So this post will be a bit more hmm detailed than most, but I am from the BDSM community and my search is not just about pee, i just have pee play as a must have kink and hope to find here somebody that fits :)

I tend to enjoy the mix of things – chaos and structure, calm and intensity.
I can be deep, focused, and serious, but also completely unserious and playful at the same time.

Relationship mindset

• I’m looking for a best-friends type of relationship. Feelings have highs and lows – I value something that feels like a best-friends connection, so even in a low it still feels right.
• We are a team. I value open, honest communication focused on solving problems, not fighting each other.
• I want mutual interest in each other’s lives and hobbies – ideally with some overlap.
• I believe in positive assumptions – if something feels off, I prefer to talk and understand instead of assuming bad intentions from my partner.
• I dislike yelling or dragging conflicts out – take time if needed, but resolve things ASAP and move forward.
• Emotional maturity and accountability matter to me.
• Compatibility in intimacy and sex drive is important.
• I don’t just care about solving your problems – sometimes it’s about listening, understanding, and being there without needing to fix everything.
• I want a partner in crime – us against the world, not against each other. Someone who feels like family, not just a relationship.

About me

I enjoy both structure and intensity.
I like pushing myself – in the gym, through new experiences like diving or getting my motorcycle license, or exploring new interests.

I enjoy gaming, anime, pen & paper, and music – from relaxed evenings to concerts.

I’m currently getting my first of many tattoos and like expressing myself through things with meaning.

I’m looking for someone who has their own passions but is also open to sharing experiences and building something together.

I would like to have children at some point, but I feel like a relationship shouldn’t be about that. So if you want zero and we are a 100% match, I’m fine. And if you want 20 and we are a match, i am fine too

Kink / dynamic

I have a high sex drive and value physical connection – ideally multiple times a week.

I am around 90% dom, so I prefer that to be the main dynamic, but I am open to dating a switch and working something out. The relationship is my priority over kink – I just have a lot of hard limits as a sub.

I don’t have many must-have kinks – I value creativity, experimenting, and variety.

Must-haves:

• Oral (both ways)
• Orgasm control/denial
• Bondage
• some kind of Pee Play ( i would per example enjoy bladder control/ marking each other, degrading wise etc.)

Things I enjoyed but can live without:

• Free use
• 24/7 or TPE dynamics
• Owner/rigger dynamics
• Anal (both ways)
• Throating/deepthroat
• Any kind of sadistic / pain-related play
• Ownership symbols
• Sensory deprivation
• And probably more

I value clear boundaries, safe words, and trust in communication.

If I see my sub enjoys it, I can shift between roles – from a soft, caring dom to a sadistic lover who pushes limits within consent.

What matters to me is that you feel safe, seen, and understood.
I’m not only someone who wants to solve problems, but also someone who can just listen, understand, and be there when that’s what you need.

I value care and connection – before, during, and after any dynamic. Aftercare and emotional safety matter just as much.