u/lurkfivios

30, F, originally from Pennsyltucky, spent time in VA, TX, the great country of Germany, and am now back in the Commonwealth where it all began. Software engineer (aka glorified project manager) by trade, philosophy and history major by diploma, Calvinist by conviction (and in the OKC tradition..."it's important"), Kantian by sentence length and structure, and sexual deviant by inclination.

Non sexual interests: Linux, reading, nature, philosophy, politics (US, European...do ask me about current events, maybe get a snarky response).

I'm fairly sarcastic and non-bullshit but apparently also kinda sweet? Idk, reviews currently oscillate between extremes here.

As for the stuff you're actually here for: BDSM (not so sure anymore), rough sex, body writing, humiliation, female feet, elaborate roleplaying scenes, teasing.

Basically I recently feel a bit....weird about virtually all of my kinks and I'm taking to this place to test how much of the stuff I used to like I still do.

Just don't be boring or low effort and we'll get along just fine; be actually interesting and we're still talking three weeks from now.

30, F, originally from Pennsyltucky, spent time in VA, TX, the great country of Germany, and am now back in the Commonwealth where it all began. Software engineer (aka glorified project manager) by trade, philosophy and history major by diploma, Calvinist by conviction (and in the OKC tradition..."it's important"), Kantian by sentence length and structure, and sexual deviant by inclination.

Non sexual interests: Linux, reading, nature, philosophy, politics (US, European...do ask me about current events, maybe get a snarky response).

Also Dutch, German, Scottish in terms of ancestry.

I'm fairly sarcastic and non-bullshit but apparently also kinda sweet? Idk, reviews currently oscillate between extremes here.

As for the stuff you're actually here for: BDSM, rough sex, body writing, humiliation, female feet, elaborate roleplaying scenes, teasing.

Just don't be boring or low effort and we'll get along just fine; be actually interesting and we're still talking three weeks from now.

30, F, originally from Pennsyltucky, spent time in VA, TX, the great country of Germany, and am now back in the Commonwealth where it all began. Software engineer (aka glorified project manager) by trade, philosophy and history major by diploma, Calvinist by conviction (and in the OKC tradition..."it's important"), Kantian by sentence length and structure, and sexual deviant by inclination.

Non sexual interests: Linux, reading, nature, philosophy, politics (US, European...do ask me about current events, maybe get a snarky response).

I'm fairly sarcastic and non-bullshit but apparently also kinda sweet? Idk, reviews currently oscillate between extremes here.

As for the stuff you're actually here for: BDSM, rough sex, body writing, humiliation, female feet, elaborate roleplaying scenes, teasing.

Just don't be boring or low effort and we'll get along just fine; be actually interesting and we're still talking three weeks from now.

Some people are addicted to getting kissed or told they’re a good girl. I am addicted to arguing. Yeah I know it’s toxic. I know it’s not sexy to be a bespectacled know-it-all who won’t even let you hit it and quit it. Or something like that.

I get all that.

But damn, I am addicted to a good argument and the rush it brings. This is Reddit so I’m sure plenty of you feel the same way. At least those that joined this place when it was still the last bastion of the old internet before Gen Z friendly brainrotten social media took over.

Anyway, here’s what I want to do today. I will provide a couple of facts about me below. Some of them are mundane, some of them are very hard hitting. I am not putting on a persona or think of this as a role play setup. Below is me.

**Most importantly: there’s a safeword. If shit gets out of hand, “M.E.T.A.” as an instant stop to the convo to examine the meta level. Respect it. I will do the same.**

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About me:

- Politically moderate. Registered Democrat, I like Bernie, I voted Biden, I’d prefer Beshear. Somewhere between New Deal Democrat and Blue Dog Democrat.

- Christian. Reformed. PCA. Don’t bother me with Dawkins-style arguments against the faith, so something more substantial.

- Military brat. Traveled around a lot. Dad served in Iraq and it tore our family apart. Either that or the bitch-ass daughter they had to deal with. Could be an avenue for a truly hardcore meltdown, could also be a minefield.

- Conflict in the Middle East. I’m always up for a debate on this. And I know they’re explosive.

- In general, “R, A, P, E” is all up for discussion tonight.

- vim vs. emacs.

Oh, and I'm a brat. A little bit of a bitch. I can be sweet and all that but I will come at you with (mentally) sharp objects.

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As I said, I like arguing. The goal is to have a sexual conversation about our kinks and interests, loaded and charged by the spirited debate we had earlier. As I said, argue me into submission. It’s the only way I’ll ever kneel.

I consider myself an open book and a "mental exhibitionist". So first off, I want someone to ask me questions, sexual or non-sexual, about anything at all you want.

I will start out answering your questions intelligently, but as we go you will give me “rules” that I must follow to slowly dumb me down. The rules could be things like “no complete sentences” or “no using me, or I. Instead call yourself only pig” or even something like “say ‘I am a stupid slut’ out loud before sending each reply”.

Again, this could be completely sexual in nature, where you are asking me sexual questions from the start. Or it could be non sexual, where you are simply having fun dumbing down an otherwise intelligent woman who is asking you to make her your dumb little toy. What you do with your dumb toy, well that’s up to you.

Anyway, I would love to play with someone who has done something like this before and maybe has some more far reaching ideas than what I offered above. I'm a cerebral person irl and I'm really into having this taken away from me during "play time". I suppose it's analogous to how powerful people enjoy having that power stripped away in the dungeon.

Also slightly drunk, so slightly dumb, so slightly more fun. Also also an argumentative bitch sometimes.

About me:

30, F, German-American Christian (ask about it...), born in the US, moved to Germany when I was nine, moved to Texas in 2025. Huge brat. Also a huge nerd. Background in philosophy and history, ended up as a SW engineer because I like money turning a childhood hobby into a career seemed fun.

Random sexual/non-sexual things I like: BDSM, humiliation, nudity, TPE, post-punk, alternative rock, post-hardcore, Sonic Youth, Fugazi, philosophy, metaphysics, politics (US, European; I'm a boring centrist by most measures), epistemology, Lorde, chess, nature, walking barefoot, reading, swimming. Actually I guess musically I'm somewhere between enjoying Lorde's and The Cure's love songs and just wanting to listen to almost amelodic screaming like Dillinger Escape Plan or some Architects songs. Actually, recent obsessions are Melvins and Treaty Oak Revival.

About me: 30, F, German-American (as in: dual citizenship), born in the US, have been living in Germany for all of my adult life. Dad's job with the army and the unfortunate fact that 9 y/o can't sign leases on either side of the Atlantic are the reason I went there -- not that I'm complaining; I love Germany. Pennsyltucky native btw. (So totally a hick; please make fun of that and humiliate me.)

now, the meat of the post: I’m looking for naughty, kinky, or maybe just casual conversations. I have a range of interests, not all are sexual but I think there’s a bit of overlap between the two:

Random sexual/non-sexual things I like: BDSM, humiliation, nudity, TPE, more recently specifically bondage, stress positions, having to go on "timeout" naked in a corner, post-punk, alternative rock, post-hardcore, Sonic Youth, Fugazi, philosophy, metaphysics, epistemology, Lorde, chess, nature, walking barefoot, reading, swimming, politics (US, European).

Tech-wise, I've been a Linux gal since forever. Guess my distro and we talk. Guess my full set up, we go dirty talk immediately ;)

Actually I guess musically I'm somewhere between enjoying Lorde's and The Cure's love songs and just wanting to listen to almost amelodic screaming like Dillinger Escape Plan or some Architects songs....and a lot of Melvins and Treaty Oak Revival recently.

Edit: I expect you to actually argue, not just make dumb statements.

Edit 2: I might ask you to stop. Respect it. I'm done negotiating safewords and I expect your mothers to have done an at least OK job in raising you.

EDIT 3: SERIOUSLY. IF I TELL YOU "LET'S STOP AND HAVE A META CONVO", FUCKING LISTEN. THIS IS A GAME AFTER ALL.

No, it won’t be a healthy and productive discussion. That’s not what I’m after. I want to argue with you and be frustrated. The type of argument that gets me heated up, furious and then has me realizing that I’ve just wasted all this time on essentially talking to a wall. Time I could spend in so many better ways.

Such as wrapping my lipstick-covered lips and sucking you off while you insult me.

Now what would we fight over? So many topics we could cover. It can be something serious, such as religion, race, politics or something less so, such as why a certain game is good or bad. Really, being creative here with the topic can be so much fun. As long as our views are clashing, of course.

For our argument, I want to hate every second of it and you especially. Be obnoxious, use cheap tactics, point out any mistakes I do. Be relentless and infuriating to talk to. The worse you are, the more excited I will be. Where that gets us we will see, haven’t tried something like this before, so not quite sure what to expect!

For potential ammunition:

Christianity (Reformed), (Perhaps you think other religion is better? Or lack of it entirely?) PCA for what it's worth (it's important!).

White skin (Could be yours is a different color)

Political views (Basically New Deal Democrat, Blue Dog Democrat.)

Parents divorced (If you say I caused it, or deserved it, you will anger me)

Authority figures (They annoy me, what can I say)

Current conflict in Europe/Middle East.

And many, many others. These are just for inspiration. I appreciate creativity plenty.

Full transparency, this is heavily inspired by a post by someone else on this subreddit. The idea was fun, and I'd credit the person - but they deleted their account!

No, it won’t be a healthy and productive discussion. That’s not what I’m after. I want to argue with you and be frustrated. The type of argument that gets me heated up, furious and then has me realizing that I’ve just wasted all this time on essentially talking to a wall. Time I could spend in so many better ways.

Such as wrapping my lipstick-covered lips and sucking you off while you insult me.

Now what would we fight over? So many topics we could cover. It can be something serious, such as religion, race, politics or something less so, such as why a certain game is good or bad. Really, being creative here with the topic can be so much fun. As long as our views are clashing, of course.

For our argument, I want to hate every second of it and you especially. Be obnoxious, use cheap tactics, point out any mistakes I do. Be relentless and infuriating to talk to. The worse you are, the more excited I will be. Where that gets us we will see, haven’t tried something like this before, so not quite sure what to expect!

For potential ammunition:

Christianity (Reformed), (Perhaps you think other religion is better? Or lack of it entirely?) PCA for what it's worth (it's important!).

White skin (Could be yours is a different color)

Political views (Basically New Deal Democrat, Blue Dog Democrat.)

Parents divorced (If you say I caused it, or deserved it, you will anger me)

Authority figures (They annoy me, what can I say)

Current conflict in Europe/Middle East.

And many, many others. These are just for inspiration. I appreciate creativity plenty.

Full transparency, this is heavily inspired by a post by someone else on this subreddit. The idea was fun, and I'd credit the person - but they deleted their account!

About me: 30, F, German-American (as in: dual citizenship), born in the US, some time in Germany, some time in the states, Pennsyltucky native btw.

now, the meat of the post: I’m looking for naughty, kinky, or maybe just casual conversations. I have a range of interests, not all are sexual but I think there’s a bit of overlap between the two:

Random sexual/non-sexual things I like: BDSM, humiliation, nudity, TPE, more recently specifically bondage, stress positions, having to go on "timeout" naked in a corner, post-punk, alternative rock, post-hardcore, Sonic Youth, Fugazi, philosophy, metaphysics, epistemology, Lorde, chess, nature, walking barefoot, reading, swimming.

Tech-wise, I've been a Linux gal since forever. Guess my distro and we talk. Guess my full set up, we go dirty talk immediately ;)

And I'm serious here. At a pivotal moment in my life I guess. KDE vs. GNOME (i3 will always be in my heart), vim vs. emacs. Convince me of the other choice and we might go somewhere.

Actually I guess musically I'm somewhere between enjoying Lorde's and The Cure's love songs and just wanting to listen to almost amelodic screaming like Dillinger Escape Plan or some Architects songs. Well, latest obsessions have been the Melvins and Treaty Oak Revival.

Oh. And fluent in Spanish, German, and Greek.