u/ApartmentLeather5914

Okay guys, I need to share this because I’m so obsessed. I have this subbie who is honestly so good at making me feel in charge, it’s insane. I’m not prominently into findom, but being able to soft dom him is amazing.

The crazy thing is we started off with just a normal conversation. Somehow it steered to him wanting feet pics and me draining him. Since I’m a soft domme, I ordered slow and steady, and honestly? The power trip is getting to me! I just love how my feet get praised. :0

Okay look, I’ve had weeks where my DMs were a total ghost town. It’s frustrating, but staying consistent was the only thing that turned it around for me. I wanted to put together a little "starter pack" of tips for anyone struggling or just starting out:

Variety is KEY: Even if you specialize in one thing (like feet), keep it fresh! Switch between soles, toe spreading, or whatever you’re comfortable with. Buyers love seeing different angles and styles.

Post Daily (but vary the time :3 ): Your buyers are all over the world. If you only post at 6 PM your time, you're missing an entire hemisphere. Changing your posting schedule helps you hit different time zones and get fresh eyes on your content.

Embrace the "Dead Days": I know it sounds cringey, but seriously , don’t give up. You’ll have days where you get crazy traction and days where you get zero. It’s part of the game. Don't let a slow Tuesday discourage you.

Diversify Your Platforms: I use three main spots: FeetFinder, X (Twitter), and Reddit.

Twitter: Purely for promotion. I don’t answer DMs there because it’s 90% scammers for me.

FeetFinder: My favorite for security. It’s a "one-stop shop" for posting, messaging, and payouts, which makes it way more convenient.

Reddit: This is great for organic growth. I’ve had more buyers approach me here than anywhere else. Plus, it's the best place to "stalk" buyer profiles or look at other sellers for inspiration and content ideas.

Money First, Content Second: Never send anything until at least half the payment is in your account. You are the boss and you set the rules. I personally love the "half now, half later" method with new clients , it builds mutual trust without leaving you vulnerable.

Avoid the "Spoil Me" Trap: This is just my personal rule, but I never DM buyers who post "DM to be spoiled" or "Looking for a sugar baby." On Reddit, these are almost always scams. Interestingly, I feel a bit more comfortable reaching out to buyers on FeetFinder than here, but trust your gut.

I know this is a bit long and you've probably heard some of this before, but I just wanted to add my two cents! We all start somewhere. Good luck out there! :p

TL;DR:

Consistency: Post daily at different times to hit all time zones.

Variety: Don't just do one pose; keep buyers interested.

Safety: Use FeetFinder for secure payouts and beware of "DM to spoil" scams.

Business: You’re the boss , always get paid (at least half) upfront!