u/Many_Estimate_3267

Yep. Not a princess trapped in a tower waiting to be saved, but a woman with weird superpowers who wants to complement my skills with another adult so we can have fun accomplishing our goals, sharing strategies, supporting/teaching each other, telling stories, and being a team to beat the inner and outer monsters (the inner ones being the sneakiest and shadiest!).

Having officially run out of excuses to put this off, here I am. This is really “outside the box” for me, since I’m a bit low-key and sensitive to rejection, so if this post isn’t your vibe, please, redditors, don’t be rude and just keep scrolling. Otherwise, I’d also be fine, and hopefully this level of exposure would be worth the trade-off *By the way, there’s a slide deck at the end because that’s me: I try to put my all into everything I commit to, and my personal life can’t be an exception : )

About me: I’m based in Glasgow, hold a master's, and work in academia/science. I enjoy writing, mash-ups, technology, photography, chocolate, painting by numbers, tennis, dancing, and music. I recharge by solo travelling and love learning new things. Physically, 5’4’’ brunette, curly-haired, dark-skinned, dark-eyed woman from Latin America. Curvy & well-proportioned. I’m loyal, kind, and have golden retriever energy. My core values are: gratitude, adaptability, empathy, resilience, spirituality, kindness, loyalty and curiosity. I'm Christian - not rigidly religious, but my faith and spirituality are important parts of who I am. I am a hopeless romantic, optimistic, creative, insightful, and deeply emotional. I’m not someone who fights or insults.

I fall for: a man with goals, nerdy, emotionally available (p l e a s e, be…), chivalrous (yep, flowers, handwritten notes, thoughtful gestures, "saw this, thought of you", you name it. I just love being spoiled and taken care of. This is the kind of attention I thrive on, and I naturally do the same. It's just how I express interest). I’d be a lucky girl if you’re someone who takes initiative and has a strong presence, but is also thoughtful, attentive, and genuinely considerate of my desires and comfort. Hard-working, proactive, honest, loyal, brave, peaceful, and someone who is curious about my world and that shows up for himself (and for us), who is not afraid of intimacy and can also show his vulnerable side (the latter, of course, requiring me to provide you a safe space for that too). I’m also quite open-minded when it comes to intimacy. Physical connection matters a lot to me, but even more than sex, I enjoy eroticism, care, sensuality, feeling desired, and being appreciated as a person.

Physically, I tend to be attracted to taller men with a “teddy bear” appeal. However, I’ve also been extremely attracted to hand-sculpted, Michelangelo’s David sort of thing, so anything within that spectrum would be fine. Light skin (preference). My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch, and I fall (heavily) for acts of service.

Besides kindness, I need (and also offer) a particular dynamic of structure and spontaneity. I value transparent communication and benefit from honest conversations. “What does X mean for you?” “What do you expect us to be/do?” “What would you rather have me do?” I’d also respect your personal time, since I value it and need it to recharge. The idea of doing different things in the same room sounds awesome. I don’t expect you to fulfil all my relational needs (please, have hobbies, go out with friends, have a life); and I don’t play games: if I want to see you, I text. If I want to hug you, I do so. If I like you, I’d say so. Feeling safe with someone brings out the best and most open version of me. Reassurance matters to me.

Family: Want kids, Montessori; positive/negative reinforcement; a quiet home, lots of kisses, hugs, extracurriculars, arts and crafts, and outdoor adventures. I see myself eventually working part-time so I can really invest time in raising them into kind and happy tiny humans.

Practically: 30+, in Scotland or nearby, no kids (not yet ready for that responsibility). You're patient and flexible, but you also have your own structure and your life together. You can handle emotional intensity (direct conversations don't scare you, tears don't freak you out, questions like "what does X mean to you?" feel normal, not invasive), and you do your best to be a good human.
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Where am I in life: I’m in a life phase where I’m done with the “trying hard to prove” stage and am currently slowing down, investing in building myself and my friendships, learning about emotional regulation, practising my communication skills, oversimplifying my life choices, and being more social while enjoying the little things. Hopefully, we are on the same page on this. I’ve also recently learned that most of my struggles are explained by some autistic/high-functioning ADHD traits. If AuDHD sounds heavy, I won’t judge you. It took me a lot of work to embrace it. However, this realisation has made me treat myself with plenty of kindness and has forced me to get extra neuroscience-y about life (the good news is that you get the same kindness, tools, and infodumping for yourself :) ). It has also made me realise that I need someone understanding too. I’m always trying to grow and do better, but I do best with patience and care.

I’m looking for a romantic relationship. Bad news is that I’m leaving the country in 9-10 months (“Then what’s the point?”) Fair question. But I don’t think the only meaningful things are the ones guaranteed to last forever. And I also don’t think “casual” and “careless” should be treated the same, and I’m not looking for something careless. I’m looking for something real, steady and respectful. I think two people can connect, build something honest and romantic, and, if it feels worth it, figure out together what comes next. And if not, maybe we still leave each other better than we found each other.

Truth is, this superwoman sometimes also wants to play damsel, not because I can't save myself, but because I love the feeling of you wanting to be my hero. (And trust me, you'll get the same from me when you need it.) If I had to sum it up, I’d say that I’m looking for: 1) steady presence and emotional safety, 2) willingness to meet each other halfway, and 3) when beating the inside and outside monsters, running to each other (not from each other), even if we are not sure about what to do — this is really important for me. If you made it to this point, thank you for your time! :) Here is an extra “hint” to my inner world, which I’d be honoured to share: https://canva.link/pxqbbw4ncx36j1q . There you'll see some of my favourite playlists, books, etc. There are also some photos of me (not of my face, however, since I don’t feel comfortable showing that much), but I’d be glad to share them early on.

Ok, now what? If you deeply feel like this resonates with you and where you are in life, send me a text! But please, tell me more about yourself. I get a bit overwhelmed by too much texting, so I’d probably only end up replying to the more intentional ones. I’d rather meet soon and get a sense in the first week of whether there’s chemistry, and if so, keep talking and let it unfold as a slow burn. I don’t like wasting people’s time, and if we don’t connect, I’ll be honest after our first meet so we can both move on.

So, I guess it's a wrap! : )

P.S1. Thanks, algorithm!
P.S2. And if this somehow didn’t leave you with a headache, there’s a longer version [yes, even longer, dude, I know, I know] over on r/GBr4r.