Did my father abusive behavior effected me into being emotionally weak, submissive?
Hey everyone 💕
I’ve been wanting to open up about something personal, especially with people who might understand this side of me.
Growing up, my dad has always been a very authoritative and aggressive person, both at home and outside. At home, he’s often abusive, doesn’t really listen to me, and is almost always in an angry or dominating mood. It’s hard to express myself around him.
But at the same time… he also protects me a lot.
Like, if someone outside treated me badly, senior, teacher, PT Master, or anyone, he would step in immediately, defend me, even make sure they got punished or warned. In those moments, I felt… safe, but also kind of small? Like I was someone who needed protection.
And I don’t know how to explain this properly, but sometimes it made me feel almost like… “his girl” instead of his son. Like the way he protected me was similar to how people protect someone they see as weak or delicate.
Over time, I’ve always felt emotionally weak, sensitive, and naturally submissive. I didn’t try to become this way, it just feels like I slowly became like this without realizing it.
now I'm really very Submissive Obedient, Emotionally weak mind, when someone talk with me in anger, i can't get anger in reverse, i got my tears out literally, make him laugh at me that im behaving like girl, and my hands n tongue started shaking
Now I keep wondering: Did this dynamic affect me mentally?
Did growing up under someone so dominant and aggressive make me more submissive and emotionally soft?
Or was I always like this, and this just pushed me deeper into it?
I’m not blaming him completely, because I know he loves me in his own way… but I can’t ignore how confusing and intense it’s been.
I’d really like to hear from others here:
Have any of you had similar experiences?
Do you think upbringing like this can shape someone into being more submissive or emotionally weak...?
Thanks for reading this 🖤