curious about restraint, edging, and prostate-focused play in a structured, psychologically intense setting.

What I enjoy most isn’t chaos or theatrics — it’s control, pacing, and watching someone slowly unravel under deliberate stimulation.

Here’s the kind of experience I’d offer:

You’d arrive knowing this isn’t rushed. The room would be prepared. Restraints already attached to the bed frame — padded, secure, deliberate. No dramatic buildup. Just intention.

You’d be guided onto the bed and secured spread-eagle — wrists above your head, ankles drawn apart. Not extreme. Just open. Exposed. Held.

From there, it’s slow burn.

No frantic energy. No pounding. Just controlled, methodical stimulation. Teasing along your body first — building awareness before anything more focused begins. You’d feel the contrast between being fully restrained and being touched with patience.

The prostate play would start gradually. Measured. Adjusting to your body’s responses. The goal isn’t overwhelm — it’s escalation. Watching your breathing change. Feeling your hips react despite the restraints. Holding you in place when instinct makes you try to move.

Edging would be part of it. Bringing you close. Slowing. Stretching that edge. Building sensitivity until your whole body is keyed up and dependent on the rhythm I set.

When release finally comes, it would be earned — the result of control, pacing, and denial — not chaos.

Aftercare is provided, but intimacy levels are vibe-dependent. I’m not theatrical. I’m not into humiliation. I prefer calm authority and deliberate structure.

Preferences:

Male or male identifying

18 to 45

Clean, freshly showered, No heavy musk (I’m scent-sensitive)

Comfortable with restraints and prostate play (experience is a plus but not required)

I’m open to meeting first or exchanging face pics beforehand. Schedule varies — evenings and weekends work best.

If you’re looking for something controlled, psychologically intense, and focused on restraint and prostate-driven climax rather than loud theatrics, tell me what draws you to that dynamic. (This will also be a little test to see if you're willing to put any effort in).

Let’s see if the chemistry is there.

Me

41, Caucasian cis male, blond, brown eyes, reddish beard, 5'11, 220lbs.