u/jdoeinboston

Who I am: I'm an elder millennial empty nester; nerdy and neurodivergent (ADHD), I'll talk your ear off about my latest hyperfixation if you'll let me. Current hyperfixations include, but are not limited to: DIY home reno (There may be a few in progress zones in my home), the new Pokemon cozy game, Brandon Sanderson's Cosmere books, messing with electronics, and writing my entirely too in-depth thoughts on random crap.

I'm ENM and have one current partner (not cohabitating). I'm a homeowner (hence the projects) and my roommates are a senior cat and a young dog (photos furnished eagerly upon request). I'm politically liberal and not particularly shy about it. Hobby-wise, I like video games, camping, hiking, and wandering around the city. I'm working on expanding my hobbies, so open to plenty more.

What I'm looking for: Something in the realm of a FWB with potential for more. I'm relatively recently divorced (2024) and not aiming for anything remarkably serious currently. I'd love someone I can maybe get high (420) with and go for a walk/play video games/watch TV or movies with. I'd love someone nerdy, but I'd *really* like someone neurodivergent.

I don't have a specific physical type, but I'm absolutely particular on the personality side of things. Liberal is a must; you don't need to be out there constantly engaged in activism, but even for a FWB I want someone with similar ideals. Nerdy is a plus, of course. My "type" usually winds up being former theater kids.

Ideally, I'd like someone who can hang out a couple of times a month, weekly if we really vibe. I'm a 9 to 5er and tend to have most weeknight evenings free, but can usually do weekends too. I live north of the city (T accessible); I can and prefer to host but I'm fine coming to you. I'd want to do a public meetup before anything else. I'm clean and tested, but consider condoms a must either way. Dealbreakers are MAGA, antivax/antimask, and cigarette smokers.

The NSFW stuff: I'm a soft/pleasure dom with a huge thing for women with praise kinks. Big on consent, I like to check in during and a discussion on limits prior to anything sexual is a must (Could be over chat while figuring out if we want to meet or could be over drinks/coffee). The pleasure dom thing manifests in a love of responsiveness. I like my partner to feel good and I like to be able to tell: moans, happy sighs, body language, and a woman who's not afraid to tell me if something isn't working (So I can move on to something that will). I'm similarly responsive and it's not hard to tell when I'm enjoying myself (I moan and love giving positive feedback, hence the praise kink affection).

That's probably enough for now, so if you're interested please do slide into my DMs.

I'm a 42 year old nerdy guy looking for an occasional benefriend to hang out with, get high (420) with, and well, you know. Someone I can share a joint with out back (or gummies etc) then go back inside for some Mario Kart or a movie and see where things go. I'm not opposed to hookups or short-term, but friends would be nice.

I'm relatively recently divorced (2024), presently living alone and can host (I have a dog, so hopefully you're not spooked by dogs), but I'm willing to come to you. I live near the T and just north of the city. I'm finally working days after being on second shift for close to a year, so evenings tend to be my best time for availability.

I'm ENM and have a girlfriend, so someone who's also ENM or is open to someone who is is a must. I've got ADHD and would prefer someone who also deals with that, or is at least familiar enough with it to tolerate me getting overly excited talking about whatever niche interest I'm on any given week.

I would love someone to be friends with in addition to the other stuff. I'm recently divorced and rebuilding a social circle, so I'm always up for more friends.

Sexually I identify in the Venn diagram between Daddy/Soft/Pleasure dom. I like to be in charge, but I prefer to get that control with praise and teasing; though I'm also not opposed to a good spanking or my hand around the throat of someone I'm comfortable with. Comfort is key in general and I'll want to discuss each others' boundaries beforehand; enthusiastic consent is an expectation.

I'm clean and tested (And willing to get a fresh test done any given time). Condoms are a must for STI safety. Not into cigarettes (dealbreaker) or Republicans (I'd sooner fuck a cactus than fuck someone that votes Republican).

Vanilla wise, I'm a big fan of video games and my go to background for cleaning is the Lord of the Rings. I'm prone to Simpsons references and instinctive dad joke puns (I literally cannot help it a lot of the time). I like camping and would love to get out hiking more once the weather improves. I've got a dad bod, but I'm also a good cuddler so it balances out.

Would prefer to meet in person somewhere relaxed and quiet enough to talk and see if we vibe, something like a cafe or a brewery. I'd also prefer to keep in touch from the time we set a date to when we meet for it, I think it really helps the buildup knowing each other a bit going in to meeting. Weekday evenings are typically best for me.

That ought to cover it for the moment, so if you'd like to chat, send me a hello.

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